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Get in the damn queue!

243 replies

TakesallSortsofPotatoes · 03/04/2025 16:58

Is anybody else irritated at people who stand miles away from the queue, so you think they're not in the queue? You either have to ask them if they're in the queue (if you're able to successfully get their attention), assume they're not, because why would they not be standing actually in it and walk past, or wait like an idiot behind them with a huge disjointed queue.

I'm also noticing loitering people blocking gateways, with no regards for anybody else who should need through. What are these people doing?

Anybody else want to partake in a rant at situations like this that irritate you?

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CrushingOnRubies · 03/04/2025 18:40

The lay out of Costa annoys me. Having the food in the fridges in the queue. So you have a family of 5 deciding whether to have food and then what to get. Then it’s just you who just wants a standard coffee. And you don’t know whether to go ahead of them because they’re sort of in the queue sort of not. Most people let you go in front but it’s the oblivious ones. In which case they probably wouldn’t notice me going ahead. But it’s the ethical politeness of it.

Wigtopia · 03/04/2025 18:42

Thebloodynine · 03/04/2025 17:00

It’s the people who walk out of a shop/cafe and then just stop in the doorway to have a wee think about where to go next, and you’re walking out behind them and have to emergency brake yourself before you head butt their back. Tops of escalators too! They annoy me more than the queue deceptors.

Edited

Hahaha when I read this, in my head I read it as if there was a comma after the word wee 😃😃

initially I was wondering how often you see people seeing in shop doorways 🫣🫣

YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 03/04/2025 18:45

Happened earlier today in a shopping centre toilet. I followed a group of three people out who stopped in the toilet doorway and had a discussion about which shop they were going to next. They looked surprised when I said "excuse me" as I wanted to be past.

menopausalfart · 03/04/2025 18:46

Most people get on my tits. It's why I'm a hermit.

Bearbookagainandagain · 03/04/2025 18:48

You're either overthinking this, or I'm just rude 😂
For me, either you're in the queue or you're not. If you are standing 2 meters away.from the queue then you're not in the queue.

I only ask when I'm not sure if there is a queue/where the queue is.

Mumofnarnia · 03/04/2025 18:49

toobigformyboobs · 03/04/2025 18:36

They do it on trains as well. They get on, block the aisle, and stand there while deciding which seat they want.

They totally block the people behind from getting on and sitting down, and people that came in the other door and file in and quickly all take a seat.

the ditherer will then sit down in the only sets left, leaving everybody who was stuck behind them without a seat.

Omg this. Or those who stand in the aisle and block it while they put their bags/ coats and god knows what else in the rack above so that nobody behind them can get to a seat then everyone who has poured onto the train through the doors at the other end of the same carriage have all managed to board the train from the doors at the other side and get a seat so now all the seats are taken and I now have to stand up despite probably being one of the first people to board the train (behind the twat that blocked me) So infuriating!

Just get in your damn seat and then put your luggage in the racks above when everyone else has got on the bastard train and found a seat!!!

PoshHorseyBird · 03/04/2025 18:50

The parents on the school run who don't seem to have anywhere to be after they've dropped their child off...the ones who walk out the school and up the pavement in groups of at least four, chatting away while moving at the pace of a snail. All the time I'm thinking 'get out the fucking way I've got to be at work at 9!!'

TortolaParadise · 03/04/2025 18:51

WonderingWanda · 03/04/2025 17:47

Oh you're not one of those people that constantly nudges you my the back with their trolly because I've let more than a 5 cm gap appear between me and the person in front....or even worse when I'm hanging back slightly while they do their pin number so they don't think I am trying to steal it.

Yes theses folks are the most annoying!
Guess what? The cashier still won't serve you until the person ahead is finished!
Just wait. If you are in a hurry perhaps leave more time in the future. ⏱

Bearbookagainandagain · 03/04/2025 18:53

Thebloodynine · 03/04/2025 17:00

It’s the people who walk out of a shop/cafe and then just stop in the doorway to have a wee think about where to go next, and you’re walking out behind them and have to emergency brake yourself before you head butt their back. Tops of escalators too! They annoy me more than the queue deceptors.

Edited

And at the bottom of the escalator!!! "Hmmm, should I go right? Should I go left? Or should I stand there like an idiot while people are coming off a rolling staircase right into my back?"

SuperGinger · 03/04/2025 18:54

My mum used to say to people not queueing properly "Queueing is a physical activity, are you in the queue?"

AuntAgathaGregson · 03/04/2025 18:56

With things like bus queues, I have no hesitation in moving in front of these people, particularly if it means I can get in the bus shelter and/or sit down. I'm still perfectly happy for them to get on the bus ahead of me. To be fair, I don't think I've ever come across anyone who objected to me doing that.

Tooty78 · 03/04/2025 19:01

Why do some couples both have to stand in the queue? Is the husband like security detail for his wife, in case someone decides to steal her shopping?
It makes the queue twice as long and in God's name does he have to jangle the coins in his trouser pockets whilst standing there?

