Nervous about giving in my resignation at work

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Hello after some advice. Been at my current job for 6 years and I recently applied for another job and have been offered the new job. Have to give in my resignation on Monday as new job are awaiting references which is fine no problem there.
However I’m not sure how my boss will take it as they are short of staff there so not sure how to answer her questions on why I am leaving and also not sure how my work colleague that I work with directly will handle this either.
I do have annual leave leftover which I may ask if I can use it on top of my notice period (1 month) but I guess what I am really anxious about is my boss being awkward with me and so many questions off other work colleagues.
AIBU to be overthinking this?

It's your life you're entitled to move on to pastures new. Congrats on the new job!

Keep it simple. Something like "I saw a new job that offered me new opportunities. I wish you all the best. I am happy to help train up any replacement if you would like me to during my notice period" or whatever would be appropriate for you.

You can't control how your boss reacts so just stay polite and professional and remember in a few weeks you will be out of there either way!

My boss is in after I get in on Monday so should I mention to my work colleague that I work with directly first or wait to speak to my boss first

It’s really not your problem. Say as little or as much as you’re comfortable with, how they take it is on them. If you like them offer to facilitate the transition to whoever replaces you but don’t overthink it.

Speak to your manager first.

You are quite entitled to leave your job - for whatever reason!

Definitely talk to your boss first.
Everyone has the right to resign, and this is your time, so go for it!

Presumably you are moving for more of a challenge, better pay or conditions, or more suitable working arrangements or career development. It's fine, you are allowed to move on without it being an argument or anything being wrong.
Just tell your manager clearly, and let them know what your last working day will be. Put something in writing immediately after you've told the manager so that there is no doubt or ambivalence. You could state how many days leave you are entitled to and whether you will be taking them during the notice period.
Then you can tell colleagues.

Would it be unreasonable to ask my boss if I can have my annual leave taken as part of my notice period of 1 month? I have 21 days left and originally booked 1 week off next month (so it falls down to 16 days) which is the week I start at new job.

It probably depends when your leave year ends and whether or not you remain entitled to them.

It is a bit horrible doing it, she'll probably be pissed off, even good people internally will jump in their heads to all the things they need to do when someone leaves and gaps that have immediately presented themselves, not least the idea that everyone else might jump ship! But probably she'll just give you the cold shoulder and you just get on with your last month. They'll have to pay you the leave they don't have to give it to you to take the time off

Don't forget you have to pro-rata your leave, so if the year just reset and you have 24 days that's 2 days pro rata a month you're not entitled to 24 unless you work the whole year so could end up out of pocket as they'd claim any extra back unpaid

Why do you care so much? You’re just a number, if they needed to get rid of you they wouldn’t think twice about it. It’s just a job. They have to deal with it, people come and go. Everybody leaves eventually

Just wondering if it’s better to resign in person or by email seeing as I have another job lined up and I won’t be there for that long anyway also if I resign by email would I be given a not as good reference if I resigned in person

I wrote out a letter and booked a brief, face to face meeting with my manager and handed it to her. I vaguely put something like, 'I've really enjoyed working here blah blah, but this is my notice of leaving (or something like that). As per my contract, I am providing 30days notice of my resignation and my last working day will be Tue 8th May.'

That was pre-covid, when alot less was online. Maybe an email is suitable nowadays, but others can advise.

You're overthinking this. Just speak to your manager on Monday morning, tell him/her you'll be handing in your notice as you've accepted another job offer. Then follow it up by email to your manager and HR.

You should tell them in person and then follow that up with written notice. And how can you have 21 days of annual leave left to squeeze in?

Do you have the job confirmed? In my sector you have an informal offer then once references are OK and you receive your formal offer, that's the point your hand your notice in.

I have 21 days left of annual leave for the rest of the year but was unsure how or if they could let me use some of this annual leave

Resign in person
follow up with an email confirming your last day according to your contract and copy in HR
just say you’re moving jobs for a diff challenge and you’ve enjoyed the last six years
of course you’ll leave a handover for your replacement
keep it brief and professional

Your leave will be pro rated as you’re leaving part way through the year

I get why you’re nervous but as another poster has said, you’re overthinking it. You are entitled to leave and the concern about leaving them short staffed or how your colleagues will cope is, TBH, not your problem. Do it in person if practical, if your boss isn’t available and you have to do it asap to start references/notice period then I think it’s acceptable to email, offering to discuss in person when they’re available but make clear your notice takes effect from sending of the email. Cc HR too. Good luck and well done on getting new job!

It’s really unlikely you will get your full entitlement as you are leaving so won’t be entitled to it…

You won’t get a full years leave if leaving in April / May. How much you get will depend on you holiday year (whether calendar year or tax year).

Yes job is confirmed, job offer is signed (email) they just waiting for references then they will send over my contract