To feed DP these beans?

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He's one of those ridiculous people who thinks dates on food are the law.

I'm not slapdash with fresh food, I would't use out of date meat or fish, but I also hate waste and generally live by best before is a guide and if it looks and smells OK it's OK to eat.

He doesn't live here but I offered him beans on toast as a quick meal between outings. The tin I found was dated 2021. Obviously my stock rotation has failed, it's not something I eat often.

He was horrified at the idea so he had something else. I've since bought new beans, but I'm not throwing the old ones out, tinned food literally lasts forever.

They'll get used eventually, either by me or an adult DC, but would it be very unreasonable to just give them to him next time without letting him know they're the old ones?

Obviously if they don't look right once the tin is open, I won't use them, but they will....

How would you feel if he fed you something you weren’t comfortable eating?

It's a tin of beans. Unless you're on the breadline just bin it.

Are you trying to make a point to your husband? To be able to say I told you so when he eats it and is fine?

don;t understand why you'd eat them or feed them to your children, but not your partner,

No, I wouldn't tell him. I might tell him if I ate them and lived, to make the point

Because he's said he's not happy to eat them

I thought you were going to say they were a couple of months out of date, not 4 years! Bin them. Weird behaviour.

It'snot about mcost, but waste. They definitely won't be wasted, why would you throw away perfectly good food? Wartime tinned food is still edible 😆

What point? That you didn’t listen to him and just went ahead and gave them to him regardless?

Weird.

That they're fine to eat.

If you are against waste and are not bothered about the date I would just eat them yourself when you fancy them. I don’t think it’s fair that he’s mentioned he wouldn’t be happy eating them for you to trick him to prove a point..

Never tell a man the best before date of anything . They take them literally 😬

So your husband doesn't eat out of date food, and you've found a tin 4 years out of date and you want to feed it to him. Simply because he said he doesn't eat out of date food.

Pathetic and childish

Don't be a dick. You know he doesn't want to eat them and you said yourself that they'll get eaten at some point by someone in your household.

That’s a horrible violating thing to do

As do plenty of women. The evidence for this appears pretty much every day on MN.

So?

If you didn’t want to eat something and he fed it to you anyway, would you just shrug and be fine with it?

Wow, its a tin of beans- just bin it!

Get a grip. No don't feed them to him to make a silly little point. Eat them yourself or just bin them.

Life's too short for such petty behaviour.

Its a bit pathetic of him, but it's fine, they won't go to waste! I'd probably wind him up a bit and ask him 1) what he thought would happen to him, and 2) When it would have been "safe" to eat them vs "not safe". Some tinned food has just a month bbe, not a specific date of the month, so was it anytime from 1st April it suddenly became deadly or was he safe until 30th?

One more thing: is he a Friday night dinner fan and traumatised by Martin and his tinned meat...

We’ve got an M&S salted caramel cheesecake for pudding later. Use by…yesterday. I’ve never seen a man so conflicted.

If there is any break in the seal of the tin you can get botulism, long shot but in the world we live in today, I would not be shocked.

If you would be happy with paralysis that spreads down the body from head to foot then go ahead and eat your 4 year old tin of beans. Its a bit different for something being a few days out of date.

It is his choice if he chooses to go by the date on the packet, and like my DH, he sounds like he doesn't give it much grace. But I certainly wouldn't trick him.

DH put some little bit shrivelled tomatoes into the compost bucket once. In front of him, I took them out, washed them and served them to him and told him he had been served worse over the years.

Four year old beans would mean nothing in my house.

Do you also slip ham in a vegetarian's sandwich and cook a vegan's roast potatoes in lard?

Your DH has said he doesn't want to eat them, so respect that. He gets to choose what he eats and what he doesn't. You don't have the right to disregard his choices for his own body.

TBH I'd just chuck out something 4 years out of date which costs less than 50p to replace. I'm all for a bit of flexibility on use by dates, but four years past they're not going to be at their best.

You know he doesn't want to eat them.

You sneak them to him anyway.

Then you tell him he ate what he said he didn't want to eat.

Great way to build trust and respect in your relationship. 🙄

What would your reaction be if he binned all your out of date food behind your back, because he doesn't agree with keeping it past the best before date? If you think that would be controlling and unreasonable then you shouldn't do the equivalent by tricking him into eating something out of date that you know he doesn't want.