To ask the neighbour’s guest to move their car

[PregnantAndKnackered1]

I live on a row of terraced houses where everyone parks in front of their house without issue usually. It’s very civil, we all just stick to our own bit of road, sometimes guests from other houses do occasionally park in front of our house for a day or so. This is fine and to be expected, we don’t own the road.

There is a small carpark at the end of the road at the opposite end to my house. Our guests always use this and walk or if someone is blocking ‘our space’ we park there.

We don’t know our neighbours on the next street over but their guests have parked in front of our house for 2 weeks now without moving. This is assuming they haven’t moved whilst I’ve been at work. I am due to give birth soon (32 weeks) and I am having some issues with the pregnancy where we are at heightened risk of still birth / pre-term labour and walking the 7 minute walk to the end of the road if I need to load/unload the car is becoming very difficult for me.

Again, I am aware I don’t own the road but AIBU to think if their car is going to be parked there for weeks they can use the carpark at the end of the road and it would be okay to politely request this? They’ve watched me struggle multiple times now when they are leaving the house with the homeowners/getting into the car with them and haven’t offered to move yet.

Report to the council as abandoned vehicle as parked there several weeks council will check with them

They are hypocritical dickheads then!

@PregnantAndKnackered1 you seem to have quite a few neighbours who do not abide by the highway code!!! parking on double yellow lines, acceptable!! driving the wrong way on a one way system, acceptable! I think I would be informing the police! btw why cant you inform the police and say a car has been abandoned?? you dont know who owns it! check that it is taxed and mot'd!

Very strange, if you live in a terraced house you have no dedicated parking? Just park wherever the closest space is.

It's great you all have decided between yourselves who owns which part of the road and if it works brilliant but sadly that doesn't work when other people want to park there, in which case just pick the closest spot and explain to your neighbours why you have had to park there if they ask, someone is in your usual spot

You are probably similar to us here. Some have drives but dont use them! Older style semis ,no garages .Parking is a bit of a free for all.its a surprise when I can park outside my house TBH. By all means have a quiet word ,but dont be surprised if they say No. or more likely Yes for a few days ,then park there again.People are selfish Im afraid

Ask them, lay it on thick. What’s the worst can happen?

We have a road like that near us. The majority of the houses have driveways but no garages and everyone parks on the street! It is a main thoroughfare in our town and the visibility of cars coming the other way is really bad due to the parking.

Just park where there is a space Infront of a neighbours house. If they complain say that was the only space and you are pregnant. That's it.

We have exactly the same situation where people usually park on the road outside their house and if a heavily pregnant woman knocked on my door and asked me to ask my guests to move their car I'd do it in a shot. Not everyone is an asshole. Just ask!

You seem to be prioritising everyone else over yourself when you're the one whose heavily pregnant! Knock on politely and point out you're heavily pregnant, and I'm sure they'll move (they might have seen you and know this already but few people would say no when asked directly). If you don't address it, you'll become the house they always park in front of. Stand up for yourself.

Sorry I would just park as near to your house as you can and if anyone knocks explain you won't be moving. Let them take it up with the neighbour with intruder car!

Don’t ask, park your car in their own space and WAIT for them to come to you.
Then explain that their car has been packed in front of yours for awhile and you assumed they wanted to switch places, by no means must you admit that you know it’s not their car, let them explain that to you themselves while you make a show of trying to come up with a solution that doesn’t put either of you at a disadvantage.
Be very sweet and pleasant but keep your foot down so they don’t try to take advantage of you.

So if tou will be asked immediately if tou oark in front of someone elses house, why should you treat the other neighbours any different. Just request thry move.

Report the car as abandoned to the non urgent police number, as it's been stationary for so long and unknown locally.
You may have to speak to your neighbours if you need to use their spot for a short time, whilst you struggle with your maternity issues. Hopefully they will be understanding.

Your neighbours all sound like they are a bit precious.

speak to the people who have parked the car there. Check it is taxed and MOT. If it is not then get it towed.

if they say no then start parking in whichever space is closest to your house. If that neighbour comes and complains then show them your massive bump and the car infront of your house.

then everyone will speak to the neighbours. If they are happy enough to knock on your door then they should be happy enough to knock on the owner of the car.

I wouldn’t risk my baby after two losses over a different neighbour getting upset about parking when they won’t knock the owners house.

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talk to them calmly, lightly and nicely. Say you obviously realise they’re not obligated, and hadn’t asked for two weeks because of that…but now you’re getting a bit anxious.ll
don’t attempt to emotionally blackmail with how hard you find it…just ask

if they say there aren’t other spaces, then get a relative or neighbour to help play swaps so you exchange a place you’ve parked in elsewhere for their place at same time

hoepfully They’re nice folks and will move…

Two weeks is a bit too much. They should have more self awareness.

Unwritten rules... The done thing... They're all just expectations not supported in law. Lobby the council for permit parking, and otherwise accept that your need doesn't trump anyone else's.

This. It’s not your road and it frankly is tough shit if others don’t want to join in whatever custom you and your neighbours have. Also, how can it be a seven minute walk to the nearest other space? That sounds insane.
Surely if going to hospital in labour you’d not be driving and whoever is driving you can run and get the car and then pick you up?

Parking is always a tough one, as you say they aren't doing anything wrong by parking there, but it is inconvenient for you and everyone else abides by the unwritten rule of not being a dickhead.

I think I would speak to them if I thought they would be reasonable (we had something similar where I used to live, we hoped the owner would be reasonable, but unfortunately not). If you think that speaking to them wouldn't make any difference, you could try reporting the car that is parked outside, but the police will ask if it is legally parked and if it is, then they won't do anything. You can check online if it has a valid MOT etc. The only time the Police will help is if it causing an obstruction, illegally parked or not taxed etc.
So as annoying as it is, unless they are happy to help there isn't a lot you can do.
Hope you manage to sort it, I know how frustrating this can be.

As pp have already pointed out, if its taxed & MOTd the police won't be interested.

We have a nasty neighbour who regularly bothers the council with vexatious false reports like that - nobody else likes him.

The law is the same for everybody; you can't just alter your interpretation of it to suit you and to start silly petty squabbles by tattling made-up lies to the authorities.

I don't think it's a case of knocking on somebody's door and to demand that they' move their car that's legally parked in a space on the street that happens to be nearer to your house than anybody else's; just don't take any nonsense from others when YOU are parked in a public space outside their house and THEY try to demand that YOU move it.

They might have noticed you are pregnant but just assumed - pregnant not incapacitated. If you explain that you are having some issues and that it is knackering you out and would they mine swapping to use the car park as they don't seem to be moving the car anyway you would appreciate it - not a lot you can do if they say no but they might just be thoughtless rather than horrible and just need asking.

It never used to bother me people parking outside of my house in 'my' space but these days it really winds me up to an irrational extent.

The people parking on double yellows are not the problem. If they stopped doing that they would be fighting for a space like everyone else.

It's all well and good to be kind to 'the village' but you need to park closer or get a lift to the shop unless you stop being passive and start looking out for your own needs.

There were never this many cars on the road back when 'the village' was established and never so many proprietorial and covetous people either.