AIBU to take child with chicken pox to an outside event today?

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Husband has one opinion and I have another. WWYD?

Day 5 of chicken pox for oldest child.
I have 2 other younger children with no signs as yet. But neither have had in the past so probably will get it.

Some scabs starting to form but also still some fresh spots.

Today is booked to go to an outside running event (for kids) this afternoon and we have paid £60 total for this with all children. It was booked mainly for the oldest one who loves to run, but the younger ones will also come and enjoy so I had to buy tickets for all. Outside run with parents, refreshments, few little stalls etc.

Unfortunately oldest one knows about event and has been excited all week - told him about it 2 days before CP started so didn't know to withhold the info.

Would you still take him? Planning on going just for the run, will try to avoid being too close to others. Don't know any other children / parents going so not going to be "chit chatting". Won't go to the stalls / mix and mingle. Will do run then leave.

Husband has one opinion and I have another. WWYD?

Thats very unlikely once let alone twice. Not buying it.

OP says

Some scabs starting to form but also still some fresh spots

so not okay.

No of course you can’t go if not all spots are scabbed and younger kids incubating most likely. If I was there with my immunocompromised child I’d be livid- and what about any pregnant mums there?!? 60 quid or not it’s just tough- that’s life unfortunately. Please don’t be that parent

Honestly, are you unaware of how chicken pox can be very serious and life threatening for some people.
My immunosuppressed DH was hospitalised with it.

Ok I will let the doctors know that they misdiagnosed my child and the antibiotics they needed were just a waste 😆 If she gets chickenpox again I will let you know so you can decide her treatment 🤡

I caught chicken pox at around d this time of year from a small child whose parents had the same attitude as you. I was 18, and was briefly hospitalised because of the severity of it. It screwed up my A-levels because by the time I recovered I’d lost four months of revision and prep so I didn’t get into my Russell group university. Selfish and stupid behaviour by two people had a lasting impact on my life. You should be ashamed of yourself.

It is not a load of rubbish.

I was there, you were not. I saw the The little girl declining, she was in the bed next to my godson, we heard everything the doctors were saying. We talked..

It was a life changing experience for all of us and we remained close for awhile afterwards, but sadly lost touch.

I don't give a flying fig with you believe me or not. But that's what happened.

Oh don’t start talking common sense.

OP you obviously haven’t been on mumsnet much as the hysteria over chicken pox is bizarre and something I’ve never experienced in real life. But equally even I would say the answer to your question is clearly no.

No, don't go.

Well, maybe you should go and tell the consultants in the hospital that they are wrong. That the immunisation isn't why the pox turned inward and attacked her body causing all those things to happen to her tiny little body.

Scientifically impossible though 🤣

Or maybe you could accept that you misunderstood. That poster is right, it’s not possible. Maybe you were overcome with the emotion of it all at the time.

It is not and don't be so fucking rude.

That little girl absolutely broke my heart watching her go downhill in hospital and her lovely mum who is also a nurse feeling so guilty and so responsible, feeling like she caused her daughter this harm when all she had done was try to protect her by getting a vaccine.

Cross post, see above. I think I probably hit the nail on the head with the emotional angle.

I hope the kid is well now but her illness could not have been what you described. Or are you an anti vaxxer trying to scare people?

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Yes, if you are someone who doesn't develop immunity from having it once, it's not at all unlikely that it would make you very ill twice.

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because she had had the chickenpox vaccination, when she was exposed to chickenpox she had still picked it up and it had gone internal and still external because her body was fighting off it going external due to the vaccination.

I suspect something has been lost in translation or gotten confused along the way. There is absolutely no scientific explanation by which that could make sense, or even be determined. There might be some scenario in which she was particularly sensitive to the virus and having natural exposure plus the vaccine simultaneously overwhelmed her immune system and she had a very severe reaction.

Not until they are all scabbed over

I would have got the vaccine for my kids if I had known what a pain in the arse chicken pox would be. Considering we don’t vaccinate specifically with the goal to spread immunity naturally, I don’t really get why it isn’t a free for all.

I know there's been enough answers but don't ho, not only because your child is infectious, but also he needs to rest

Jesus wept - no. It’s madness that the vacinne isn’t available on the nhs.

My 9 year old son is 6 months in remission from cancer and is just getting revaccinated again as chemotherapy wiped out his immune system including his immunity to vaccinations he received as a baby and toddler.

He's finally just about getting his life back. I would've been furious if he was exposed to chicken pox due to selfish parents.

Absolutely not it would be irresponsible.

Huge risk to pregnant women who have not had chicken pox. Unborn baby can become very disabled or die, don’t go.

Kindly, you do realise that anecdote doesn't equal data.

CP can be extremely nasty, deadly for some. The vaccine MOSTLY prevents these catastrophic outcomes.

As laymen, all we can do is trust the science.

Yes. I am aware. I have an immunosuppressed child.