To ask the neighbour’s guest to move their car

[PregnantAndKnackered1]

I live on a row of terraced houses where everyone parks in front of their house without issue usually. It’s very civil, we all just stick to our own bit of road, sometimes guests from other houses do occasionally park in front of our house for a day or so. This is fine and to be expected, we don’t own the road.

There is a small carpark at the end of the road at the opposite end to my house. Our guests always use this and walk or if someone is blocking ‘our space’ we park there.

We don’t know our neighbours on the next street over but their guests have parked in front of our house for 2 weeks now without moving. This is assuming they haven’t moved whilst I’ve been at work. I am due to give birth soon (32 weeks) and I am having some issues with the pregnancy where we are at heightened risk of still birth / pre-term labour and walking the 7 minute walk to the end of the road if I need to load/unload the car is becoming very difficult for me.

Again, I am aware I don’t own the road but AIBU to think if their car is going to be parked there for weeks they can use the carpark at the end of the road and it would be okay to politely request this? They’ve watched me struggle multiple times now when they are leaving the house with the homeowners/getting into the car with them and haven’t offered to move yet.

This. Or buy a house with parking.
Really not difficult to grasp.

There’s no harm in asking, it’s perfectly reasonable and I’m sure they’ll oblige. You’d have to be pretty shitty not to.

People in the town near us lobbied for permit parking but they're not very happy that the fees have trebled in the couple of years since they were introduced.

I would move it if it was my car, no problem

Sounds like a case of the ‘rules’ on their road is park wherever you can & it’s a free for all whereas on your street everyone tends to observe the polite “the space in front of your home is generally for the occupant”. Plus they sound a bit unaware. But again if it’s not v suburban & more urban I wldnt blame them necessarily. Is the car park at the end pay & display or free? You cld go & ask & hope they’ll see your POV tho be wary they may view you as the CF (even tho you’re not!) Good luck!

If there’s a way that everyone eise operates in the area, there is no problem to explain it to them and ask that they fit in with the “modus operandi” too. IMO, it’s not even about the fact that the OP is pregnant - it’s just following the basic rules in that area. It’s how it works in my street too. People park outside their own houses. It’s when people have more than one car that it gets tricky.

https://vehicleenquiry.service.gov.uk/

Check if it's taxed.

The problem here is the neighbourhood politics. People aren't following the highway code, they're doing what suits them. If everyone followed the highway code then it'd be tough luck if you couldn't park by your house, but it'd probably even out for everyone based on levels of inconvenience. However, because everyone does what 'suits them' when someone comes along and follows the actual highway code (i.e. the houseguest) it throws the situation into termoil. Just park your car somewhere legally - regardless of whether it makes pickup access tricky etc.

The obsession with parking on MN is unreal! It’s mildly irritating but as you said you don’t own the road so just accept it; they’ll presumably move it at some point & then you can park back in ‘your space’

You need to report them for dangerous parking on double yellows.

No. You can’t ask

What a silly street: park anywhere, as close as possible to your own house

If there's no history of animosity, id ask. I'd say I know this is cheeky but we don't have a drive and I'm struggling would you be so kind as to move your car for a couple of weeks

It is issues about parking like this when I think we should have a law that makes owning a motor vehicle illegal unless you can park it off-street. That might stop or at least greatly reduce the problems on all these estates clogged up with motor vehicles, because some people think everyone in the household needs one car each plus a business van. Fundamental issues in this country are people are oblivious or don't care about issues with finite limited resources or externalised costs.

Take the space of your next neighbor? Once that car has mifted the whole road…they might move 😒

May I just take a moment to congratulate you on coming back with such a calm and reasoned answer to such an unbelievably rude and judgemental comment! I couldn’t possibly have been that restrained, especially as she can’t even spell. Also from the way you talk about not wanting to inconvenience your other neighbours, all whilst dealing with baby exhaustion, you sound lovely - even if you do have webbed feet from all that inbreeding! 🤣

It would work if cars weren't objects whose key purpose is to move around frequently from street to street, town to town!

It's all very well having your own little rules for your street, but then when people from elsewhere come along and follow the 'standard' rules instead of those for your own street (which they wouldn't even know), you're stuffed.

It gets even murkier when you get different people on the same street working to different rules, depending on arbitrary reasons - whether worthy (households with a disabled resident, somebody very elderly or heavily pregnant etc.); or nasty and selfish (those who've lived there the longest, homeowners over renters, plain unpleasant, rough neighbours over nice ones).

Take a leaf out of the other neighbours’ book then, and go knock!! If it wasn’t the done thing with parking etiquette on your road, then why didn’t u pipe up asap after they parked there. They think you are a pushover, complain like the rest do! You can do it x

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable simply because I hate people parking in front of our windows when, in a small village such as ours, there are loads of high hedges to park next to where no one can see them.
However, like you say - you don’t own the road, and they’ll have paid their road tax.
I think, like me, up with it you just have to put!

As neighbours in a street you are all being considerate of each other. A stranger who sees a spot rather than a car park will have no feelings of responsibility.

As others have said, you know who it is so request and expect them to move as it is unfair to you, 2 weeks is ttp.

We have a similar issue, a big family with multiple cars park outside our house on both sides of the road so reversing and getting on drive is a pita. Not illegal but very inconvenient, especially with needing wheelchair access to the path which is always blocked by their teenage daughter, no room to pass so have to go on road and navigate an angle to wheel it up. New to the area so don't want to cause issues but so pissed off! Xx

I think you might reasonably explain your problem and say normally it wouldn’t be an issue but if they could bear with you while things are so difficult. They’d have to be pretty unreasonable to refuse.

I'd just park outside one of your neighbours houses. They don't own the road, just like you don't.

You make it sound like somebody finding a legitimate parking space and using it is somehow doing something wrong - however long they need/want the space, as long as their vehicle is road legal.

Normally, if somebody is ttp, it means that they're expecting too much of somebody's generosity or kind goodwill; but the owners of the road - the local council - really don't mind at all who (legally) uses that space - they certainly wouldn't see it as ttp.

I do fully agree with you on selfish people who block wheelchair/disabled access to the pavement by parking over dropped kerbs - that is very wrong.

The thing is, though, that people don't have the time or inclination to thoroughly survey everybody's property and consider what preferences they may have when they find a parking space.

As long as you aren't blocking a drive/dropped kerb or blocking any other cars in, you just park up and get on with your life.

For most people, the road is just a functional amenity and not primarily there to provide a lovely view; it does seem a little weird to object to seeing cars on a public road.

It sounds like you need to plant a hedge in front of your house yourself - then your problem will be solved in a couple of years!

Siunds to me that these arseholes, may well have gone on holiday for a fortnight ithe car has not moved.

I live on a small Housing Assiciation Development with several cwr oarks where despite notices everehere about non tenant parking.

The favourite trick if a some lpiss taking tenants, is to tell their wantveverthing fir nothing friends and relatives to patk here, before pissing off for a hol in the sun from Manchester Airport

Saving them a bundle on Airport parking fees.

I think you are being too nice my dear.

They shouldn't he parking in front of your place anyway. And the fact your are pregnant makes it even worse.

Hope your pregnancy goes well

🤞🧸🌻

No harm in asking, and they might be willing to park elsewhere given the circumstances (or they may not).

We used to have a neighbour with a construction business who always parked his truck outside our house. Irritating, but not illegal. However, we did ask if he would mind parking elsewhere on our wedding day so the wedding car could park there. A polite request with a reason behind it (less vital than yours, too) and he was happy to oblige.