Loving a day to myself to catch up on work while on holiday with my family

[gmfh]

We are currently away on holidays and I am spending a blissful day in our airbnb by myself just catching up on work. Dh has taken the kids out for the day. It's so lovely not to have the noise, the demands, having to keep everyone happy. And yes, I have to do work - marking at that so not the most fun of jobs. Does anyone else enjoy just getting away from their family while on holidays?

My kids do enjoy travelling - they just need me/us to be pretty involved with them. Kids enjoying holidays is still kids needing their parents attention, no?

Agreed that the problem is probably DH and I than the kids.

Yes but kids needing our attention at 5 and 7 isn’t generally a 24 hour slog of problems

Can I ask why the kids aren't in school (not judging just curious if they are 5 and 7!)?

Private
my son broke up on Friday

Ah right ok.

i agree with you - my dream would be to jet off a few days before my husband does, on my own to have juts a couple of days in the sun all by myself. I wouldn't even leave the hotel, just lie by the pool all by myself no one annoying me or pulling out of me

Yes, they both go to a private school so we have longer holidays than state schools, which was one of the reason for going long-haul - in theory they should have a bit of time to get used to the jetlag and the time difference.

Some schools, both private and state, broke up on Friday.

Ok fair enough. But still think that maybe you need to knock these holidays on the head whilst you and your husband are not in a good place as you don't actually seem to want to spend any time together so surely flying around the world to just be miserable somewhere else (at a massive expense) is completely pointless?

You’re not. I used to enjoy it when my partner used to take the kids off to the beach and leave me to it in whatever villa we were staying in. It only happened once or twice while we were there but it was great to get some quiet time to read or paint or whatever hobby I was into. Enjoy😊

Why are your kids aged 7 and 5 kicking you?
Sounds like the marriage is dead, neither of you like the other one and the man sulks and snaps, which is not a good environment for children.

Why is he snappy and sulky by default when he's with his family? He sounds either unhappy or controlling, or maybe both. Either way, I think it needs to change. If I were you in the situation, I would rather hide away and get on with some work as well!

Your marriage sounds pretty dead, to be honest. I’m not sure I could live with it, but if you can (albeit in a way that’s set up so you pass like ships in the night so you don’t spend any time together), maybe just stop travelling together; or doing anything that changes that status quo?

Will your dh get a day to himself?

My kids do enjoy travelling - they just need me/us to be pretty involved with them. Kids enjoying holidays is still kids needing their parents attention, no?

But you don’t want to spend the time with your kids on holiday, you’d rather be working on your own.

And you have mentioned many reasons why the holiday you have chosen doesn’t suit your children.

I mean, if you really can’t bear to spend time as a family, why not spend the day with one child each parent? It’s really sad that you don’t want to spend your holiday time with your young children.

This all sounds quite depressing for everyone op.

why bother with expensive holidays to exotic places if you’re squirrelled away working and your kids aren’t enjoying