Page 16 | Blue badge police again

Rainburstflowers · 2025-04-11T08:00:23+00:00

Name changes for this as I do every so often. I have blue badge but my disability is not visible. For the 3rs time in 2 weeks I have been challenged about not looking disabled and I am fed up of explaining myself yesterday got out the car and this man came charging towards me shouting “oi you don’t have a blue badge”. I sighed and said “yes I do”. He then said “where did you nick that from?” I said “I didn’t nick it from anyone I got it off eBay” He then looked at me and said “oh right and walked off” as if that was then ok!!!! or it could be my built like a brick shithouse husband opened his door and got out the drivers seat. I know I should not have said the eBay comment but I am fed up of explaining myself. if anyone has any good comebacks please let me know

Ownedbykitties · 12/04/2025 21:19

NeverDropYourMooncup · 12/04/2025 19:28

I think this thread can be summarised as follows:

Non-disabled BBP: We're doing it to fight injustice

Disabled People: It's really unpleasant to be on the receiving end of it, please don't

Non-disabled BBP: We have A MORAL COMPASS you know

Disabled People: Just shove your moral compass up your arse

This is spot on!

lifeisgoodrightnow · 12/04/2025 21:21

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/04/2025 21:13

Oh I need the big SPECIAL hat... that will just finish off my outfit perfectly.

I have been known to say that I got my blue badge free in a cereal box in the past.

I think probably what needs to happen is that us raspberry ripples are only allowed out say two afternoons a week, are bussed to whatever location, carefully herded about by special stewards and that location is widely advertised so anyone else can avoid on those days.

That way we won't randomly inconvenience anyone and if its not a Special Crip Day, then its really obvious the person isn't disabled, but it won't matter as the disabled loos and parking spots can be used by the normals.

With the giant special hats on, anyone who has made the error of coming out on Crip day can swerve us from a long way away.

Then we can all be corralled back on the buses and shipped back to our group holding facilities where we all live on bread and gruel, shackled to beds, as this saves money for the government to spend on parties and duck houses and vital lobster dinners.

This all seems so much easier than people a/ minding their own business and b/getting all the facts and c/reporting to the appropriate people if they feel something untoward is occurring oh and d/not using facilities designed for others because it is merely convenient to them to do so.

applause with crip hands half clapping obviously.

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/04/2025 21:23

NavyBee · 12/04/2025 21:08

The ONLY time it’s OK to question someone is if they don’t have a blue badge to display but are using a disabled park. It is in no way acceptable to accuse people of fraudulently using a blue badge.

If you mean 'Hi there, do you realise your blue badge has fallen off/isn't up?? I'd hate for you to get a ticket'... in a genuinely friendly tone?

If so fine by me, and I suspect most BB users.

If you mean actually questioning people as if you're the blue badge gestapo - no, the people who have the right to do that are those who run the carparks, parking wardens and police.

You won't change the behaviour of people who genuinely have no badge at all, those people don't give a fuck.

You may just put someone off going out at all, who genuinely does have a badge.

T1Dmama · 12/04/2025 21:30

“Sorry are you a doctor??!’…… No?? Then just walk away!!!!

NavyBee · 12/04/2025 21:34

Oh yes - well it’s never appropriate to be rude (even to actual/probable blue badge parking spot abusers).

ClearHoldBuild · 12/04/2025 21:41

Familylimbo · 12/04/2025 19:34

Do you not think pregnant people, temporarily disabled people or broken leg etc shouldn’t be able to use the spaces??

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I don’t think pregnancy warrants a parent and child space let alone a blue badge space.

Bowies · 12/04/2025 21:42

Tessasanderson · 11/04/2025 09:44

I can never understand blue badge holders moaning about this. Can they not see that the person doing the asking is trying to protect the blue badge holders right to that space?

In the current society there are not many people who will actually put themselves out for whats right and wrong. See someone getting beaten up, turn away. See someone stealing, turn away. See someone parking in a disabled space to protect their Range Rover, turn away.

So once in a while they get it wrong and ask someone with a not obvious disability if they are genuine. Is that such a hardship for someone actually having some social concerns?

Or maybe they just start to wonder if its worth it, ignore it all and let blue badge holders cry about lack of parking in future because no one gives a stuff.

It isn’t for Jo(e) Public to question those legitimately displaying their blue badge, as OP was, where they got it from or if they ‘deserve’ it though is it?

Doing this is arrogant and perpetuating ableist views, plus making life for disabled people harder and more stressful than it already is.

Challenging blue badge holders is not doing anyone in society a service but antisocial and discriminatory.

LadyKenya · 12/04/2025 21:51

stomachamelon · 12/04/2025 20:29

@Herewegoagainandagainandagain@Funnywonderi have that all the time with my bag (have crohns and cancer)
Today I was accused of not only not being disabled when I was using the disabled toilet to change but also being one of those penis baring women as they had checked under the door and I was faced the wrong way to empty my bag….. that was fun at the very busy seaside with my family waiting outside.

They checked under the door? Unbelievable!

