To think this is really ignorant of my MiL?

[Countingmysiblings]

This has gotten under my skin, so I’m asking if IABU?

I’ve been married to my DH for 27 years, together 31. I know my PIL, and my DH’s siblings well. There’s only 1 of me, and lots of them and I’m telling you now, if I went on Mastermind with them as my specialist subject I’d win because over the years I’ve had to listen to their every detail.

Also, I’ve spent lots of time with them. Holidays, days out, weekends away. My PIL once stayed with me for a month and spent all day, every day with me and my DC.

So, last week I was talking and my MIL turned to me and said “I didn’t know you had more than one sibling”. Now seriously, WTF? I talk about my family all the time. They are awesome.

This is the tip of the iceberg though. She couldn’t tell you what my mum is called, where I’m from or what my sibling(s) names are.

I’m not even sure if she didn’t actually know I’ve got 3 siblings. I think she deliberately said it to me because to remind me that I’m a nobody (I reckon she’s a narcissist).

I’m just gobsmacked that after all these years, she has taken absolutely ZERO interest in me, or she’s not given up on trying to put me in my place…..in the scullery.

P.S. She knows all about her Dd’s partners.

AIBU

It does sound like this has really hurt your feelings @Countingmysiblings but in all honesty maybe they just done care? I don’t think it’s that unusual. It doesn’t mean they don’t like you, just that’s not their thing. If they are unkind in other ways then I’d just not engage or push back but the knowing my family thing wouldn’t bother me at all.

It is possible but if they have only met a 2-5 times in 30 years, it is not surprising that they don’t know much about them. It is strange that the ILs know all about the other partners’ families. Maybe it’s just because they have more of a relationship with them, maybe they genuinely aren’t interested in OP, or maybe OP thinks she talks about them more than she does.

I am very interested in other people and I have a memory like an elephant. I was very close to one of my in laws, I saw them several times a week, I could tell you a million stories about their childhood, their parents’ life stories. Now they live on the opppsite side of the country but I could still tell you what their DC are up to etc. Yet, I discovered they had a half sister I didn’t know about when I got married. Actually, I did “know” all about them, but they always referred to them as “my sister” and I assumed they were talking about their other sister, who I had met 🤷‍♀️

She would remember the information if she gave it a fleeting thought, she is purposely being ignorant.