AIBU to take child with chicken pox to an outside event today?

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Husband has one opinion and I have another. WWYD?

Day 5 of chicken pox for oldest child.
I have 2 other younger children with no signs as yet. But neither have had in the past so probably will get it.

Some scabs starting to form but also still some fresh spots.

Today is booked to go to an outside running event (for kids) this afternoon and we have paid £60 total for this with all children. It was booked mainly for the oldest one who loves to run, but the younger ones will also come and enjoy so I had to buy tickets for all. Outside run with parents, refreshments, few little stalls etc.

Unfortunately oldest one knows about event and has been excited all week - told him about it 2 days before CP started so didn't know to withhold the info.

Would you still take him? Planning on going just for the run, will try to avoid being too close to others. Don't know any other children / parents going so not going to be "chit chatting". Won't go to the stalls / mix and mingle. Will do run then leave.

Husband has one opinion and I have another. WWYD?

OP, I think you should make sure your DH sees @BrickSeal’s post.

Ask him how he’d have felt if some selfish bastard had taken their child out to an event where you’d been while you were pregnant, just because they didn’t want to stay in all weekend or deal with upset children.

Or is it ok so long as he’s not having to deal with any of his loved ones ending up in intensive care? Because if that’s the case, then he has something seriously broken in his brain.

I believe they were going to addCP to the vaccination schedule a few years ago, then Covid happened and the public faith in vaccination diminished

On the flip side of that I asked my GP about vaccinating my youngest as wasn’t a standard vaccine. She said she’d vaccinated all her children and advised her siblings to do the same. So I took her advice

One of you takes the younger children and the other stays home with eldest, watch a film or play a board game.

He did not catch shingles.

No, absolutely NOT! They are probably infectious. You clearly don't know much about chicken pox.

If you had seen the state of my husband, you wouldn't be so glib about it. He lay in agony in a darkened room for at least a week - he was so so sick and had the lesions all over his body including his penis and the soles of his feet. I had an 11 week old baby (who also got it, but a very mild version) and a toddler who caught it first.

Have a bit of bloody common sense!

Why were the hospitalised?

Erm, the clue is in the PP's post!!

She was "extremely ill"???

So, at a busy event with children running and running around, you’re not going to stand close to anyone, go to any stalls, won’t chat to anyone…yes, that should work 🙄

You can get vaccinated privately but I agree, most won’t have done it and it’s most unfair to put others at risk.

It’s also quite dangerous for men who didn’t have it as a child, as well as pregnant women/unborn babies.

If there's new spots and they're not scabbed over then definitely no.

Agree with this but lots of people don’t know you can vaccinate or think it’s strange to do so in the UK. One of my DD’s had it mildly at 11 months. By the time I realised what it was she was kind of over it. Didn’t give it much thought but then she got it again when age was 7 and gave it to her 5 month old sister and 3 year old brother. It was absolutely horrendous. It was only then and thanks to googling symptoms that I realised I could have paid and avoided the whole horrible event. Which I definitely would have had I known. Even people on budgets waste money on plastic toys etc. The cost of chicken pox vaccine is doable for most. When I’ve mentioned it at playgroups etc most mums don’t seem bothered though.

Day 5 if it’s scabing it’s absolutely fine . I would go

They can get vaccinated against chicken pox now in this country, (other countries have been vaccinating longer ) at this moment only privately but I think it’s coming to the NHS later this year.

It’s on the nhs site scabing spots are not contagious , normally ok form day 5 . Your younger ones might be .

£150 to most normal people is a lot of money that many people cannot spare. Even if they have multiple children. If you think £150 is cheap then you clearly are not short of money and have absolutely no idea what it is like to be short of money

Totally different situation

Yes, that's my point. For the generation that falls between the vaccinated generation and those of the age to get the shingles vaccine, there might be an uptick (although countries where the varicella vaxx has been introduced as routine don't seem to have experienced that expected uptick). They could also reduce the age of the shingles vaxx to cover those people who would fall into that gap.

Overall, it would pay for itself pretty quickly when you add up resources going into kids with chicken pox, adults with shingles, missed work, etc.

And you can get the shingles vaxx privately at a younger age, but it is expensive.

No, you definitely don’t take a child with active chicken pox but I am not surprised that you are asking. Lots of people are selfish and just don’t care.
I used to work in a retail type role and we would get people ringing up asking if they could bring their children with active chicken pox into my workplace 🙄. I would also say no because my DH was immunosuppressed and when he did catch chicken pox ended up in hospital. Some people are just really selfish.

Altogether general consensus is reassuringly ' absolutely don't go ', am amazed to see a few Typhoid Mary's happy to allow a sick child with a highly contagious disease transmitted by touch and respiratory droplets take part in a public race.

Nonsense. You wouldn’t know my kid was vaccinated unless you asked. Lots of people use private healthcare in the UK as you put it.

You can’t get an appointment at boots near me at the beginning of flu season as people pay for vaccinations. My siblings and cousins all vaccinated their kids for chickenpox except one.

Also if you’re a family where both parents have had it, then actually, whilst unpleasant for a few days, it’s not actually necessary.

Both of mine had it last year, one worse than the other but they were both under 3, the risk of complications was slim and me and DP have both had it and the worst of it was 2-3 days long. In those circumstances I think it would’ve been a waste of £300 tbh.

My friend on the other hand hadn’t had it (her mum thought she had but forgot she actually hadn’t), caught it off her kids and was incredibly unwell for a long time - if she’d realised she hadn’t had it she would’ve got them both vaccinated immediately.

Wrong 🤣

My comment is regarding the decision to have a third child before sorting out your first. I don’t need to be rich to do that.

Because chickenpox can make some people extremely ill. She ended up with an ear, throat, chest, and lung infection.

Extremely ill twice with chicken pox is hard to believe. Hence I have challenged it.