Nervous about giving in my resignation at work

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Hello after some advice. Been at my current job for 6 years and I recently applied for another job and have been offered the new job. Have to give in my resignation on Monday as new job are awaiting references which is fine no problem there.
However I’m not sure how my boss will take it as they are short of staff there so not sure how to answer her questions on why I am leaving and also not sure how my work colleague that I work with directly will handle this either.
I do have annual leave leftover which I may ask if I can use it on top of my notice period (1 month) but I guess what I am really anxious about is my boss being awkward with me and so many questions off other work colleagues.
AIBU to be overthinking this?

Yes annual leave they’ll pro rata what you have left v how long left in annual leave year. Then usually leavers are given choice whether to take it or be paid for it. Though if they’re really short staffed may not get option to take (you’ll still be paid for it though, can see it as a nice little extra bonus)

You don't need to be nervous about handing in your notice from the point of view of what they'll think. The thing to care about is if you have a firm offer and it's the right time to resign. If your references haven't been called for and you don't have an offer letter / contract, you're not ready to say anything other than please will you be my referee.

My annual leave renews in April and I left my last job in May which meant that I got to use about 2 days of AL. Obviously you can’t use all of it as AL is part of your pay.

Just to say when I hand over my resignation and references are in, they will send over my contract to read and sign electronically the email said

Absolutely nothing is guaranteed though, they can change their mind any time before you sign that contract

Just hand notice in. I did this last week. Worked there for 7 years. Manager didn’t ask why I was leaving. Just told me she would calculate my annual leave which I’ve taken as part of my four weeks notice. Made me feel undervalued tbh and confirmed why I’m better off in new job :)

Stop stressing OP. Inform your manager, then send the formal email with your end date on. Also ask about AL to get payroll to figure out any entitlement left.

That's literally all you need to do.

To be fair, they can change their mind even after you've signed the contract. Plenty of threads on here about people whose job offers were withdrawn at the last minute. The general consensus is that the most you'd be entitled to is paid notice. So whether you've signed a contract or not is by the by really.

It’s obvious it’s more secure after being given a contract and signing it though.

DO NOT under any circumstances give notice to your current job without a signed job offer! You've been offered the job but without a signed contract that means absolutely nothing.

When I left my last job, my vile line manager was fine about it but the overall boss - who I'd been really friendly with - was horrible and didn't talk to me for my 2 month notice period. Which hurt a bit but in the grand scheme of things was just silly. I was going anyway.

They told me to either accept or not accept the job offer and once references are done they will send me my contract to sign (all email done)
Just to add they did send me over my job contract to read through it but are awaiting on references for me to sign the contract

But you won't have that much left if you're leaving next month.

I'd wait until contract signed to put notice in.

So don't resign yet.

Once I send through references they will send me a email through to confirm all the checks have been done and references filled in and then a contract to sign off

so you’ve not given them a list of references yet?

I accepted the job offer then they sent through the background checks for me to fill in including references which is what they waiting on Tom before they send over my contract for me to sign

Oh my god, that's all a chain of events that haven't happened. I'm sure they will, but you resign after they receive references and everything is signed.

But do what you like. You seem to think you're providing your own references...

No because my boss has been away and after explaining this to them they told me to wait till Monday and resign before putting in references

Then I refer you to my earlier post - the only conversation to have with your boss for now is please will you be my referee?

You can put in references on Monday and not formally hand in your notice until you’ve signed a contract, your start date at the new job will just be later

It's pretty standard for companies to wait until they have references before issuing a contract. As long as you have an offer in writing, it's fine. And yes, your leave will be pro rated, but you may not be able to take it as part of your notice if you have a lot to hand over. It's discretionary, as with any leave. You'll be paid for it if you don't take it.

Yes I have a offer in writing

And no doubt the offer letter contains wording along the lines of "This offer is subject to acceptable references"?