One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

That’s fine. The light/noise/toxicity/germs etc are only an issue if there’s alcohol served on the premises.

It doesn't work if your baby is a twin either. They get another baby screaming in their ear/face daily. 😂

Why do you think it was a rancid old pub?

Aaahhh, that makes so much sense. Thank you 🤣

But what makes you think the baby was uncomfortable or that their wellbeing was in danger?

You know people that are landlords/ landladies usually live and work in a pub and still have babies.

Why do you think the baby was uncomfortable and cold?

Or if the mother is doing it because she wants to/is enjoying herself. Perfectly fine if she is fulfilling her womanly duties-like doing the school run and a big shop.

Of course! God forbid a postpartum woman fail to relinquish herself entirely to motherhood and societal expectations. Broken Britain etc.

Social services would not be interested 😭‘newborn baby is out with their mother who is having a meal’ that is not going to raise any concern whatsoever nor is it going to negatively impact baby in any way

Which works fine with the first baby, but who’s going to do the school/nursery run if the mother is stuck inside for 3 weeks? It’s just not practical.

That is an absolutely disgusting way to refer to a disabled person. Honestly, the unchecked ableism on here gets worse.

I think it’s fine now there’s no smoking in pubs. If she felt okay she probably wanted to get out. It is easy to overdo things I agree but sitting down having a pub lunch with friends and family is low key,

Yep none of this ‘no germs being brought into the house, calm quiet environment at home, staying inside for 3 weeks’ works at all if it’s not a first baby 😅

Lol

She can do what she wants. But a one day old baby does not have a functioning immune system. If it had caught an infection (flu, etc) from anyone it could have died and there’s very little doctors would have been able to do about it.

Obviously a 17 year old is immature and way too young to have a baby (and very unlikely to be well educated on matters to do with caring for a baby), so her behaviour does not surprise me.

“Obviously a 17 year old is immature”

Immature but probably not judgey as fuck, unlike this poster. I’ve known wildly immature 40 year olds, and teenagers who have been responsible and loving parents. Maybe stop being such a judgemental snob and recognise that age is not a reliable indicator of parenting ability. (And yes, I’m aware of neurophysiology. I’m also aware of individuality)

DS was born on a Thursday, we were in the pub for Sunday lunch a few days later.

I get you op. No judgement for her being young I was also 16 with my first.
But the pub after one day is a bit much imo. I suppose it could depend on what the pub in question is like.
I can't help picturing my local one full of old alcoholic men sneezing coughing and making phlegmy noises everywhere. I caught some kind of vomiting and diarrhea bug a day after being in there and being coughed on.

A more spacious less crowded pub would be completely different I suppose

Surely the mother is also stressed after ‘such an epic, exhaustive delivery’ and finds the birth traumatic? I know my labour was one of the most horrendous traumatic events of my life! Maybe the mother’s way of letting her central nervous system settle down is to relax in the pub for a little while?

Quite honestly, I would think it’s more likely that a new born baby, or anyone come to that, would be more at risk of exposure to germs in hospital, but I don’t see people criticising hospital births rather than home births.

No need to be a dick about her age. I had my first at 16 so did the op herself. Not all young mums are the same.

This is ridiculous. There is a serious risk of haemorrhaging after childbirth. That is why people are advised to stay at home. Babies are susceptible to all kinds of illnesses being around lots of people.
I had my first when I was young and I stayed in for 3 weeks bonding as it’s such a precious time.

Why though?

Home haemorrhages are less bad than pub ones?

Amazing how you suddenly “remember” your friend’s baby had sepsis because almost everyone is disagreeing with you. If it was true, I’m sure you’d have told us in your first or second post rather than your thirtieth.