Shit mothers day anyone?

ladygindiva · 2025-03-30T21:07:55+00:00

Competitive thread for those whose mother's day was shite like every other day. In my case because autistic DD in full meltdown mode before I'd even got out of bed, I have a horrendous chest infection but still had to go to work and toxic abusive ex gave me a mouthful of verbal abuse and now usual Sunday night shite of DD spiralling about school tomorrow. There's more but I'm too tired and ill to type. Come aboard and cheer me up by telling me how crap your day was. Pity party, all welcome.

Whattodowithateenager · 30/03/2025 22:12

I’m sorry to hear this 😞 mine was shit but yours sounds worse (sorry).
My 13 year old hadn’t bothered getting a card or even saying Happy Mother’s Day. She is hard work at the moment generally. My husband hadn’t bothered to remind her or to help facilitate buying of a card or reminding her it was Mother’s Day. Spent the whole day cleaning and getting organised for going on holiday tomorrow while he lounged around and then went to the golf. Meanwhile on social media it felt like every other Mum was being spoiled and treated to lunch/dinner etc. I’m so pissed off tonight but trying to put it behind me. Same every year!

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ladygindiva · 30/03/2025 22:17

It's the lack of effort from those you love can be so hurtful. Your husband should have made more effort. Sorry you had a shit day. I hope you enjoy your holiday.

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kimbo1980 · 30/03/2025 22:19

My ex gave my son some chocs and biscuits, wrapped up in cellophane, to give to me.

That he won in a raffle on Friday.

😂

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ladygindiva · 30/03/2025 22:19

And looking around you and seeing everyone else being spoiled and having a lovely day etc makes it so much worse. Kind of why I started this thread, to feel less alone in my misery I guess 🤣

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ladygindiva · 30/03/2025 22:20

kimbo1980 · 30/03/2025 22:19

My ex gave my son some chocs and biscuits, wrapped up in cellophane, to give to me.

That he won in a raffle on Friday.

😂

That's lame 🤣

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gamerchick · 30/03/2025 22:23

No pity party here. I dug out the last MD card my daughter got me and spent the afternoon sorting through her clothes and shoes and handbags for charity.

Finding half my lost wardrobe in the process. Little bugger. Then found a pile of old photos in the same cupboard so had a few memories going through them. She was a mint kid

Sorry yous have had a shit one though. I firmly believe in carving out some time just for yourself when you feel taken for granted. Something totally selfish for a bit. The world won't fall apart.

Whattodowithateenager · 30/03/2025 22:25

The perils of social media. Keep telling myself that comparison is the thief of joy. Lots to be thankful and grateful for here but for some reason, this day makes me rage and feel emotional for no good reason! My husband is generally a helpful decent guy but today…. 🤬

I hope you feel better soon @ladygindivasounds like you have a lot going on ❤️

beasmithwentworth · 30/03/2025 22:25

Sorry to hear yours has been shit. Mine was ok but only because it was so terrible with the lack of effort last year I told them (both teens) that I was really pissed off with them and that I work hard 365 days a year for them and it’s not on to make zero effort on Mother’s Day.so I did get a handmade card signed by both, and breakfast in bed. I also went out on a blossom walk with my friend which was the highlight of my day! Other than that it’s been cooking, cleaning, bed changing etc. Set your stall out now for next year OP and let them know it upset you this year. I also made it clear the last week or so. I don’t have a partner and my ex is shit so I had to!

I might seem forced but it taught them a lesson.. and I also think it’s teaching them about the importance of letting the people in their lives know that they are appreciated.

I hope you feel better soon

Whattodowithateenager · 30/03/2025 22:30

@gamerchick- this helps put things in perspective so thank you. And I hope you are doing okay x

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ladygindiva · 30/03/2025 22:31

gamerchick · 30/03/2025 22:23

No pity party here. I dug out the last MD card my daughter got me and spent the afternoon sorting through her clothes and shoes and handbags for charity.

