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Get in the damn queue!

243 replies

TakesallSortsofPotatoes · 03/04/2025 16:58

Is anybody else irritated at people who stand miles away from the queue, so you think they're not in the queue? You either have to ask them if they're in the queue (if you're able to successfully get their attention), assume they're not, because why would they not be standing actually in it and walk past, or wait like an idiot behind them with a huge disjointed queue.

I'm also noticing loitering people blocking gateways, with no regards for anybody else who should need through. What are these people doing?

Anybody else want to partake in a rant at situations like this that irritate you?

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FleaBeeBob · 05/04/2025 10:46

Queue for the bus, people just push in self entitled twats

Panterusblackish · 05/04/2025 10:56

12use12 · 03/04/2025 18:18

My irritation: The impatient hares, queue police and pavement police, who moan about us tortoises who like a bit of space.

I have name changed for this because cancer does not define me and I don't refer to it but it is pertinent to this reply. I have stage 4 incurable cancer (to look at me, you would never know) and use a walking stick to keep me steady. Due to low SATS and fatigue I am very slow, but I still have the right to use what little mobility is left to me. I am usually out with a supporting friend, who walks alongside me as my safety net. Obviously they have to match my speed (or lack of it). In my head I am running at the pace I used to when my health was fitter.

I am NOT apologising for my right to slow-lane pavement space. If I see a potential 'barger' heading towards me, I take a strong stance and stop moving altogether because if I lose my balance, the cancer in my bones will probably mean broken bones if I fall. The amount of folk, usually entitled men, who do make bodily contact and then turn to see what 'tank' refused to move for them, is rare, but not unknown. I am sure my stand-still for just a few seconds may further irritate the folk behind me.

Also being neurodiverse, I loved 'social distancing' during Covid: I enjoy a queue-gap. As I said further up, the queue won't move any faster and you won't get to the front in a quicker time frame. So yes, I am probably that person who others find incredibly irritating.

My further irritations are the 'tutters' as they breeze on by, or try and shuffle me forward by invading my body space in a queue. 😂

I too miss the queue gap. I hate people getting too close.

I also have back and hip issues and when they flare, I have to walk slowly. I've had people nearly knock me down.

Society is very intolerant these days.

BatchCookBabe · 05/04/2025 11:07

Newmumhere40 · 03/04/2025 21:06

Ugh...but the opposite is worse! Why the fuck are you breathing down my neck, it's not going to make the queue go faster!!

I detest this, and have been known to step back and step on their toes Accidentally of course. Wink They're like 'arrrgh!' Angry I don't even say sorry. Can't say sorry when I'm not.

taxguru · 05/04/2025 11:57

Speckly · 05/04/2025 10:35

I won’t walk round them. I just stop in front of them 🤣

I do too! Especially with groups of ramblers who are typically walking 3 or 4 abreast taking up the entire path. They seem to expect you to leap into the hedgerow to let them past. I got so fed up, I now stand my ground and let them bump into me if they're either not looking or arrogantly expect me to disappear!

Topsyturvy78 · 05/04/2025 12:23

Fernie6491 · 03/04/2025 22:56

I used to work in a hospital and its' main corridor (I kid you not ) was a quarter of a mile long. Woe betide you if you were walking to the far end behind a couple of people with walking sticks!

Just a bit too narrow to dodge round one side, so we'd move to overtake on the other side - blow me down, they'd start slowly swaying across to the other side again so we'd move back! It was hilarious , I know they couldn't physically go any faster but it was quite comical sometimes.

Edited

I took my daughter to an appointment at Manchester children's hospital. We were directed to an entrance and told to walk down the corridor right to the end and check in. Then said the corridor is a mile long so make sure you walk right to the end. Or you'll get lost.

Fedupcreative86 · 05/04/2025 12:35

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 03/04/2025 18:02

This may be London-centric, but people who just abandon their Lime or similar bikes in the middle of the pavement with no regard whatsoever for people with visual impairments or mobility problems, wheelchair users, people with pushchairs. Especially if it's fallen on its side! Slowly being tackled by local councils, I believe, insisting they have to be docked in designated areas. Long overdue.

Oh god they do this in Liverpool with those red electric scooters! Drives me mad!

PyongyangKipperbang · 05/04/2025 12:37

Fernie6491 · 03/04/2025 22:56

I used to work in a hospital and its' main corridor (I kid you not ) was a quarter of a mile long. Woe betide you if you were walking to the far end behind a couple of people with walking sticks!

Just a bit too narrow to dodge round one side, so we'd move to overtake on the other side - blow me down, they'd start slowly swaying across to the other side again so we'd move back! It was hilarious , I know they couldn't physically go any faster but it was quite comical sometimes.

Edited

Derby, London Road?!

