Would you see your partner whilst working these hours?

[Witchy789]

You live 40-45 minutes away from your partner. Your work is about 20-25 minutes away from your home. No children or other responsibilities.

Your working hours are 1pm - 9:45pm at night. (Partner’s working hours aren’t relevant).

Would you see your partner on your working days given the hours and travelling distance, or would you wait 6-7 days and see them on your days off?

Well their working hours are completely relevant.

If I could see them in the morning before I started work, have a nice brunch date, I would do that.

They are self-employed and can work around any other plans, their hours aren’t relevant.

Probably not. If they go straight from work to partners, how long is that? I think partners hours are relivant as if they have to get up early in the morning you won't even see each other then. Would it make more sense for other partner to be at theirs when they get home a bit after 10?

But that info is relevant isn’t it? 😂

So yes, I would see them a couple of days before starting work as they are free.

Partner’s house to work is roughly 35 minutes. Would probably have to leave around 12:15. We both get up early, around 7:30am.

No, as they can pick and choose working hours from home, so can easily work around other person’s shift hours.

It depended how long into a relationship I was, I’d probably go round after work for a shag, then do the date part over brunch before work the next day!

Oh no, I wouldn’t personally. That’s a long working day even if it’s at an odd time, I would be going home!

It would all depend on whether the partner was willing to drive the 45 minutes to see me, whether I’m expected to go there, or whether we meet somewhere in the middle. Also depends on if they live in the same or opposite direction of my work, and also, how tiring the job is.

Would I want to do a round trip of 90 mins driving before setting off to work knowing I wouldn’t be finishing til nearly 10 pm? No. Would I be happy if they were to come round my house with a bottle of wine and a takeaway when I finished work? Yes.

I'd go out for breakfast or maybe lunch if DP was willing to meet me near work. I used to work similar hours before I had children and would meet people for breakfast.

I think I'd want to see the person I love and care about as much as was physically possible. So yes. If I could see them in the morning or on a free day, I absolutely would.

Completely agree about after work. But if you was waking up at 7:30am and didn’t start until 1pm, with nothing to do in between, you wouldn’t maybe do breakfast one day in between visits?

Yes, I understand. What I am saying is that is relevant info. If they worked 9-5 you wouldn’t be able to have lovely coffee/brunch dates would you?

But as it is, you can. I wouldn’t bother with evening dates if working that late.

We live together and go 6-7 days without seeing each other 🤣 I might see them
in the morning I guess.

At least nce a week, yes for a nice brunch date, or even at home 😉

Probably wait until weekend unless meet half way for breakfast/brunch

I’d drive to partners after work, stay overnight then be there in the morning to spend time together. Or have partner drive to me. Works both ways!

But I’m not an early bird and wouldn’t be getting up at 7.30 am if I didn’t get back from work til after 10 pm. So what others may or may not do in this situation isn’t always relevant.

I'd probably meet them for coffee or similar once a week ..maybe depends how close you are (it's been years since I've dated).

I think when you work a shift like that (1-10pm essentially) you develop a different routine to someone who just works days, though you say they still get up early. Since there's no time to go anywhere after work, when I worked those hours, I used to do exercise, shopping, house chores etc before work so I could relax after. But I would have met someone for coffee or brunch for an hour or so.

I’d reevaluate the relationship if it was this tricky to see each other. It sounds quite one sided.

So leaving work at 9.45pm they would reach the partners house approx 11pm but don’t have to be in work the next day until 1pm which means leaving the partners house approx 11.30am the next morning.

i would maybe once a week go after work and do the above scenario but depending how serious you both are maybe also ask the partner to come to my house one night too and spend the night with me after work -approx 10.15pm

It’s not tricky, because this is just one of the shift patterns they work, and the other patterns doesn’t present this issue.

At that time of night, they would reach the house at approximately 10:30, maximum because of no traffic. They would have to leave around 12:15 for work the next day. Other partner can’t stay at their house during the week because of pets and children on their side, but partner prefers the other partner’s house anyway because it’s quieter. (They live below neighbours who are really noisy and up all night)

Yes they can sleep at yours one night when u finish work. Have tea and bed together coffee in morning before they go work

Yes, before work.