Should I pay this much for one to one coaching?

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I have completed a group online parenting course for 5 weeks for free. Facilitator was really good and brilliant with advice. He's a life coach of a specific area of self development. He has been doing this for a decade. Have had a chat for private one to one coaching and he's quoted £4000 for a 5 month period of one day a week hour long sessions. I believe this would really help me, but is this price insanely high? or in line with what's available out there for coaching?

Maybe if you could identify what's behind your reactions, it might be a good place to start and then it will be easier to identify what support would be best.

You don't need to answer them here.

• Do you react the same way to any other situations or is this more isolated to your relationship with your children?
• What are reacting to? Reasonable things or is their behaviour extreme?
• What's behind the reaction?
• Is it more about you or them? I.e. you feel you aren't equiped to deal with them or you are worried about them?
• Can you understand the main emotion driving it - anger, fear, guilt, worry, impatience, exhaustion?
• Are there any differences or similarity between their behaviour and yours as a teenager? Do you worry they'll repeat things you wish you did/didn't go etc?

OP when people struggle to stay calm or get overwhelmed easily it's often when they have a lot on. Is you day to day life relatively easy or very stressful. What is work like? Are you struggling or worrying about money? Are you and those you care for in good health? What's your housing situation like? Do you get a good night's sleep?

Dealing with children and being patient and calm is really hard. So much of our life can use up the patience we have until there is barely any left. Then it only takes something small from a teen for you to run out of patience entirely. It's then impossible to stay calm.

I would consider assessing your life and seeing if there are other aspects that you need help with. As a previous poster said for £200 a week you could get a lot of support. Maybe you need it in other areas so you have more patience for parenting.

I’m not at teen stage yet but there are many free podcasts and audiobooks you can listen to and address exactly that, including what causes teens to act this way.

I have challenges parenting my teens: it’s hard.

It is unlikely to help you to pay thousands of pounds and give your limited available energy / attention to this man in the hope he can help you regarding parenting.

There are many free or low cost resources, groups etc.

Run run run.
you don’t want to pay a block of money like that to anyone let alone an unregulated what sounds like p taker.
you could find an amazing qualified psychologist for less an hour. If you didn’t find it helpful you can stop after one two, three or whatever number of sessions.
anyone worth their salt would explain what their tried and tested techniques actually are… and list their qualifications - which you can look up and see if any good etc

Teenagers are hard for everyone at some point. Take your money and find yourself a therapist for you to explore your reactions and how to handle them. And post here for advice on specific issues, are rows about school or going out or screens? Or just search and read similar threads to see how other handle similar situations.
BaCP have a searchable list of registered therapists. And they are all suitably qualified and will won't tie you massive upfront costs.

https://www.bacp.co.uk/

Well he will be passionate for that price

Weekly for five months feels like a very big commitment. I'd think about the length and the costs. I think £60 an hour is reasonable

He came into this as a client .. and then suddenly he was flipped into the role of the coach. Absolutely screams MLM.

This man is a charlatan. Please don’t give him £4k.

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