Living alone best bits

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I'm living alone , and it's fairly new
So far things I'm enjoying are

1. No stinky night smells from DP
2. I can always have time by myself at home if I need it (DP was a homebody)

What are your best bits?

Peace, and control.

I can enjoy hosting friends and then at the end of the evening, I can relax completely knowing it’s just me and my cat.

Everything in my flat is there because I chose it and I want it to be there.

If I want company I can go and find it, but it’s an active choice instead of a default.

Well it's just me and dd almost6, if that counts

Being able to shamelessly gobble my food down in front of the tv (and in bed 🙈)
No man burping around me and pestering me for sex
No man using my toilet for poops
No man giving me his unsolicited opinion on things

🤭🤭

Doing what I want to do, not what someone else does.

Best bit is living alone.

All of it. Lived alone for nearly 30 years, still love it.

I was in a relationship for 10 years (stupidest decision I ever made) and after that had to gradually work my way back to being able to be afford to live alone, via lodging & shared houses.

On the day when I was finally able to close my own front door I cried with happiness.

Not having to watch Coronation Street was an instant plus when my ex had gone.
Things stayed in the fridge, exactly where I left them, no empty packets or beer bottles left beside the TV.
No snoring!
Utter bliss!

You can chose the food, the music, the television etc.

Less stuff around.

Never having to use a wet bathmat

Everything. No snoring, own bed, no negotiating. Now after 15 years of not living with a man I am about to buy a house with my partner. I am slightly bricking it but it’s big enough I can hide 🤣

Hope this subject post don’t cause any break ups 😅

I’m a bit surprised there haven’t been any posts yet saying ‘I live with my DP / DH and I have all these things too!’

They'll come.

I'm happily married but love the odd night when DH is away working -

All the room in bed
Eating snacky bits for dinner instead of cooking
Watching really rubbish telly!

Everything. There are no downsides. Just me, my two dogs and my little cat. No more arguments or being shouted at. Utter bliss.

Peace and quiet
Control of TV
Full financial control
House temp how I want it
Decision making
Socialising on my terms
Kings size bed to myself
No scuzzy boxers or socks left around the place
No wee spray on the toilet
No one grabbing at me
Only stuff in the house that I like
Eat how I like
I could go on...

Divorced nearly ten years, nearly 3 years since last relationship, non cohabiting. I really don't think I could tolerate living with someone again.

I think that’s the difference between being on your own as a novelty & doing it long term.

It can be much too easy to get sucked into not bothering to cook, so I bought a couple of recipe books & try a new recipe every weekend, then freeze portions so I have home cooked ready meals - and do the best ones again when I’m cooking for friends.

I know there are loads of good recipes online, but part of my reasoning was that if I paid for the books I’d feel the need to use them!

Not being observed the whole time. I find it exhausting being watched (even if the other person isn't aware they are doing it.

Less to clean. More peaceful.

Having the bathroom to myself

Mornings.

The bed and duvet to yourself!!

Everything.

To quote, er ... Westlife, 🎵 it's us (me and the pets) against the world 🎵

😍

Ex DP had peyronies and would 'dribble' on the floor around the loo and I'd step on it in the night. He'd refuse to sit down to pee.
Also his meds would make him extremely gassy.
He wouldn't allow me to hoover when he was home as he had sensitive ears. I was hit a few times for it.
Happy with just me and Dcat as you can imagine !

Me and H are separated as he "needs space", and although I was devastated at first, now after two months I'm enjoying being on my own (well with DC and Dcat). The house is tidy, jobs get done because I don't have anyone telling me not to do things because "I'll get around to it". H is a fussy eater and cooking is easier, I bought myself some decent speakers so I can listen to whatever I want and sing along (badly), I don't have to talk to anyone, and I don't need to be his therapist and fix his mental health issues.

I've always liked being by myself and after 17 years of living with someone it does feel like a bit of a luxury. He's still deciding what to do about our marriage etc., but if he suddenly wanted to move back, I think I would hesitate. (I do still love him though and I'm sad he's gone but he was hard to live with as he really struggles with his MH).

If I want to leave a mess? I made it, I fix it. If I want to keep it clean? My benefit, my time, I do it.

I want to leave the house? I do it when I want.

ANY decision I can do 100% myself. No negotiation, no discussion.

Of course, I live with my husband and son, and haven't lived alone since 2011. But I must admit I give short shift to people moaning about the "single tax".

The single tax is money, the couples tax is compromise.