Living alone best bits

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I'm living alone , and it's fairly new
So far things I'm enjoying are

1. No stinky night smells from DP
2. I can always have time by myself at home if I need it (DP was a homebody)

What are your best bits?

Being able to buy nice food and not having to moan at someone because they pinched it

I live with my DP, two children and a dog and I sometimes like to fantasise about how I would decorate all the rooms in the house and what I would use them for if they were all just mine!

When I lived alone, I used to like sleeping in a star shape, having a big stack of books next to the dining table, and mixing myself one perfect cocktail before dinner. I also enjoyed the total freedom of no-one else knowing where I was or what I was doing.

There’s a thread at the moment from someone whose cat wants to sleep on her bed, but it won’t work because the cat wants to be in and out, and she can’t have her door open because she lives with other people.

My girl and I don’t have that problem. All doors remain open (extremely well insulated new build flat) so she can wander in & out of my room at night as she likes.

All of the above, plus, no walking into the kitchen and finding all the cupboards and drawers left half open as though we have a poltergeist. Wtf's that all about?

I’m married so don’t have this anymore, but my favourite thing used to be when I’d cleaned and tidied up, it stayed clean and tidy. There was no going to bed with a spotless kitchen and waking up to find the toaster out, crumbs everywhere and a butter caked knife in the sink because he’s had to rush off to work. Or the sofa cushions all squished in the wrong way. Or a million other little signs of cohabitation. It just stayed exactly how I’d left it. I love him, but I really miss that.

Oh God, how long have you got?
Not having to check plans with anyone
Having the decor exactly the way I want it
Only needing a cleaner once a month
Stretching out in bed
Can have my girlfriends over at the drop of a hat (my partner is a little anti-social)
I can keep the house tidy
Less mess, noise, cost

I am quite fresh out of a relationship where DP always said we'd move in together but it never happened (not my choice and I was devastated at the realisation at the time).

Prior to that I also had a male lodger-which was great for finances but utterly unbearable in every other way!

I just love the 'me' time without having to make an appointment. Not having to consider anyone else. I can make a mess and not clear it straight away-it is only me it'll affect.

My lodger used to comment on EEEEVERYTHING I did. What time I ate and what, same if I went to bed early/ late or got up early or late. I am a loner by nature (only child) and I found it quite exhausting. Commented on every little habit I had-usually with negativity. So much happier alone, it is worth the financial hit.

I do worry a bit that, after my ex and I split, I just am not suitable to live with anyone forever now. I used to want nothing more than a family and love or at least a partner to share things with. But stuck with my freedom now, I am not sure what I'd be like to live with having been so used to only having myself to answer to.

I had a DP who always thought my cleaning was me being ‘passive aggressive’ - no, you’ve just been lying on the couch all day and the living room needs cleaned!!!

I love being able to just decide now is the time to hoover, clean the kitchen, dust, change bedding, and I can get it done in 10 mins and move on.

I also love that I can choose my favourites for dinner over and over, the TV only plays what I want, I can get the takeaway of my choice, and full use of the wardrobes!

Not being constantly disappointed by the other adult in the house not seeing anything that needed doing without being told. Yes it’s all down to me now, but it’s still a weight lifted.

Not having to adapt my enjoyment of food for his very limited palate. Losing all the weight that came with no longer having to choose between the bland beige dinners or having to make a whole other meal for myself, or just cracking and ordering a takeaway. Not being made to feel bad for not wanting to sit in every evening just eating endless crap because there was no chance of a date night.

Rediscovering a social life and not being made to feel guilty/like I’m getting dressed up to impress other people. Letting my hair down with no pressure. Getting dressed up without being made fun of for trying to be more feminine.

Not being constantly pawned at/treated like a walking sex doll at any given moment.

When the kids are at their dads, just the absolute peace for a day. That’s all I need to ‘reboot’ but it’s heaven. Having a long bath, watching whatever I want, not worrying about meeting anyone’s needs but my own for a good few hours, honestly better than a spa day!

I'm a big fan of silence. No TV, no radio etc. I do watch the odd thing some evenings, but other evenings I don't. So silence is a big one for me. I don't want another persons "noise".

Freedom. Never having to consult with someone else on anything. I can travel on a whim, which I have done. Décor choices all mine. Spend my time and money how I like. Never having to compromise.

Emotional security. Not having to consider someone might cheat on me and the pain that would bring. Or, on a smaller scale, not having my day ruined because my partners in a mood about something. Or being upset by a thoughtless/hurtful comment.

My life is calm and happy and I have no plans to ever change that.

I'm a big fan of silence. No TV, no radio etc. I do watch the odd thing some evenings, but other evenings I don't. So silence is a big one for me. I don't want another persons "noise".

Yes. I can only stand one voice speaking at once. It drives me nuts when the TV’s on & people are talking at the same time for instance - if you want to chat turn it off! Or if people talk to me when I’m reading or something.

Been single and living alone for 12 year now for me it is ALL OF IT never want a man to live with me again.
I love my peace my spotless home and i can be selfish its all about me.
Do what it want when i want how i want with who i want go out when i like come back when i want sleep with who i want and french exit in the morning.
Holiday my own way all my money is mine.
Just everything life is better.

I'm a big fan of silence. No TV, no radio etc. I do watch the odd thing some evenings, but other evenings I don't. So silence is a big one for me. I don't want another persons "noise".

Yes! My husband can't fathom how I can sit with the TV off if he's not there. And MIL likes TV on for background noise whilst she's looking after our toddler - there's enough foreground noise when he's around, let alone background.

Not having to host other people’s nasty family members.

No compromise

No criticism

I will never ever live with anyone again.

This guy and his 4 friends.

Not being constantly disappointed by the other adult in the house not seeing anything that needed doing without being told.

And actually worse than that is when very obvious jobs are left for hours/days/weeks/months and when you finally cave and start doing them yourself, they rush to the scene asking if there's anything they can help with, like some kind of demented boy scout. Look around you, mate, there's plenty to go around.

Knowing where stuff is.
Snacks not being eaten by others.

You don't need to consider anyone else.

Want to watch TV in bed? You can.
Want to clean at 6am? You can.
Want neon pink curtains? You can.

I lived alone for a few years when my two DC were at uni and I absolutely LOVED it! I cannot describe the joy I got from everything being where I left it, food remaining in my fridge unless I myself had eaten it, the bathroom being a haven of loveliness, dirty crockery only found in the dishwasher not dotted randomly around, the silence and being able to wander around freely in my undercrackers or less should I so desire it. It was bliss!

The bloody buggers are home again now and not showing any signs of moving out soon and although I love them to pieces, they drive me nuts.

I stay with DP at weekends or he with me, but that is quite enough. Couldn't face living with him either.

You have full control over decoration and what's in the house

You're only clearing up after yourself

Endless peace/quiet time

Eating what I want when I want . Going out whenever I feel like it without having to consider anyone else or pay for them . Going on holiday when and where I want and not having to book and pay for anyone else or sort out what they need to take . It can occasionally be lonely but I love it .

Just being able to do things to suit yourself.

What to eat.
What time to eat.
Flexibility really - being able to be impulsive without it impacting on others.
How high (and how often) to have the heating on.
Making your own choice about whether it is important to have cleaned X or Y immediately, without either feeling guilted into doing it then, or ending up doing it all.

100% control/autonomy over my life and decisions. Not having to compromise.