Finding half my lost wardrobe in the process. Little bugger. Then found a pile of old photos in the same cupboard so had a few memories going through them. She was a mint kid

Sorry yous have had a shit one though. I firmly believe in carving out some time just for yourself when you feel taken for granted. Something totally selfish for a bit. The world won't fall apart.

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I can't think of what to say but I send you my best wishes xxx

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Pieceofpurplesky · 30/03/2025 22:35

As @gamerchicksaid OP make some time for you when you can - doesn’t have to be today. Today just exacerbates it because of social media posts and crap. Lovely day as a mum as DS made a whistle stop visit from university overnight and went back today. Shit one as a daughter with a dementia mum. She’d been bloody horrible to me all day and ate the chocolate DS bought me! I would laugh but it would turn in to tears at the loss of such a strong and amazing woman.
so I had a long hot shower and read for ages in bed. A real treat for me.

Gamerchick I am glad you found some lovely photos to bring back some happy memories.

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ladygindiva · 30/03/2025 22:35

beasmithwentworth · 30/03/2025 22:25

Sorry to hear yours has been shit. Mine was ok but only because it was so terrible with the lack of effort last year I told them (both teens) that I was really pissed off with them and that I work hard 365 days a year for them and it’s not on to make zero effort on Mother’s Day.so I did get a handmade card signed by both, and breakfast in bed. I also went out on a blossom walk with my friend which was the highlight of my day! Other than that it’s been cooking, cleaning, bed changing etc. Set your stall out now for next year OP and let them know it upset you this year. I also made it clear the last week or so. I don’t have a partner and my ex is shit so I had to!

I might seem forced but it taught them a lesson.. and I also think it’s teaching them about the importance of letting the people in their lives know that they are appreciated.

I hope you feel better soon

My kids are both young and both SEN and their (absent) fathers not a nice person these days so today is pretty much par for the course. TBF they did make me cards, breakfast etc but they can't help how incredibly hard work they are. Which is maybe easier to accept than a selfish teen. I think the day would have been ok if I wasn't do bloody ill.

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ladygindiva · 30/03/2025 22:37

Pieceofpurplesky · 30/03/2025 22:35

As @gamerchicksaid OP make some time for you when you can - doesn’t have to be today. Today just exacerbates it because of social media posts and crap. Lovely day as a mum as DS made a whistle stop visit from university overnight and went back today. Shit one as a daughter with a dementia mum. She’d been bloody horrible to me all day and ate the chocolate DS bought me! I would laugh but it would turn in to tears at the loss of such a strong and amazing woman.
so I had a long hot shower and read for ages in bed. A real treat for me.

Gamerchick I am glad you found some lovely photos to bring back some happy memories.

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Sorry about your mum, that sounds hard. My best friend went through years of this with her mum who she lost in the new year to Alzheimer's. She found counselling helped and still does x

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Gowlett · 30/03/2025 22:38

No card or happy Mothers Day, here. Not four year old’s fault.
Was having a lovely day, plan was DH to cook a nice meal…

He had a toddler tantrum in the supermarket, and stormed off. Leaving me to buy the rest of it, then was a complete dickhead first the rest of the day. It’s all my fault, of course!

beasmithwentworth · 30/03/2025 22:41

Op one my teens has SEN (not both like yours) and we have had 5 years of school spiralling and walking on eggshells / meltdowns.. and my ex blames me for it all. It’s absolutely exhausting mentally and physically isn’t it? As you say… everything feels so much worse when you are feeling so rubbish.

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ladygindiva · 30/03/2025 22:43

beasmithwentworth · 30/03/2025 22:41

Op one my teens has SEN (not both like yours) and we have had 5 years of school spiralling and walking on eggshells / meltdowns.. and my ex blames me for it all. It’s absolutely exhausting mentally and physically isn’t it? As you say… everything feels so much worse when you are feeling so rubbish.

