To switch my phone off when I’m going through a hard time?

[MyHeartyBlueShaker]

Sometimes I just need space but people seem to take it personally. Is it unreasonable to go off-grid for a bit when life feels overwhelming?

You don't have to be available all the time. Switching off is a valuable way to lessen stress - no one has a right to constant access to you.

On the day that we called the police for the welfare check my friend was meant to assist me doing a big catering job (paid). The fact that he let me down without a word and couldn't be contacted made me think he had committed suicide. Does that make sense?

I wasn't angry about having to do the job on my own - it just made me more worried. I've never worried about anyone else like that.

Now, a few years later, we know each other better. He's more open about his needs and I don't worry.

I do understand your need for space though, but that experience hurt me, just like your friends contacting you hurts you.

People find this type of coping mechanism so alien, I had to break contact with people to get them to leave me alone. Most people seem to see a boundary and make it a challenge to cross it.

You’re not unreasonable at all. Enjoy your peace.

@MyHeartyBlueShaker
I do this sometimes. I find that it just filters out the constant noise and phone calls.
My family and close friends can always contact me by text and I will see and reply accordingly.
I work an extremely busy job and long hours. This is the only way I can filter my constant calls and respond to my work email appropriately and keep in touch. I do respond to emergency message or text but my work load can vary.
If it's not urgent or urgent please text me is what my family and friends have been told.
So I understand you. Xx

I do this. Kinda. I don’t turn it off. But I don’t answer messages unless it’s my husband checking in as he works away

I switch mine off when I'm going through a great phase and I'm really happy. I don't want anyone's bs to ruin it for me