Page 9 | Blue badge police again

Rainburstflowers · 2025-04-11T08:00:23+00:00

Name changes for this as I do every so often. I have blue badge but my disability is not visible. For the 3rs time in 2 weeks I have been challenged about not looking disabled and I am fed up of explaining myself yesterday got out the car and this man came charging towards me shouting “oi you don’t have a blue badge”. I sighed and said “yes I do”. He then said “where did you nick that from?” I said “I didn’t nick it from anyone I got it off eBay” He then looked at me and said “oh right and walked off” as if that was then ok!!!! or it could be my built like a brick shithouse husband opened his door and got out the drivers seat. I know I should not have said the eBay comment but I am fed up of explaining myself. if anyone has any good comebacks please let me know

Izzy54321 · 11/04/2025 14:31

I’ve had this a lot I don’t look disabled enough for some people. Funny thing is I’ve only ever been approached by older men never women or younger people. I always tell them to bugger off and mind their own business. I don’t need to explain myself to strangers.

springbringshope · 11/04/2025 14:31

Showerflowers · 11/04/2025 09:43

out for the day with my son and dil a few years back. DIL Pulled into a disabled parking space and put my blue badge up. Then she got out with my son to unload my wheelchair ready for me to get out the back. Before she’d even got to the boot we had a blue badge police person shouting at her. Now DIL was in her gym gear but I don’t think anyone should approach anyone. Anyway before DIL could explain that I’m the disabled person my son decides to burst into song opera style and attempted to do the splits for this person.

they slowly slunk away from my strange son lol.

Perfect. Either hit them with sarcasm or hit them with weirdness. I prefer weirdness but I rarely have the courage and confidence your son has!

Pandimoanymum · 11/04/2025 14:33

Fraaances · 11/04/2025 09:16

I have heart failure and can barely walk 20 metres. I’m in my early 50’s and have had people demanding that I “explain myself” more often than not. I live in Australia, and recently had someone try and restrain me while they called the police. I hopped in the front seat and they blocked my car. Luckily the police were in the shopping centre and arrived very quickly. The police pointedly DIDN’T ask about my condition at all. I only had to show my licence which proved that the permit was in my name and the police asked me if I would like to press charges. I asked the police to give him a good talking to in front of me, (for maximum humiliation) to explain to him WHY restraining a lone woman is so fucking terrifying and let him know exactly how many laws he had broken and the potential consequences whilst I decided what I would like to do. There was a small crowd gathered by this time (some with their phones out.) He kept repeating “But she’s obviously not disabled!” I then said “Tell that to the doctors on my heart transplant team.”
SILENCE

OMG I love this.
You are awesome. The satisfaction must have been off the scale. Hopefully it's the last time he harrasses a disabled person about their badge, absolute twat.

Sodthesystem · 11/04/2025 14:49

I'd just pat myself down and go 'Im cured! It's a miracle! Gods praise you my man! You must have healed me with the inspired words, pulled from your arse no less! You have-the gift!'

Newyeargymwanker · 11/04/2025 15:06

Look on the bright side - you could look disabled and have people avoiding you at all costs like they do my daughter.

id give my eye teeth for your problem.

TimeFliesin20246 · 11/04/2025 15:12

Newyeargymwanker · 11/04/2025 15:06

Look on the bright side - you could look disabled and have people avoiding you at all costs like they do my daughter.

id give my eye teeth for your problem.

It's not a competition. The way your daughter is treated is not okay, but that doesn't make it okay for people to harass the OP about her disability either.

It doesn't have to be a race to the bottom. Resentment doesn't do anyone any good.

SalfordQuays · 11/04/2025 15:16

Tessasanderson · 11/04/2025 09:44

I can never understand blue badge holders moaning about this. Can they not see that the person doing the asking is trying to protect the blue badge holders right to that space?

In the current society there are not many people who will actually put themselves out for whats right and wrong. See someone getting beaten up, turn away. See someone stealing, turn away. See someone parking in a disabled space to protect their Range Rover, turn away.

So once in a while they get it wrong and ask someone with a not obvious disability if they are genuine. Is that such a hardship for someone actually having some social concerns?

Or maybe they just start to wonder if its worth it, ignore it all and let blue badge holders cry about lack of parking in future because no one gives a stuff.

@Tessasanderson I agree. I’m not disabled myself so it doesn’t matter to me if the disabled spaces are all full. On several occasions I’ve asked people skipping out of their cars (with no visible blue badge) why they’re using a disabled space. I usually get told to fuck off. I don’t think I’ll bother from now on. I’ll leave the people with blue badges to fight their own battles. I’ll mind my own business!

RejoiceandSing · 11/04/2025 15:17

SalfordQuays · 11/04/2025 15:16

@Tessasanderson I agree. I’m not disabled myself so it doesn’t matter to me if the disabled spaces are all full. On several occasions I’ve asked people skipping out of their cars (with no visible blue badge) why they’re using a disabled space. I usually get told to fuck off. I don’t think I’ll bother from now on. I’ll leave the people with blue badges to fight their own battles. I’ll mind my own business!

