To deliberately avoid telling my ex that it's Mother's Day?

[BarbaraVineFan]

My XH lives abroad with his new wife and although he supports DD financially (up to a point!)!, I have her completely full time. So this thread is not about him helping DD sort a mothers day gift/card for me, as it just wouldn't be either on his radar, or really possible at all. It's about his mum.

On previous Mother's Days since we have been divorced, I have mentioned on the phone when he has a video chat with DD like he does every Sunday. He's then gone 'Oh, is it Mother's Day? I'd better call my mum.' I don't care at all for myself, but it really pisses me off and it makes me sad that he can't even Google when UK mothers day is and send his old mum a card.

When we were married, it was the old story and it was all left to me. But I am getting annoyed that every year it still becomes kind of my responsibility to remind him. He has a sister but they don't speak often and are not close.

WIBU when we speak later just not to mention mother's day at all and let him take responsibility for once? Or am I being mean?

It isn’t your responsibility and it doesn’t sound like he’s made it your responsibility, you have.

@BarbaraVineFan nothing to do with you! his relationships with your daughter and his mother are his responsibility. I would leave daughter to chat to her dad and tell her just to bring phone or ipad back to you when she is finished. you dont need to talke to him at all unless there is a problem with your daughter!

Apparently Grandparents' day is the first Sunday in October - I would go with that as she is not your or your daughter's mother. She'd probably love a "Best grandma" card.