Jellybubbamama0987 · 12/04/2025 21:52

My partner is disabled, has the blue badge. Has various conditions that means he qualifies. Genetic condition, mobility issues and autism all affect his day to day life. Because I’m the driver I’ve had lots of people, mostly old people, give me the stare but so far nobody has actually said anything to me. I’m actually looking forward to anyone who does, I’m usually quite meek but if I know I’m in the right, god help you. Blue badges have the persons picture on the back so how can people accuse you of not being eligible? I’ve not seen fake ones so I don’t know what they look like.

Moonlightfrog · 12/04/2025 21:55

Jellybubbamama0987 · 12/04/2025 21:52

My partner is disabled, has the blue badge. Has various conditions that means he qualifies. Genetic condition, mobility issues and autism all affect his day to day life. Because I’m the driver I’ve had lots of people, mostly old people, give me the stare but so far nobody has actually said anything to me. I’m actually looking forward to anyone who does, I’m usually quite meek but if I know I’m in the right, god help you. Blue badges have the persons picture on the back so how can people accuse you of not being eligible? I’ve not seen fake ones so I don’t know what they look like.

Same, my daughter has a blue badge, she has autism and some mobility issues which aren’t always obvious unless she’s using a stick (on bad days). I often use the badge to collect her from places so she’s not with me when I place the badge in the window. We have never had anyone comment when she’s with me or not with me. Maybe we are just lucky.

springbringshope · 12/04/2025 22:33

Squarecobra · 12/04/2025 18:17

A friend of mine was parked in a disabled bay at a supermarket and we were stood chatting as she loaded the car. There was a woman impatiently looking and waiting for her to move so she could have the space. What she didn’t see was although she had her 4 kids with her and she, herself, is not classed as disabled, her eldest daughter has many less obvious issues and qualifies for a blue badge. As such, she was entitled to park in either a disabled bay or a parent child space but the other woman didn’t seem to give a hoot.

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It doesn’t sound like the woman was doing anything wrong . She was waiting. Impatiently? Maybe. But that’s not really a big deal. Was she blasting her horn?

Stevejustarandommale · 12/04/2025 22:48

PaintDecisions · 11/04/2025 09:29

My mate takes great delight in these people. He has his blue badge, uses it in his liveried transit van as he's a handyman. He's in his 30s and is ex Army.

You just need to see him walk to begin to understand why he needs the badge.

He takes his daughter to school on his mobility scooters on bad days - it's only about 100m round trip to the gates from our street.

He's full of sarcasm, I really don't have his wit!

Most of us ex Squaddies are and don't suffer fools gladly 🤣

Funnywonder · 12/04/2025 22:53

stomachamelon · 12/04/2025 20:29

@Herewegoagainandagainandagain@Funnywonderi have that all the time with my bag (have crohns and cancer)
Today I was accused of not only not being disabled when I was using the disabled toilet to change but also being one of those penis baring women as they had checked under the door and I was faced the wrong way to empty my bag….. that was fun at the very busy seaside with my family waiting outside.

That was absolutely horrible for you. Disgraceful behaviour🙁

The joke is that the sort of person who would use facilities or parking spaces they aren’t entitled to, couldn’t give a stuff if people question it. They are arrogant and selfish and basically just style it out. But people with genuine illnesses and disabilities suffer and feel shame and embarrassment. As if they didn’t have enough to deal with.

AnotherEmma · 12/04/2025 22:53

ClearHoldBuild · 12/04/2025 21:41

I don’t think pregnancy warrants a parent and child space let alone a blue badge space.

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Hard disagree. Of course people shouldn't park in disabled spaces if they don't have a blue badge. But it's definitely ok for pregnant women to use parent & child spaces. It's really difficult to get in and out of a car when heavily pregnant - you obviously have to open the door wide. I needed the space more when I was pregnant than now I have a child who can do his own seatbelt, he doesn't need help with it and doesn't have to open the door wide to get in and out. There are plenty of people who take the piss by using parent and child spaces without any child at all, I think pregnant women using the spaces is totally fine by comparison.

CheeseAndHamToastieAndCrisps · 12/04/2025 22:53

My child’s medical conditions are no one else’s fucking business.

jcyclops · 12/04/2025 22:55

Tell them you have "undifferentiated sclerotic dysarthria" (or some other made-up long words) and would they like to write that down so they can report you.

Pupinskipops · 12/04/2025 22:58

Fraaances · 11/04/2025 09:16

I have heart failure and can barely walk 20 metres. I’m in my early 50’s and have had people demanding that I “explain myself” more often than not. I live in Australia, and recently had someone try and restrain me while they called the police. I hopped in the front seat and they blocked my car. Luckily the police were in the shopping centre and arrived very quickly. The police pointedly DIDN’T ask about my condition at all. I only had to show my licence which proved that the permit was in my name and the police asked me if I would like to press charges. I asked the police to give him a good talking to in front of me, (for maximum humiliation) to explain to him WHY restraining a lone woman is so fucking terrifying and let him know exactly how many laws he had broken and the potential consequences whilst I decided what I would like to do. There was a small crowd gathered by this time (some with their phones out.) He kept repeating “But she’s obviously not disabled!” I then said “Tell that to the doctors on my heart transplant team.”
SILENCE

Wow! People, eh? 🙄

Booboobagins · 12/04/2025 23:04

I had a colleague that was always being challenged by traffic wardens. He would just tap on his prosthetic whoch was an old style metal leg. They'd then go away.