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Have you actually read the thread? This is about people who are already displaying blue badges getting threatened and harrassed. It's not about people who aren't displaying a blue badge!

LadyKenya · 11/04/2025 15:20

SalfordQuays · 11/04/2025 15:16

@Tessasanderson I agree. I’m not disabled myself so it doesn’t matter to me if the disabled spaces are all full. On several occasions I’ve asked people skipping out of their cars (with no visible blue badge) why they’re using a disabled space. I usually get told to fuck off. I don’t think I’ll bother from now on. I’ll leave the people with blue badges to fight their own battles. I’ll mind my own business!

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Please do, seeing as you have achieved nothing anyway, other than to receive a mouthful of abuse from people you have challenged.

AthWat · 11/04/2025 15:40

LadyKenya · 11/04/2025 14:00

OK, sure🙄.

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Believe it or don't, it's up to you. But if you don't think it happens, you're wrong.

Newyeargymwanker · 11/04/2025 15:41

TimeFliesin20246 · 11/04/2025 15:12

It's not a competition. The way your daughter is treated is not okay, but that doesn't make it okay for people to harass the OP about her disability either.

It doesn't have to be a race to the bottom. Resentment doesn't do anyone any good.

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It’s not resentment - it’s sadness

RobBeckettsUnderpants · 11/04/2025 15:42

JudgeJ · 11/04/2025 14:29

Why answer them at all? The most annoying thing for this sort of person is to be ignored, passive aggression is always the best, let them rant and rave, it gets them into such a state!

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There's a real risk in doing this. Several posters here, including the one right after you, have said its always men who approach them when theyre alone. The OP even says the bloke confronting her backed off as soon as he saw her husband.

I've only ever been challenged by men and only when I'm on my own. As a vulnerable person I don't want to deliberately rile anyone up.

The last time it happened and I was told I "didn't look disabled" I gave them a big smile, said "Thank you!" and carried on with what i was doing. They were too confused to continue or shout after me. But I know that even that could have set the wrong person off. I'd always advise people to judge each situation accordingly.

Canonlythinkofthisone · 11/04/2025 15:43

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 11/04/2025 09:10

Tell those people to fuck off and mind their own business.
It literally is nothing to do with them. You know you're entitled to park there, and you are. It's down to whoever enforces the rules to pull you up on it if necessary.
We once parked in a parent and child parking spot and got pulled up on it. A man loudly and passively aggressively said to his wife "I thought these spots were just for people with children" he obviously assumed we didn't have any because we were in a work van. I revealed my newborn DD tucked up in a moby wrap inside my coat and said "here's my baby actually, so mind your own business next time" but he just walked off and pretended not to hear. I was sleep deprived and passed off so I shouted "excuse me... hello" hut he continued to just ignore
Prick.

Anyway, as I said. Tell them to fuck off. Don't just ignore them. Tell them in no uncertain terms to get to fuck. How dare they impose their stupid self rightous judgement on someone they know nothing about.

So you travelled in a van with your child on you?
Weird flex but ok

OP, my dad's best one is just "you don't look like a wan**r either but here we are"

KP93 · 11/04/2025 15:43

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 11/04/2025 09:10

Tell those people to fuck off and mind their own business.
It literally is nothing to do with them. You know you're entitled to park there, and you are. It's down to whoever enforces the rules to pull you up on it if necessary.
We once parked in a parent and child parking spot and got pulled up on it. A man loudly and passively aggressively said to his wife "I thought these spots were just for people with children" he obviously assumed we didn't have any because we were in a work van. I revealed my newborn DD tucked up in a moby wrap inside my coat and said "here's my baby actually, so mind your own business next time" but he just walked off and pretended not to hear. I was sleep deprived and passed off so I shouted "excuse me... hello" hut he continued to just ignore
Prick.

Anyway, as I said. Tell them to fuck off. Don't just ignore them. Tell them in no uncertain terms to get to fuck. How dare they impose their stupid self rightous judgement on someone they know nothing about.

To be fair I’m all for people without children being challenged.

Obviously you had a child but there are a lot of people that don’t!

Appletree21 · 11/04/2025 15:47

Megifer · 11/04/2025 10:00

"Can they not see that the person doing the asking is trying to protect the blue badge holders right to that space?"

This is pretty naive tbh. They are doing no such thing. They are suggesting people are only entitled to a BB if they are crunched over with a leg hanging off etc.

I mean, of course if they were truly being thoughtful, they'd already be fully aware not all disabilities are visible.

Exactly this.

It's pure misplaced jealousy. At least in the case of my ex-husband it was.

He would love a parking space nearby. He just can't comprehend that it's rather an entitled thing to want.

And - in fact - once you are disabled isn't it just amazing you get something small like parking going your way. It's a tiny compensation for the heavy burden of your disability.

TimeFliesin20246 · 11/04/2025 15:48

Newyeargymwanker · 11/04/2025 15:41

It’s not resentment - it’s sadness

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Fair enough. I still don't think it's useful to the OP.

