To be frustrated with the school about the Easter egg situation?

[FrustratedMum2025]

So, the school sent home a note last week about the “Easter egg raffle” they’re doing, asking for donations of Easter eggs for the kids to win as prizes. Fair enough, I thought, seems like a nice thing to do.

But here’s the issue: they want each child to donate an Easter egg by tomorrow. Fine, except… my children have been having Easter eggs since early March because, well, they’re kids. The idea of giving yet another egg just seems so unnecessary to me. I’m already drowning in chocolate from my own absolutely brilliant planning of Easter, and I’m not sure I want to add to the pile just for the school raffle. Plus, when I mentioned it to a few other parents, it turns out they all feel the same!

It feels like they just don’t get it. I already pay for everything (I’m talking school trips, PTA fundraisers, fancy dress days, the whole shebang) and now it’s Easter eggs as well? I’m all for supporting the school, but they never ask for things in a way that’s actually affordable or considerate of family budgets. AIBU to feel like this is just another example of unnecessary school demands?

Also, they’ve made it clear that if you don’t donate, your child might not get to participate in the raffle. I get the whole “voluntary contribution” thing, but when it’s linked to something like this, it just feels a bit much. Honestly, I can’t be the only one who thinks this is all a bit tone-deaf.

Am I being unreasonable or is it just another case of the school not understanding how much we’re all juggling at the moment?

TL;DR: AIBU to be frustrated that the school expects us to donate an Easter egg on top of everything else, and if we don’t, our kids miss out on the raffle?

Theres as much chocolate in a small egg as there is in a freddo these days. They are really cheap. I don't see the issue really.

Add all what together? Another egg on top of the loads that you've already bought?

Buy one or don't. I don't get the drama.

I guess this isn’t the point of the thread but I’m very confused by this event the PTA is running. So all the kids donate an egg, then they get given a raffle ticket and they “win” one back? What’s the point of that? And how does it raise money for the school?!

If you've been able to afford to buy your children Easter eggs for a whole month and haven't had an issue with them eating them all month, why is one more a problem?
I'd get where you're coming from if you were struggling to afford to buy them one for Easter Sunday or didn't want to be giving chocolate to your kids. Tbh, you're the kind of mum who should be all over the school's plan. Your stance is very confusing and hard to find the reason behind.

I genuinely don’t know if you’re worried your kids have too much chocolate or not enough!

I totally get where you’re coming from, and maybe I’m just being a bit oversensitive about it all. I suppose it just feels like these little “add-ons” are becoming more frequent, and they do add up. The Easter egg thing is just the latest in a long line of little asks that I didn’t think would be such a big deal, but it feels like they’re piling on. And I know I’m probably the odd one out with the whole chocolate thing, it’s just we had Easter stuff a bit early with the family, so the whole “Easter egg” tradition feels a little diluted already.

I guess I’m frustrated because it feels like the school is setting up a situation where if you don’t donate, your kid might miss out, and I don’t want them to feel left out. It’s the constant “if you don’t give, your kid doesn’t get” vibe that’s bothering me. Maybe it’s a first world problem, but it does make me question how many of these things are really needed, you know?

I agree about the short notice, regardless of what it is for.

I do think that you should not be eating Easter eggs for weeks though.

Is it the school or is it the PTA? I think you need to distinguish between the two.

Just donate one of the many you seem to have and don’t embarrass your kids!

Fine, except… my children have been having Easter eggs since early March because, well, they’re kids. The idea of giving yet another egg just seems so unnecessary to me

It’s not really the schools fault you’ve been giving your kids Easter eggs since the start of March!
My kids got an egg from school day, but they don’t get it until Easter because it’s an Easter egg, surely that’s the normal way to do it?

It’s going to cost you a couple of quid. Why would you be giving kids easter eggs for weeks before Easter? I’m guessing you’re in the minority of kids being fed up of easter eggs before Easter. Mine get one egg, two at a push on easter weekend. Maybe some mini eggs in the lead, but never given them eggs before easter.

I don’t get the issue! It’s like £1.25 for an egg or donate one of the many you already have if you have so many!
All schools have these things and it’s not exactly expensive! I feel you’re being a bit sensitive!

Totally lost me already at your kids already drowning in a pile of chocolate Easter eggs. Why???? And then you go on to complain about too much chocolate. If you’re giving them Easter eggs already are you not a huge part of the problem in that regard. How are school supposed to know your kids have been eating non stop Easter eggs over a month early?!

OP if you’re worried about first world excess, why do you feed your kids chocolate for a month before Easter?

Do you give your kids Christmas presents throughout December as well? Because they're...kids?

You're making a mountain out of a molehill. The school is doing nothing unreasonable. Because most parents DON'T feed their kids Easter eggs until it's actually Easter.

This is one of the most ridiculous posts I've read in a while.
What a non dilemma, seriously!
Never heard of anyone giving their kids eggs weeks before Easter..!

I guess I’m frustrated because it feels like the school is setting up a situation where if you don’t donate, your kid might miss out, and I don’t want them to feel left out. It’s the constant “if you don’t give, your kid doesn’t get” vibe that’s bothering me. Maybe it’s a first world problem, but it does make me question how many of these things are really needed, you know?
Sounds like you projecting. Would be highly unusual for any child's participation to be dependent on them contributing. If you feel guilty for not contributing that's on you. I'd be surprised if it's the school or PTA trying to set up that "vibe".

It's not the school's fault you are teaching your children to become chocolate 🐷 If you really have too many easter eggs then just donate one of yours rather than buy another one. Or tell your children the reason they can't be part of the raffle is because you are too tight to spend a pound. It really isn't that difficult a problem.

Just give an egg you’ve already got? My kids haven’t had a single egg yet.

sounds like a "you problem" if you're constantly letting your kids have easter eggs when it's not yet easter.

Send in a cheapo one.

If you're "drowning in chocolate" then
...give one of the eggs to the school - 2 birds, 1 stone.

I usually try to not to resort to "first world problems"mockey but....really? This is worth posting a multi paragraph post about? If you can afford to "drown in chocolate" and buy your kids multiple eggs for several months then how on earth is ONE chocolate egg an excessive ask from the school? Schools can absolutely be a bit unthinking at times in relation to donations/costumes etc but buying a very cheap item that is easily available everywhere is as inclusive as it is possible to be!

Some people are never satisfied!

Your kids might be drowning in chocolate but there are some kids who don’t get an Easter egg, the schools usually make sure the ones who are known to not be as privileged get them.

my children have been having Easter eggs since early March because, well, they’re kids. The idea of giving yet another egg just seems so unnecessary to me

Say what now?

So don't do it OP you can make a stand against this insanity of egg giving at school and just give your children many eggs before they even break up. It's not really about community and coming together it's about consumerist gluttony beforehand. Because they are kids and they don't understand. I get it.

Honestly your kids will probably think it nothing special and it's not worth the hassle so I would duck out. Then you can forget about it. And have a lovely Easter Holiday.

Why have your kids had Easter eggs before Easter? Is nothing just for special occasions anymore?

Just donate an egg, it’s literally a couple of quid.

Exactly. Do you let them open Christmas presents all through December as well?