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To think I am completely fucked if PIP changes happen?

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PIPsqueakybum · 31/03/2025 23:40

I get standard rate PIP due to having CFS. I’ve had CFS for 10 years and at the moment I’m going through one of my ‘better’ phases, during the bad phases, which can last weeks or months, I am virtually bed bound, and although I manage my condition as much as possible through pacing, stress is a big factor in making it worse so one majorly stressful event and I’ll be back to square one. I am self employed and manage at the moment maybe 10 hours of work a week, which is better than no hours which is where I was for many years. This is in part due to finally winning my battle for PIP and being able to afford therapies which have helped me have at least some kind of a life.

To give you an idea of an average day (bearing in mind this is as good as my health gets), here’s what I did today:

7.30am woke up as usual feeling completely unrested, aching and like I’d been hit by a truck.

8.30am drove teenage DD to school. Already felt completely exhausted and had to stop at a garage on the way home for a rest and to buy a can of coke to try and wake myself up enough to drive home.

9.30am got home and got back into bed to rest, as I had a meeting at 1.30pm and I felt too tired to manage a conversation. Fell asleep for a couple of hours.

12.30pm got up, had a pot noodle for breakfast/lunch, as I didn’t have the energy to make anything else.

1.30pm met up with potential client, which went well and I have some work as a result of it, but was left completely wiped out by having to be ‘on’ for an hour.

2.30pm got back home, tried to do some jobs around the house but was too tired and went back to bed to rest and then slept for another hour.

6pm got up and put a pizza in the oven for tea.

7pm - now, rested in bed, aching all over and watched TV/zoned out for the evening.

This is a typical day, and I repeat this is as good as things get for me. The fact that I was able to get DD to school and go to a meeting is a HUGE improvement on where I was for years, but CFS is a fluctuating condition and I could very easily be back to being completely useless.

If the proposed PIP changes happen, I will lose my PIP, and ergo also lose the LCWRA element of UC. It was a long battle to get PIP and I don’t have any more than 2 points in any descriptor. I will then be on the basic rate of UC, and my self employment will not be seen as gainful so I will be expected to job search for 40 hours per week, and will be sanctioned and lose further money when I can’t do this. I honestly can’t do any more than I’m doing, and even what I am doing now is a struggle. I’m doomed aren’t I?

OP posts:
pinkfloralcurtains · 01/04/2025 06:53

PIPsqueakybum · 01/04/2025 00:15

No the nutrition isn’t good, but to eat non-processed food (ie make meals from scratch) requires energy that I very rarely have.

Who is feeding your daughter? Is she being fed more nutritious food.

Differentstarts · 01/04/2025 06:54

SecretSoul · 01/04/2025 04:49

PIP and LCWRA are not linked for existing claimants.

Even if the changes go through, if you're already in receipt of LCWRA, you'll continue to receive it. LCWRA isn't dependent on receiving PIP and any changes are only being applied to new claimants. Even if you are re-assessed and no longer qualify for PIP, you won't lose LCWRA as it's different criteria for existing claimants.

So hopefully that means things won't be as bad as you fear.

Secondly, you really do need to get a handle on your eating.

I am autistic/ADHD and am fucking terrible with getting things done. I live with three disabled people, and someone else who's on long-term sick as they collapsed with a neurological condition which isn't improving. Believe me when I say I understand the challenges of disability and the impact it has on your life.

You need to change your patterns of thinking. You stopped at a garage to buy a can of coke - you could have picked up something there for lunch at the same time that's healthier than a pot noodle. There are plenty of semi-decent options at garages. Also, coke isn't going to help you. You'd have been better off picking up fruit juice - that has natural sugars to give you energy without all the shite, and it would contain some nutrients.

You say your DD's food is sorted every week without any issues. You need to figure out what changes you can make to keep some healthy food indoors for you too. Completely understand that you don't want food that's going to go off if not used, but a PP gave you some brilliant examples of grazing food that would be better and would last - nuts, healthy snack bars, quick oats for porridge, frozen fruit etc. If you can make a pot noodle or chuck a pizza in the oven, you can manage all of these and your body would be better off.

When you struggle, you need to do what you can. Take the little wins. Manage the little things. It doesn't sound as if you're doing that. You're probably exhausted from managing your condition but it's a vicious circle. The worse you treat your body, the worse you will feel. Eating better won't magically heal you but it will help you cope. Everyone feels lethargic and achy on a diet full of shit. When you have a condition like CFS, this will be amplified a million times over. If you have a sugary/high caffeine drink like coke, when the inevitable blood sugar crash happens, anyone would feel like they could do with a nap, but more so you.