TigerRag · 05/04/2025 13:43

FleaBeeBob · 05/04/2025 10:46

Queue for the bus, people just push in self entitled twats

Queueing for the bus and waitress because they were changing drivers. Someone pushed in front and wasn't happy at being told by the driver to wait. Did he think we were just waiting for fun?

housethatbuiltme · 05/04/2025 14:57

I also hate entitled angry and aggressive people who need specific praise for doing the bare minimum decent thing.

Like the holding a door thing, you are SUPPOSE to do that as a basic act of being a decent person in a society. I mean what else you going to do? slam it in someones face.

I hold door open all the time, I have never once clocked or counted how many people thank me. I was going through it anyway most time (or occasionally saw someone struggling and choose to help) and the two choices are: 1) hold it like a reasonable person or 2) just walk of letting it slam on someone like a nasty cunt. Its seems an obvious choice to do the acceptable thing of spending a few seconds holding it as to not possibly hurt another person.

I did once however take great pleasure in pointing out (loud enough for passing people to hear) to an entitled and ablest twat who loudly shouted 'your fucking welcome' trying to shame my friend that they are in fact deaf and cannot physically talk (but they did in fact smile and nod which apparently wasn't good enough acknowledgement). They still seemed angry with their defensive 'well how was I suppose to know that', erm... because we live in a diverse world.

Had similar issues with people taking offense to my autistic child not acknowledging them the way they self impossedly deem acceptable, not everyone can just rock up and talk to strangers. Just because you are able does not make you 'better than'.

OutingInfo · 05/04/2025 15:33

TakesallSortsofPotatoes · 03/04/2025 20:49

😂 Always a man scratching his head/balls/arse, and lurking in the inbetween door area in Asda, Morrisons you name it, and they don't move! "Get the hell out of the way I need a basket." They are always the same ones that look at stuff aimlessly in random aisles, with no intentions of buying it. They just wander about, night of the living zombies I swear!

The very definition of a "Loose Man". He's just loitering aimlessly while his wife does the shopping until he's needed to pay and then drive her home..

ifIwerenotanandroid · 05/04/2025 15:59

Mudkipper · 03/04/2025 19:50

Men - and it always is men - who make a big deal of overtaking you at a fast walk and then dawdle along at a snail's pace just in front of you. If you walk past them they will overtake you again.

At this point, I cross the road and walk on the other side.

I had a bloke driving a lorry do this to me on an empty open road once, when I was driving a convertible with the top down. When I realised it was deliberate, I got off the road at the first opportunity & waited for a bit before rejoining it without that plonker on it.

OldMam · 05/04/2025 22:13

My bugbear is millennial women obsessing about their ‘perimenopause’. Get over yourselves FFS.

TakesallSortsofPotatoes · 06/04/2025 12:14

OldMam · 05/04/2025 22:13

My bugbear is millennial women obsessing about their ‘perimenopause’. Get over yourselves FFS.

I cannot say I have really noticed that. What do you mean by this?

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menopausalfart · 06/04/2025 12:32

@OldMam Get over what, feeling suicidal? That's what I had to get over. Complete and utter overwhelming anxiety and depression. Some people breeze through meno, others are not so lucky.

ZookeeperSE · 06/04/2025 12:57

TakesallSortsofPotatoes · 06/04/2025 12:14

I cannot say I have really noticed that. What do you mean by this?

Edited

Going to presume it means their opinion is either that millennials aren’t old enough or that even if they are, they should put up and shut up? In which case, no. 😁

SapphireSeptember · 27/06/2025 02:37

CrushingOnRubies · 04/04/2025 20:26

I do try not to stop at the top of escalators. But I have a huge panic attack inducing phobia of them . I am getting better. But I do sometimes stop and pep myself up a bit. I do try to use lifts but that isn’t always possible.

it’s just going down going up I’m fine.

Bit late, considering it's now June, but I used to have this until I was a teenager. Took my little sister to the loos in House of Fraser in Oxford, stood at the top of the down escalator and couldn't get up the nerve to step onto it. This lovely woman took my hand and helped me down, and said she found it scary too (can't remember her exact wording now, it was around 20 years ago.)

If someone reads this and you were the nice lady in the camel coloured coat helping my awkward teenage goth self down, thank you. I think about it every time I go on a down escalator, especially on the Tube. ❤️

CoffeeCantata · 27/06/2025 06:06

KimberleyClark · 03/04/2025 17:10

People in queues who don’t move when the queue in front of them moves forward.

And people with zero spatial awareness who block access while queuing. I’ve seen cash point queues at a right angle to the street rather than along it, with people having to step into the road to pass. Dumb Britain!

PansyPotter84 · 27/06/2025 09:56

I think it’s a hangover from
Covid and people are still subconsciously keeping 2m from each other.

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