ThisFluentBiscuit · 11/04/2025 15:49

Liondoesntsleepatnight · 11/04/2025 10:12

It’s very difficult to get a Blue Badge, my Mum really had to battle to get hers and it’s a God send.

Next time say “thanks for checking, I’ve gone through the rigorous process to qualify for the Vadge, have a great day”.

don’t get me started on the people that stop in the bay as “they are just picking someone up”

That's the response that trans women say! 🤣🤣🤣

I'm sorry, I just couldn't resist that spelling error!

TimeFliesin20246 · 11/04/2025 15:50

Appletree21 · 11/04/2025 15:47

Exactly this.

It's pure misplaced jealousy. At least in the case of my ex-husband it was.

He would love a parking space nearby. He just can't comprehend that it's rather an entitled thing to want.

And - in fact - once you are disabled isn't it just amazing you get something small like parking going your way. It's a tiny compensation for the heavy burden of your disability.

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I actually cannot fathom being jealous that someone dealing with a disability has access to a slightly better parking space than you do. It wouldn't even cross my mind to feel that way. I might have trouble finding a spot to park, but I'm fully mobile and pain-free, and that's more important, right?

It's a really weird way to think!

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Rainburstflowers · 11/04/2025 16:00

Thanks for the replies. My day just gets better I was rung 2 hours ago to say there has been a cancellation and I could come into hospital for a week of tests to try and work out what triggers my seizures. Oh course it’s day my son breaks up from school and he is really upset. Been waiting for this for ages so I had to take it.

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Readingallthetime · 11/04/2025 16:15

Tessasanderson · 11/04/2025 09:44

I can never understand blue badge holders moaning about this. Can they not see that the person doing the asking is trying to protect the blue badge holders right to that space?

In the current society there are not many people who will actually put themselves out for whats right and wrong. See someone getting beaten up, turn away. See someone stealing, turn away. See someone parking in a disabled space to protect their Range Rover, turn away.

So once in a while they get it wrong and ask someone with a not obvious disability if they are genuine. Is that such a hardship for someone actually having some social concerns?

Or maybe they just start to wonder if its worth it, ignore it all and let blue badge holders cry about lack of parking in future because no one gives a stuff.

This is so wrong. What do you think it's like for my 11 year old son? Can you imagine how intimidating that is for him to have random people challenging us, and what that does for his self esteem having to sit there while I tell complete strangers that he has cerebral palsy and can't walk without assistance? Why the hell should he put up with that?

LadyKenya · 11/04/2025 16:20

Readingallthetime · 11/04/2025 16:15

This is so wrong. What do you think it's like for my 11 year old son? Can you imagine how intimidating that is for him to have random people challenging us, and what that does for his self esteem having to sit there while I tell complete strangers that he has cerebral palsy and can't walk without assistance? Why the hell should he put up with that?

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If you know it is upsetting your Son, don't explain. Just point to, or say you have a badge. Your Son should not have to put up with that. No one can make you explain.

Readingallthetime · 11/04/2025 16:21

LadyKenya · 11/04/2025 16:20

If you know it is upsetting your Son, don't explain. Just point to, or say you have a badge. Your Son should not have to put up with that. No one can make you explain.

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They shouldn't ask us in the first place. It is still unfair for him to hear it!

LadyKenya · 11/04/2025 16:25

Readingallthetime · 11/04/2025 16:21

They shouldn't ask us in the first place. It is still unfair for him to hear it!

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No they should not. If a BB is displayed, that is all the information that they need, and should be furnished with nothing more. It is none of their business. They will not think twice about the impact that it has on your Son, who is reaching an age, where he might be feeling more awareness about his disability, and how people react to him.

Readingallthetime · 11/04/2025 16:26

LadyKenya · 11/04/2025 16:25

No they should not. If a BB is displayed, that is all the information that they need, and should be furnished with nothing more. It is none of their business. They will not think twice about the impact that it has on your Son, who is reaching an age, where he might be feeling more awareness about his disability, and how people react to him.

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Thank you, exactly x

WalkingonWheels · 11/04/2025 16:36

I haven't RTFT yet but I will.
DH and I both have blue badges. Before I started using a wheelchair, I was screamed at, accused of being a fraud, had my car door slammed onto my leg, had my badge taken out of my car so he could check my photo then threw it on the floor, and was even assaulted once. This was all by men who were approximately over the age of 60 and members of the general public.

Now I'm a wheelchair user, I don't get that any more but DH, who isn't a wheelchair user and never has been, has never once been approached by anyone for not looking disabled enough to have a blue badge.

Says it all, really.

To the ableist who said they don't see the big deal, and we should be happy there are people who proclaim themselves as the BB police, no. Just no. After these incidents, the final straw was being assaulted in the Tesco car park because a man thought I'd stolen my blue badge. I was already ill with PTSD and panic disorder. I had a full on breakdown and I haven't left the house alone since 2017. I hope that helps you understand.