I'm not unsympathetic at all. I'm absolutely furious with Labour and feel so very let down. I'm terrified about what the future will hold for my disabled DC.

And worst of all, no one really cares. The country is in such a state that everyone just wants things to be better, and they believe the hype around lazy claimants and made-up disabilities.

But that's exactly why we need to be doing the best we can. I understand some things just aren't going to be possible for you, but there are small changes you could make that would make an infinite difference. Figure out what changes you could make and determine to make one small change each week. For example, this week get registered with Lloyds online pharmacy - it takes five minutes and you don't even need to ring your GP to re-order your prescription. Maybe next week, add five items to a list of favourites at an online shop. Over the next few weeks, add five more items each week until you have a basic shop saved. Then whenever you need to shop but don't have the energy to put together a full online order, you only have to make about four clicks online and a delivery will be on its way. No distraction, no reason not to have healthy food at home for you.

Take it as slow as you need to but make a plan for yourself. It's easy to feel hopeless when there's no end in sight. But no one is going to look after you, so you need to look after yourself.

My mum has cerebral palsy so I was a young carer. She now lives with me as an adult. Living with a disability is exhausting, unfair, and just shit all round. It's really easy to stop making the small changes that are possible because it all seems like too much.

Do you have antidepressants? If not, do you need them? If you do take antidepressants, does the dose need to be increased? Conditions like CFS can take a real toll on your mental health. Taking antidepressants doesn't mean it's all in your mind - CFS is real but the ongoing exhaustion often leads to co-existing anxiety/depression etc which can make everything feel even more of an uphill battle.

The written word doesn't always translate terribly well, so please take this with the kindness it's intended. Nothing is going to make you feel magically all better, but giving your body the best chance to keep on slogging through really is important.

Is this right because how i understood it is when your reassessed if you lose pip daily living you lose lcwra

Smleps · 01/04/2025 06:55

Hayley1256 · 31/03/2025 23:57

OP - not the point of the thread but have you looked into eating more to help with CFS? I had it really bad for a few years but now have it mostly under control to the point where it doesn't affect me day to day anymore. Eating to fuel my brain and body along with pacing really helped me. I would eat around 6 or 7 time a day, sometimes just fruit and nuts, cereal etc. After a few weeks I really noticed a difference.

This is exactly! Your diet seems so awful and would make everyone feel worse. Heslthy meals can be really quick and easy.

category12 · 01/04/2025 06:57

Wouldn't a can of soup (or beans on toast) be better than a pot noodle?

I mean it's still processed, but at least some semblance of vegetables and meat in a Big Soup, for example. Couple of minutes in a microwave instead of boiling the kettle.

Emanresuunknown · 01/04/2025 07:01

Hayley1256 · 31/03/2025 23:57

OP - not the point of the thread but have you looked into eating more to help with CFS? I had it really bad for a few years but now have it mostly under control to the point where it doesn't affect me day to day anymore. Eating to fuel my brain and body along with pacing really helped me. I would eat around 6 or 7 time a day, sometimes just fruit and nuts, cereal etc. After a few weeks I really noticed a difference.

This. Instead of eating a shit pot noodle, buy in some basic supermarket ready meals that might contain some actual vegetables. They are no harder to prepare than a pot noodle which is complete crap and is not going to help your condition?!
You also don't mention what time you went to bed. Try going to bed earlier to get more sleep overnight and maybe stand a chance of achieving something in the morning?

Bananafofana · 01/04/2025 07:01

I was diagnosed with CFS by a GP and rheumatologist . I now eat every couple of hours, low carb, high protein, 7 servings of fruit and vege a day. I can work 30 hours a week but if I ate pizza, coke and pot noodles I too would be bedridden.

JollyGreenSleeves · 01/04/2025 07:01

Everyone is right about the diet being a contributing factor in the tiredness. I would put money on you being vitamin d deficient- and unless you’ve specifically asked for that test they don’t do them on a full blood count. Also they won’t flag results that are the low end of a ‘normal’ range that are likely causing issues.

Also, perimenopause- what age are you? Anywhere from 35 onwards and you can start experiencing brain fog, insomnia, extreme exhaustion, body aches etc due to fluctuations in hormone levels.

Differentstarts · 01/04/2025 07:04

People need to focus less on op specific situation and focus more on how disabled people are supposed to live and pay bills with no money as this is the actual problem that nobody seems to be able to answer. I wrote to my mp asking this and I got a real crappy generic response that still hasn't answered the question.