But yes he said it was relentless.

The other day I couldn't find a disabled space so took a parent and child space. A guy accosted me shouting "You dont have a young child with you." I replied, "You are correct I have an 86yo with a mobility disability and a blue badge." My mum put her blue badge on the dash as I was responding to him. He did have the decency to apologise, but it was how he attacked me that I was annoyed about. I dont mind people asking, that's fair, but being rude just gets my goat.

Bowies · 12/04/2025 23:12

Cesarina · 12/04/2025 18:33

I know this thread is about Blue Badges, but this post about accessible toilets prompts me to post.
I used to think that nobody could use an accessible toilet unless they had a disability, which I thought was fair enough.
Even 'though there would often be queues for "normal" loos, with the accessible loo being vacant.
On a training course some years ago, about the 2010 Equality Act, accessible loos were discussed.
I was surprised to learn that anyone can use an accessible loo, but only if there isn't a disabled person waiting, as they take priority.
So next time you have crossed legs in a loo queue, if the accessible loo isn't needed by a disabled person, you can lawfully use it.

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Yes, I was surprised this is true and don’t agree as it does block access, someone can come along immediately after and then has to wait when it’s difficult for them - especially as often only one accessible loo.

If the non-disabled person also sat in there scrolling on TikTok for ages, then came back again to check they didn’t leave their phone in there after washing their hands, it would be even more annoying.

LalaPaloosa2024 · 12/04/2025 23:13

Fraaances · 11/04/2025 09:16

I have heart failure and can barely walk 20 metres. I’m in my early 50’s and have had people demanding that I “explain myself” more often than not. I live in Australia, and recently had someone try and restrain me while they called the police. I hopped in the front seat and they blocked my car. Luckily the police were in the shopping centre and arrived very quickly. The police pointedly DIDN’T ask about my condition at all. I only had to show my licence which proved that the permit was in my name and the police asked me if I would like to press charges. I asked the police to give him a good talking to in front of me, (for maximum humiliation) to explain to him WHY restraining a lone woman is so fucking terrifying and let him know exactly how many laws he had broken and the potential consequences whilst I decided what I would like to do. There was a small crowd gathered by this time (some with their phones out.) He kept repeating “But she’s obviously not disabled!” I then said “Tell that to the doctors on my heart transplant team.”
SILENCE

How appalling that you had to go through this!! I wish you had pressed charges. He had no right putting his hands on you or challenging you in any way.

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 12/04/2025 23:14

Familylimbo · 12/04/2025 19:34

Do you not think pregnant people, temporarily disabled people or broken leg etc shouldn’t be able to use the spaces??

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No. It’s perfectly simple. If you don’t have a blue badge, don’t use the space. Pregnancy is not a disability and temporary conditions don’t qualify unless they are likely to last 12 months or more. What’s the point in reserving spaces for BB holders if you’re not going to stick to the rules ?

Cesarina · 12/04/2025 23:57

Frozenpeace · 12/04/2025 20:59

How does one know whether the person waiting is disabled?

We don't have to wear a big badge saying "disabled"

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I don't know.
I'm just stating what the law says.
What would you suggest to answer your question?

DisabledDemon · 13/04/2025 00:47

I don't tend to get any trouble but then I do walk with a stick. The stick tends to be a clue for the halfwits. It's a pain (literally) and I wish I could do without it and I'd gladly be fully functional and give up my badge.

Mind you, I do have a really mean resting bitch face. Maybe that puts them off.

Frozenpeace · 13/04/2025 00:56

Cesarina · 12/04/2025 23:57

I don't know.
I'm just stating what the law says.
What would you suggest to answer your question?

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The law doesn't say anything about this.

The EA2010 sets out requirements for organisations to provide accessible toilets.

It makes no statement as to who can use them or whether that use should be policed.

However, given that one reason a disabled person may need to use an accessible toilet is because they would have difficulty queuing (either due to an urgent need to go to the toilet or because queuing could make them physically ill or distressed) I would recommend only using the disabled toilet if you actually are disabled and need to use it.

I am disabled but it is a fluctuating disability so I only use a disabled toilets on days when I need to. On other days I use the usual facilities so I keep the toilet free for those who need it more.

But of course some small venues may only have one or two toilets and may have just made sure all their toilets are accessible, so it makes sense that the legislation doesn't get into granular detail about how such facilities should be used

ggloria007 · 13/04/2025 02:29

I would start suddenly limping my leg... and pretend I am taking a video of him on my phone...

Or even better do some Tourettes moves.... or stare at him with your eyes opening wider..like you have a supernatural power of hypnotising ... be creative! You need to amuse yourself in these moments ...