To think there are too many useless men / manchild's!

[ThatFairDeer]

Sorry I just feel the need to vent! But when reading so many OP's posts about their DH's either not bothering with mother's day, getting it woefully wrong or whatever I feel the rage. It's 1 day a year! Every year - it's not something new that has only started this year!! And when the shoe is on the other foot you can be damn well sure that on Father's day there's cards, and gifts and maybe even a nice meal!!

As mother's what are we doing that men are ending up like this!? We need to raise our boys better - so that they become better men!

Am I the asshole thinking that too many men are self entitled assholes who expect to be looked after, lifted and layed with some of them even abusive or violent!

True, ALL men are playing golf and have their dinner cooked. I overlooked that insignificant detail.
Hold on, dear, this friendly team in white coats is ready to escort you to your happy place.

You're a card!

My XMiL had 3 sons and a husband and ran after them the whole time. They did absolutely nothing to help around the house. When we got married, she told me I'd have to lay out his clothes every night for him to wear to work the night before as she'd always done that for him and he'd expect it and wouldn't have a clue what to wear. Needless to say I didn't and couldn't care less if he went to work looking like a sack of tatties. He soon learned.

The responsibility for ensuring boys become adequate men should not just be down to mothers.

Omg same 🙄

Tough shit. Men are fucking useless.

So true! All this complaining about men, just stay single if you hate them so much. It's what I intend to do. Oh but no babies that way...just have to suck it up then.

The problem really shows when you have children. If the man suddenly refuses to do ANYTHING ('well, you wanted children' or 'I have to work and you're at home anyway' or 'can you just do these things while I'm busy with work...') then SOMEONE has to care for the kids and make sure that the house isn't squalid. Sometimes it seems that it's only women who care. Some men think housekeeping is all about matching guest towels and choosing curtains, they don't seem to realise that keeping the place clean is essential (or they don't care).

This isn't all men, of course, but it does seem to be a very high proportion of the ones I know (and know of). They just don't care if the table isn't cleared after meals or nobody's dusted or hoovered for months. Then they plead that they 'didn't know...'

I have ADHD and struggled dreadfully as a single mum to five. I knew I HAD to keep the place clean and tidy, despite it being very very hard to apply myself, but I feared the kids being taken away if I didn't. So I did it. Left with their dad they were in squalor after a weekend, and he's NT.

Oh absolutely "EX-HUSBAND" if only he'd engage with the solicitors and get the financial settlement done so that I can get the decree absolut and be done with him once and for all!!

Yeah... pretty much proving my point.