SecretSoul · 01/04/2025 07:05

Differentstarts · 01/04/2025 06:54

Is this right because how i understood it is when your reassessed if you lose pip daily living you lose lcwra

Not actually 100% sure now tbh!

I was quoting a disability rights website that was saying explicitly that if you qualify for LCWRA before April 2026 then you won't go onto the new structure (and is still saying the same thing). This would be nice if it's true, but other sites are suggesting this isn't correct....

What is looking more accurate is that PIP changes are being re-assessed under the new rules from November 2026. So for existing claimants, that means whenever you are due your first review after that date.

But your Universal Credit claim and LCWRA element won't be affected until 2029 as the WCA isn't being scrapped until then.

Therefore, even if your PIP is stopped in November 2026, your LCWRA under UC shouldn't be affected until 2029 at the earliest, which is when existing claimants are being migrated. Apparently.

Screenshots attached of the apparent timeline.

To think I am completely fucked if PIP changes happen?
Livingbytheocean · 01/04/2025 07:06

I have the same as you, and also RA and I manage to work by doing one day on and one day off. With a half day and it works okay with a rest day. You probably could manage to increase your hours to 25/30 if you were able to structure your day well, and work flexibly which is key.

It is awful. But I would feel even worse if I didn’t try and keep a life going.

Please ask to see a nutritional therapist too, they can help you plan super quick meals that are high in nutrition, but are very fast to prepare. Salads, stir fries, nuts and fruit take almost no time to prepare and will enhance your energy levels.

Cold showers can work well, yes you will scream a little at first, but it resets and the blast can really work to reenergise the body. Only do this on low pain days though. High pain days I try to have a hot bath and do the opposite.

Retraining and doing a job that works around your condition IS possible but will need to be researched carefully. Mayve expanding what you are doing now?

Op, please try not to worry. You might struggle even more if your stress levels are high.
Have you tried electrolyte drinks? I find they sometimes help too. Best of luck 🙏🏼

PrincessHoneysuckle · 01/04/2025 07:10

SwornToSilence · 01/04/2025 00:11

I've read your message and am empathetic about your situation. I'm curious about your diet: a can of Coke for breakfast, a pot noodle for lunch, and shop-bought pizza for tea. The nutrition is not good. Perhaps try a diet that aligns with the 'eat well' plate to help your energy levels. I'd be tired all day if I ate all that processed junk.

I thought that too

Livingbytheocean · 01/04/2025 07:10

Also using up precious energy to drive your dd to school isn’t a good use of your time if she can walk, assuming she can get the bus too. I have to be super strict as to what I take on op. Anything that isn’t essential is not considered, I delegate as much as possible too.

Save your reserves for work, to bring security. Don’t prioritise other people. Ensure you are in bed early every night and your sleep routine is super clean.

Differentstarts · 01/04/2025 07:14

Livingbytheocean · 01/04/2025 07:06

I have the same as you, and also RA and I manage to work by doing one day on and one day off. With a half day and it works okay with a rest day. You probably could manage to increase your hours to 25/30 if you were able to structure your day well, and work flexibly which is key.

It is awful. But I would feel even worse if I didn’t try and keep a life going.

Please ask to see a nutritional therapist too, they can help you plan super quick meals that are high in nutrition, but are very fast to prepare. Salads, stir fries, nuts and fruit take almost no time to prepare and will enhance your energy levels.

Cold showers can work well, yes you will scream a little at first, but it resets and the blast can really work to reenergise the body. Only do this on low pain days though. High pain days I try to have a hot bath and do the opposite.

Retraining and doing a job that works around your condition IS possible but will need to be researched carefully. Mayve expanding what you are doing now?

Op, please try not to worry. You might struggle even more if your stress levels are high.
Have you tried electrolyte drinks? I find they sometimes help too. Best of luck 🙏🏼

But this is again is what I wrote to the mp about as I do work part time and I think this is an option for some disabled people. But I wouldn't be able to pay my bills and the extra costs of being disabled from this without pip and lcwra. My consultants are spread up and down the country a lot of my pip goes on the cost of taxis for these as I can't take public transport and then obviously aids and carer. Then my lcrwa is to top up my wages to pay bills. So what am I supposed to do if I lose this. To be able to afford everything I would need to work a 60 hr week. In the past when iv tried to work more hours I always ended up hospitalised for weeks at a time which meant more time of work and losing more money as don't get paid first 3 days.