It's always older couples as well ( I am not being ageist, I am as old as dust myself,) but I am quite capable of shopping by myself without an escort!

bostonchamps · 03/04/2025 19:02

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 03/04/2025 18:02

This may be London-centric, but people who just abandon their Lime or similar bikes in the middle of the pavement with no regard whatsoever for people with visual impairments or mobility problems, wheelchair users, people with pushchairs. Especially if it's fallen on its side! Slowly being tackled by local councils, I believe, insisting they have to be docked in designated areas. Long overdue.

Just reading this made me rage

We're incredibly lucky to live on a perimeter road of one of London's beautiful parks, so people cycle to the park and then leave them on my street to walk around the park. The amount of times I've opened my front door to find four or five line bikes just piled at the bottom of my stairs. I report every.single.one

I lost my shit with two grown adults in the middle of abandoning them the other day. I'm able bodied and I don't need a pram (for a baby, or myself) but I can't imagine how annoying it must be for those who aren't/do.

GrandHighPoohbah · 03/04/2025 19:04

bostonchamps · 03/04/2025 19:02

Just reading this made me rage

We're incredibly lucky to live on a perimeter road of one of London's beautiful parks, so people cycle to the park and then leave them on my street to walk around the park. The amount of times I've opened my front door to find four or five line bikes just piled at the bottom of my stairs. I report every.single.one

I lost my shit with two grown adults in the middle of abandoning them the other day. I'm able bodied and I don't need a pram (for a baby, or myself) but I can't imagine how annoying it must be for those who aren't/do.

I am hoping more boroughs will ban them soon.

Watermill · 03/04/2025 19:07

People.

All of them. 🤣

aphroditeflighty · 03/04/2025 19:08

TakesallSortsofPotatoes · 03/04/2025 16:58

Is anybody else irritated at people who stand miles away from the queue, so you think they're not in the queue? You either have to ask them if they're in the queue (if you're able to successfully get their attention), assume they're not, because why would they not be standing actually in it and walk past, or wait like an idiot behind them with a huge disjointed queue.

I'm also noticing loitering people blocking gateways, with no regards for anybody else who should need through. What are these people doing?

Anybody else want to partake in a rant at situations like this that irritate you?

Probably the same people who linger by a zebra crossing, so you're not quite sure if they're intending to cross or not.

bostonchamps · 03/04/2025 19:10

@GrandHighPoohbah we're in Hackney and there would be actual riots if they did, but I can dream. I'm literally sitting have a nice glass of wine, trying to get over a rough day in peace, and I can see three just left in stupid places. It's even worse on Sunday mornings when everyone cycled home at 3am. ARGH.

Separate point, I adore my country-abiding DM but when she comes to visit and we get the tube I now grab her hand and essentially drag her along when we get off. She's the kind of step out of the carriage and then ponder for 30 seconds, even when I tell her to just follow me.

Mumofnarnia · 03/04/2025 19:13

I also hate the people in busy shopping centres who just stop dead in front of you and you have no way of getting past them because there’s people coming the other way!
Or those who get in front of you in a busy shopping centre and walk in a line of about 3 or 4 and just slowly saunter along blocking anyone from getting past them!

Tipofthecattoes · 03/04/2025 19:17

Somebody shouted at me the other week that I pushed in front of them. They were standing over the other side of the shop. It was insane. They weren’t even polite. Actually shouted.

NinjaFurtive · 03/04/2025 19:23

People who assume they know better. For example, waiting in a queue for a cashpoint, there are 2 but one is broken so everyone queuing at the working one. Inevitably, every other person comes up, quizzically peers at the broken cashpoint and enquires, is this one not working? Yes, yes it is, I've just chosen to stand here waiting like a lemon and not use it.

Or people who press the traffic light or lift buttons that are already lit up because, hey, you know what? I pressed it when I arrived!!

LadyMary50 · 03/04/2025 19:24

Holeypyjamas · 03/04/2025 18:10

My irritation is shoppers who browse the shelves for ages at the supermarket with their full trolley lined up against the shelf, blocking the whole section.

I had this today at the supermarket,so annoying,a great big trolley blocking the whole section I just pushed it out the way.I take no prisoners when I’m shopping😂

Richandstrange · 03/04/2025 19:26

People who stand to the side in bus queues, just why?!! There's a reasonably straight queue and then one person standing 3 feet off to the side and they don't even take their proper place when the bus arrives and the queue starts to move, just shuffle along next to the queue but not actually in it 🤷🏻‍♀️

WaterMonkey · 03/04/2025 19:28

I get irritated when I’m on a train that’s pulling into a station and there’s someone hammering at the button for the door before the train has even come to a stop. It’s not going to open until it lights up, numbnuts. And then people who want to get on as I’m getting off who won’t give me the 5-10 seconds I need to disembark before forcing their way in.

Karistyleaftea · 03/04/2025 19:30

Those people who absolutely want that space next to you in a 3/4 empty car park .
I had one wave insistently and aggressively at me in a car park today to get out of her way .
I was just going to wait for her and tell her how she was rude and needs to calm down but my companion said save your breath , those folks are always that way.
I still wish I had said something though.

AngryBookworm · 03/04/2025 19:32

Agree. If you're in the queue, get in the queue. Also, people who don't understand they have to wait for others to get off a train before they get on.