Who does all the life admin in your house?

[StrawberryCo]

(When you have children?) Do you share it equally? If one partner works full time and the other is part time does the part timer do it all? SAHMS - Do you do all of the life admin while your partner works?

My set up - I’m currently a SAHM and I do all the life admin. When I was in part time work I also was responsible for everything.

Life admin includes-

All homework

Booking and remembering all appointments for the family

Hospital appointments/dentist/therapy etc

All reading and studying

Booking and purchasing all household items

Booking repairs and finding cleaners/gardeners/decorators etc

Remembering all school activities such as bloody world book day/wear red day/eat an orange day 😆

All meal planning/shopping and cooking

All teeth cleaning/bedtime stories

Finding and booking all holidays/days out/meals out

After school activities

And tonight I’ve got to make an Easter bonnet 😆

SN kids so lots of additional appointments to juggle too. Phew! 😮‍💨

I have ADHD so this organisation lark does not come naturally to me!

Life admin includes-

All homework - BOTH
Booking and remembering all appointments for the family -ME
Hospital appointments/dentist/therapy etc- ME
All reading and studying - BOTH
Booking and purchasing all household items - BOTH
Booking repairs and finding cleaners/gardeners/decorators etc - BOTH
Remembering all school activities such as bloody world book day/wear red day/eat an orange day 😆 - BOTH
All meal planning/shopping and cooking - HUSBAND
All teeth cleaning/bedtime stories - BOTH
Finding and booking all holidays/days out/meals out - ME
After school activities - MOSTLY HUSBAND
And tonight I’ve got to make an Easter bonnet 😆 - HUSBAND.

I completed your list and its pretty even. Husband also volunteers at school.

It’s less for me to worry about though. Especially the car stuff and other insurance. That stuff is pretty boring to sort out.
I’m a sahm at the moment, he works full time, so it makes sense that I do the kids stuff.

I don’t really consider “life admin” to be that onerous tbh.

Homework - both of us, but DD is only in year 1 so it’s not significant at all.

Appointments - for us this is really just a twice a year dentist appointment. I appreciate we’re fortunate to not have any other health issues. I do this for DDs because I have an NHS dentist, DH doesn’t. So I take them with me for a family appointment. If they have a one off hospital or dr appointment, whoever can take them takes them. DH did the last one.

All reading - DH reads to DD1. We both read short stories to DD2 (2).

Purchasing household items - do you mean like larger one off purchases? Both of us.

Booking repairs - whoever. Doesn’t come up that often.

Remembering school activities - someone will write it on the calendar. We both look at the school app thing and read the reminders. DH is also pretty much the only dad in the class WhatsApp.

Meals - both

Bedtimes - both

Holidays - both

After school activities - both. Maybe not at the same time, but whoever is available. I tend to take DD1 to rainbows, DH takes her to swimming lessons. School plays etc we both try to go to.

Do you know, I must find out.

Andrew had said leave it all to him and look what happened there! (Grimace Emoji - I don't know how to do those...)

So someone must be doing it, I wonder who? (Puzzled look, whilst wearing crown Emoji)

I’d say it was a pretty even split tbh.
We both work full time, dh for himself and has more flexibility within his working week.
our dc are now 2 adults and one teen - homework was always organised/done by them. We both prompt the youngest sometimes.
He cooks and shops, I order the online food shop of basics.
Bills - everything is on DD so comes out of an account.
car stuff he sorts. I sort washing.
I organise and pay the cleaner. He books holidays.
Sorting out replacing household items is done by whoever discovers it needs replacing.
Booking stuff for house things - he tends to do this, he owns a building company so has the contacts and staff where needed.
Booking dentist appointments - we have 6 monthly family appointments and they just book us in for the next one when we’re there.
Gardening - both of us keep it looking tidy, he does more actual gardening because I don’t give a toss whereas he is creating ‘zones’ and whatnot.
Dunno, just sort of take on what we want/can and the other will pick up the slack where needed.
I was a SAHM for years when the dc were all smaller and dealt with all the school stuff, outfit days, trip payments, signing letters etc.

My husband did all the financial stuff as he was the main breadwinner, had an ex he supported etc. We did discuss major purchases (TV and so on).
I did everything else. I was a sahp.

Pretty evenly split between us, DH sort big things mortgage rates, Isa’s etc I do more every day, making sure we’re on the best sky, energy tariffs, sort house pet insurance etc.

I do everything as a lone parent.

It sounds like a lot of people don't mind doing life admin. Does anyone find it a chore/headache they wish they could employ someone else to do?

I do. I enjoy it! Dh is responsible for the broadband/ media package as I cant be arsed dealing with Sky. He does his own car insurance.

But I love doing insurance, utilities etc. I dont know why people make such a hoo ha about it. I also plan all holidays and itineries ( and we have a lot).