Yes, it is! I feel seen. Being ill is not an option is it? Doctor said rest. Megalolz, as DD would say.

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SpringHasSprungg · 30/03/2025 22:44

Mine was nice, I spent time with my three DC and my DM who we were told this time last year only had a few weeks to live, today I felt blessed.

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ladygindiva · 30/03/2025 22:44

Gowlett · 30/03/2025 22:38

No card or happy Mothers Day, here. Not four year old’s fault.
Was having a lovely day, plan was DH to cook a nice meal…

He had a toddler tantrum in the supermarket, and stormed off. Leaving me to buy the rest of it, then was a complete dickhead first the rest of the day. It’s all my fault, of course!

What a dickhead. Hope you got yourself some chocolate/crisps/wine/whatever and didn't share it with the twat.

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Stopsnowing · 30/03/2025 22:45

Kids argued all day as ever - finally produced some cards after prompting from me. Tried to have walk in the afternoon - total moaning.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 30/03/2025 22:45

Whattodowithateenager · 30/03/2025 22:12

I’m sorry to hear this 😞 mine was shit but yours sounds worse (sorry).
My 13 year old hadn’t bothered getting a card or even saying Happy Mother’s Day. She is hard work at the moment generally. My husband hadn’t bothered to remind her or to help facilitate buying of a card or reminding her it was Mother’s Day. Spent the whole day cleaning and getting organised for going on holiday tomorrow while he lounged around and then went to the golf. Meanwhile on social media it felt like every other Mum was being spoiled and treated to lunch/dinner etc. I’m so pissed off tonight but trying to put it behind me. Same every year!

Not the point of the thread but Jesus - he went to play golf on Mother’s Day and didn’t help prep for holiday? What a prince…

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ladygindiva · 30/03/2025 22:46

SpringHasSprungg · 30/03/2025 22:44

Mine was nice, I spent time with my three DC and my DM who we were told this time last year only had a few weeks to live, today I felt blessed.

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That's very special xxx

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shellyleppard · 30/03/2025 22:50

@ladygindiva sorry you are having a shite day. I've been depressed most of it. Woke up to my two sons grumbling because eldest (19) got the card but forgot to remind his brother (16) to sign it. Lost my mum two years ago, my grandad 35 years ago. No gift from either one of my sons either. I did say no gift because of the cost but.... sigh. Time for bed methinks. Good luck for tomorrow x

Whattodowithateenager · 30/03/2025 22:51

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 30/03/2025 22:45

Not the point of the thread but Jesus - he went to play golf on Mother’s Day and didn’t help prep for holiday? What a prince…

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He’s actually normally one of the ‘good guys’ generally but for some reason on Mother’s Day, he just doesn’t think!
To be fair, he offered to make tea but I said no as I’m much quicker at it so maybe I’m my own worst enemy 🤣 he was also getting his own holiday stuff ready as well. I just think as Mums… we deserve one day being just a little spoiled!

gamerchick · 30/03/2025 22:51

Whattodowithateenager · 30/03/2025 22:30

@gamerchick- this helps put things in perspective so thank you. And I hope you are doing okay x

Thank you, I'm alright.

These threads make me feel sad though, were allowed to feel a bit hurt at being taken for granted or seeing all the fluff on SM when we're dealing with the same shit we get every day. Men who can't stand the attention not being on them so they spoil.it in some way. Self absorbed teenagers or adult kids who should not bite the hand that feeds them.

SM especially isn't real. It's carefully selected and not to be compared with really.

nevertrustanyoneagain · 30/03/2025 22:51

Two adult kids. 29 and 26 both still at home. Neither even mentioned Mother’s Day. ‘d’ h says he won’t remind them as they are adults. When younger my mum reminded them but she is dead now because ‘d’ h said that I am not his mother so not his responsibility. Saw loads out with their dm’s today and extra sad as I supported eldest through transition even though I struggled with that. So shit day here.