Pricelessadvice · 01/04/2025 07:16

I was diagnosed with ME 30 years ago. Please try and look into diet and foods, because it truly makes a difference. I know it’s hard when you feel like death, but eating pot noodles is going to make you more unwell. I cannot touch them or they make me flare up within hours. I think it’s the additives and rubbish in them.
I credit my survival and return to normal life down to a combination of diet and paced exercise.

Ubugly · 01/04/2025 07:18

OP how is your sleep at night as this thread went on very late, I would be dead on my feet if I was only getting a few hours a night.

Andreser · 01/04/2025 07:19

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Andreser · 01/04/2025 07:19

Ubugly · 01/04/2025 07:18

OP how is your sleep at night as this thread went on very late, I would be dead on my feet if I was only getting a few hours a night.

Another of you. This is not the cause of her illness.

Andreser · 01/04/2025 07:20

category12 · 01/04/2025 06:57

Wouldn't a can of soup (or beans on toast) be better than a pot noodle?

I mean it's still processed, but at least some semblance of vegetables and meat in a Big Soup, for example. Couple of minutes in a microwave instead of boiling the kettle.

The number of people who seem to think OP was looking for nutritional advice is unreal.

SabbatWheel · 01/04/2025 07:20

Your diet is shit. You will feel a lot better with a high protein diet and you don’t have to cook from scratch to achieve this. Start with bagged salad and pre-prepared chicken slices, avocado, eggs etc and see how you feel.

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Livingbytheocean · 01/04/2025 07:29

Differentstarts · 01/04/2025 07:14

But this is again is what I wrote to the mp about as I do work part time and I think this is an option for some disabled people. But I wouldn't be able to pay my bills and the extra costs of being disabled from this without pip and lcwra. My consultants are spread up and down the country a lot of my pip goes on the cost of taxis for these as I can't take public transport and then obviously aids and carer. Then my lcrwa is to top up my wages to pay bills. So what am I supposed to do if I lose this. To be able to afford everything I would need to work a 60 hr week. In the past when iv tried to work more hours I always ended up hospitalised for weeks at a time which meant more time of work and losing more money as don't get paid first 3 days.

I see my consultants mostly on zoom, and my local GP does my bloods etc. Why are you seeing consultants around the country, and why would they expect you to travel in your condition?

MushMonster · 01/04/2025 07:30

I am sorry OP for the stress this is causing you. I do have hopes that they do not punish disabled people, so the changes may not be as hard as it sounds. We are going through PIP and UC for a family member for first time now.

category12 · 01/04/2025 07:30

Andreser · 01/04/2025 07:20

The number of people who seem to think OP was looking for nutritional advice is unreal.

It's the only bit that's relatively easy to improve and might make a difference.

Can't do sod all about the government's plans etc.

MyNameIsX · 01/04/2025 07:31

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 01/04/2025 05:26

Blown what cover ? She’s absolutely right. Labour are a bunch of hypocrites - wolves in sheep’s clothing. The Tories wanted rid of disability benefits but at least they were upfront about it. Labour kept quiet until they were elected and then launched an all out attack.

This one ‘fix’ to PIP is going to throw thousands of genuinely disabled people off the benefit and save millions from the welfare budget. It will also end any associated claim for carers allowance for those who lose PIP. I bet the Tories are kicking themselves that they never thought of it. Nothing about this is about better supporting genuinely disabled people, it’s purely about the money.

Unfortunately what they’re not telling us is that the knock on effects in the care system will significantly eat into any savings they make. Unpaid carers take much of the strain off local authority care services. As people lose PIP and associated carers allowance support, unless they can claim attendance allowance, ongoing care will be pushed back onto LA’s, who, in many cases will have to foot the entire cost.

Many voted for Labour simply because they thought that Labour would protect their interests - that has now clearly been proven not to be the case.

For all their faults, the Tories called it - time and time again. It is fruitless to blame them now - this is Labour’s to own.

StMarie4me · 01/04/2025 07:34

PIPsqueakybum · 31/03/2025 23:52

Honestly this is how I’m feeling too. I only make maybe £300 a month in earnings but if I lose that as well as losing PIP and LCWRA, I literally won’t be able to survive. Maybe that’s what they want.

My DD28 has CFS, PTSD, ADHD, depression, anxiety and severe asthma.

She believes they want disabled people to die. It’s not good for her feelings of worthlessness. I have been a single parent to her fur 23 years. I worry so much about what will happen when I’m no longer here.

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