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[Yellowtang25]

Is it ok he put a cigarette out on my hand
I just don’t know anymore

No, it's really not okay and he could and should be arrested for this. You need to get him out yourself out asap before you're more seriously hurt.

I can't believe this is a real question. If it is the No, it's not OK for anyone to hurt you in any way

No, it's not OK. What makes you think it might be?

Not OK and you are in danger in this relationship. Please find a way to leave 🙁

Do you have anywhere else you can go? You need to remove yourself from this situation as soon as possible and report him to the police. Sending love. X

No matter what's going on with your mental health, you definitely know the answer to this one OP.

He stubbed a lit cigarette out on your hand?

No, that is not okay.
Yes, it is a criminal offence.

Can you safely leave or contact Women's Aid?

Is it this bad
sigh

Yes, it's bad and a sign you need to be somewhere else

Ok Thankyou

Of course it's bad, it's abuse.

Tbh it’s small and I’m probably overthinking it
it’s tiny from a roll up

Well it might be small OP but it was a deliberate act of violence against you.
And acts of violence in abusive relationships escalate.
You really need to get yourself away from this man.
Do you have family or friends you could go to?

He’d have no cojones left if he’d done that to me.

You know exactly how bad it is. Stop with the faux innocence.

This is assault (well, I suspect it would also count as Actual Bodily Harm). It is absolutely definitely physical abuse. And if you have been reduced to the point of not knowing if this is normal, I strongly suspect you are also being emotionally abused. He will escalate further. That's what abusers do. You really need to look for a way out. Do you have any support network? Have you tries speaking to Home - Women's Aid

Why would you think it was OK?

How would you feel if someone did it to your child or your mother or your sister?

Someone I know did that when they were suffering from acute psychosis. Please contact your local MH crisis line. And please don't harm yourself!

What are you playing at here OP?

You know it's no ok to put a cigarette out on someone's hand.

Yes it is 'this bad'.

No it doesn't matter whether it was a roll up or not.

Do you actually want to talk about the abuse? Because pretending you don't know it's unacceptable renders the thread pretty pointless.

Why would the OP harm herself because someone put a cigarette out on her hand?

Did it hurt when the cigarette was stubbed out on your hand? If no, it's up to you what you do. If yes, then it's not good to stick around. Bit like being stabbed - what's the difference between a kitchen knife and a stilitoe blade? One has a smaller point but they both kill.

I didn’t do this to myself no

I’m asking because I feel lost and stuck in this

But that's what I'm saying.

If you stop the pretence and just take some time to type a bit about your relationship and living situation etc, people may be able to help.

I assume this is part of a horrific cycle of abusive behaviour both physical and emotional