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Should I pay this much for one to one coaching?

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Alacartemenu · 10/04/2025 11:52

I have completed a group online parenting course for 5 weeks for free. Facilitator was really good and brilliant with advice. He's a life coach of a specific area of self development. He has been doing this for a decade. Have had a chat for private one to one coaching and he's quoted £4000 for a 5 month period of one day a week hour long sessions. I believe this would really help me, but is this price insanely high? or in line with what's available out there for coaching?

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AttachmentFTW · 10/04/2025 12:01

That's £200 an hour. That seems wildly expensive to me. You could see a qualified clinical psychologist for significantly less per hour. I'm not saying that a psychologist would be better placed to help you but they are qualified to a doctoral degree level (6+ years) and charge less. What qualifications does someone need to call themselves a "coach"?

BleachedJumper · 10/04/2025 12:05

Yeah, would you be comfortable with £180/200 per hour?

I’ll be honest, I’m concerned reading your op that you may be quite vulnerable to being exploited. Do you have £4k readily available anyway?

What tangible impact do you believe this will have on your life?

StellaAndCrow · 10/04/2025 12:07

I've paid for similar once, and later regretted it. I think I was swept up by a very persuasive person when in a suggestible state.

toomuchfaff · 10/04/2025 12:10

What's the coaching entail?

*taking notes for a lucrative career change...

PinkElephantsOnParade2025 · 10/04/2025 12:11

No way. No better than a cult. Hoodwink you with free stuff and then sucker you in. He is a scammer!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 10/04/2025 12:12

£200 per hour for....what, exactly? It all sounds a bit airy fairy to me.

ATuinTheGreat · 10/04/2025 12:20

To put it in perspective, £200 for an hour-long consultation is about what you would pay for a highly-experienced consultant specialist doctor, who you might see once or twice a year.

This person just sounds like a total bullshitter and has done you a favour by giving himself away by charging such a ridiculously high price.

I would just ghost him (or better still, tell him to get fucked)

Original poster
Alacartemenu · 10/04/2025 12:24

Thanks all.

I do have some small savings so do have the money. I am very sensible with money, bit too sensible if I'm honest, I don't see myself as vulnerable but i suppose none of us do.
This is a Very well known person in their local community, and has lots of recommendations on their website. i trust that they are genuine but think this the price is really high. They don't sell products

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 10/04/2025 12:27

What exactly are they selling you for £200/hour though?

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 10/04/2025 12:27

That's a ridiculous price.

I have a friend who does online coaching. She charges £40 pH which I think is too high.

TeenLifeMum · 10/04/2025 12:42

What are you hoping to achieve?

My husband had a work coach but paid for by work and that was helpful but not 4k worth of helpful. My friend is a life coach and I actively avoid conversations. She’s “turned her life around since her divorce and becoming a single parent”… er yes, she remarried a rich dude.

Summerhillsquare · 10/04/2025 12:49

Coaching is usually 50-100pph.

Original poster
Alacartemenu · 10/04/2025 12:50

Thanks for all the measured responses, all excellent advices. I was actually scared to post as was scared I would be called stupid or foolish.

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Loopytiles · 10/04/2025 12:53

He sounds like a charlatan. ‘Life coaching’ and such is notorious for people with no or poor qualifications charging loads of money.

It’s also unethical of him to run courses on parenting that are free for those participating and use it as a way to sell his services.

for much less than that amount of money you could see a well qualified counsellor.

Loopytiles · 10/04/2025 12:55

If he is providing his time for the parenting courses for free, then selling his services, unethical.

If he is paid by someone else to provide the courses his actions are probably against his terms and conditions or even misconduct.

madnessitellyou · 10/04/2025 13:03

Why do you think you need to spend that sort of money on a parenting coach? Assuming that’s what he’s offering?

amidsummernightsdream · 10/04/2025 13:04

Im going to go against the grain. You asked specifically is it high for coaching, no i dont think it is. Specialist coaching in a niche area is usually expensive but it's what its worth to you

Mumsnet are generally very hostile to any mention of coaching, so i would take these responses with a pinch of salt. Its a shame as there are some terrible coaches out there that bring the reputation of the whole industry down.

There are 2 things that are important. Is he credible, can he back up his credentials and does he come recomended ie can you trust he will deliver? Is he one of the good ones??

Second, as i said previously, what is it worth to you, can you afford it?

You need to go in with both eyes open and not get sucked in to anything with false promises. Are you being realistic about what you will get out of it?

It might also we worth asking if you can start with a smaller option/ package so you're not commiting so much and/ or asking about any added value ie out of session support/ access to resources etc which might make it stack up financially for you more.

MoominMai · 10/04/2025 13:16

Loopytiles · 10/04/2025 12:53

He sounds like a charlatan. ‘Life coaching’ and such is notorious for people with no or poor qualifications charging loads of money.

It’s also unethical of him to run courses on parenting that are free for those participating and use it as a way to sell his services.

for much less than that amount of money you could see a well qualified counsellor.

How is that unethical? It’s normal business practice to offer taster sessions as it were and then at least you can make an informed decision about the quality of the service and if it’s suitable for you. As long as he is suitably qualified and his charges are in line with industry standards then where’s the problem?

toomuchfaff · 10/04/2025 13:19

So you got 5 weeks for free - and there's next but is 4k?

charlatan

thesandwich · 10/04/2025 13:23

As a former exec coach that sounds a v expensive product- it’s coaching, where the underlying concept is that the coachee is capable of solving their issues… it is not therapy, where the frequency makes more sense.
A monthly meeting is more usual- with weekly email check ins etc.
I would suggest try one session to see if you think it’s worth it… but weekly sounds v high frequency.

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Alacartemenu · 10/04/2025 13:37

BleachedJumper · 10/04/2025 12:05

Yeah, would you be comfortable with £180/200 per hour?

I’ll be honest, I’m concerned reading your op that you may be quite vulnerable to being exploited. Do you have £4k readily available anyway?

What tangible impact do you believe this will have on your life?

For those who asked, I expect it to help me with my specific parenting struggles, which I cannot seem to resolve on my own. I feel I am drowning at times.

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Jellycatspyjamas · 10/04/2025 13:39

You’ve been working with him for 5 weeks. What measurable difference have you seen in your parenting during that time?

Think of what else you could use £4k for - there are only so many ways to parent your kids and lots of free and low cost ways to get support for parenting. Meeting weekly is much more along the lines of therapy, which coaches aren’t qualified to do. And do you actually need 20+ hours of one to one support?

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Alacartemenu · 10/04/2025 13:40

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 10/04/2025 12:27

What exactly are they selling you for £200/hour though?

their expertise and knowledge, and help tackling specific issues. They have tried and tested techniques that work.

The free sessions are a condensed version which I did think was helpful, and the longer one to ones are private and specifically tailored to that person's needs.

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toomuchfaff · 10/04/2025 13:41

TeenLifeMum · 10/04/2025 12:42

What are you hoping to achieve?

My husband had a work coach but paid for by work and that was helpful but not 4k worth of helpful. My friend is a life coach and I actively avoid conversations. She’s “turned her life around since her divorce and becoming a single parent”… er yes, she remarried a rich dude.

money does tend to take the edge off..

DoYouReally · 10/04/2025 13:43

What is it that you want to self develop?

There are many people on her that give you advise for free.

If it's personal issues, therapy would be better.
If it's work, a recruited would be better
If it's weight, nutritionist would be better

If you give us a summary of what you are hoping to get from it people can advise of tailored cheaper courses of action.

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