To think that grief vultures are just as bad as those who disappear?

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Over the years, I’ve had my fair share of people who vanished when things got tough but I’ve also noticed another type: the ones who suddenly pop up when something terrible happens, acting overly concerned, but it feels more like they’re feeding off the drama than actually caring.

I’m not sure which is worse - the ones who don’t give a shit or the ones who seem to treat grief like a spectator sport for their own attention. Has anyone else experienced this?

I've had nosey fuckers asking me exactly how my adult ds took his own life.

Sometimes you just have to laugh 🤣

I'm a bit crap with grief to be fair my friend died and her family couldn't clear the house out so I did it for them I'm good at the practical stuff and I think they appreciated it we still keep in touch a little but one of them is sick (dementia) I'm afraid reaching out will remind them of the death and upset them again

Fucking hell, sometimes I read things on here that make me despair over all the idiots who walk this Earth. I am so sorry you had to encounter insensitive arseholes like that. How awful.

I have a grief thief...my best friend died extremely unexpectedly and I got an almost gleeful phone call from a mutual "friend" informing me.

It was horrible.

That's not being a grief vulture, that's being kind and massively helpful to your friends parents whilst grieving yourself.

I guess only you know what's best about contact. They may welcome the opportunity to talk about their child. Looking after someone with dementia must be incredibly lonely.

I must reiterate - either way, you are not a grief vulture.

This is my MIL...my husband calls her the grief jacker!

Firstly sorry for your loss.
How stupid has someone to be to ask that?
I've had friends who chose to end their lives and I think the ins and outs should remain private to them and not for public consumption outwith the family affected.

My DH’s DD is exactly like this. She loves other people’s troubles. “oh it’s been a niiightmare! A niiightmare! I was at the hospital with her for hours/ I had to go to her house at 11pm/I had to go round every day/I had to take her to Liverpool … ooh it’s all been happening this week… ooo it always happens to meee!…”
But she seems to lack any real sympathy. She’s a pain in the arse. Definitely a grief vulture.

Jesus, I'm sorry you had to deal with people like that, you sometimes wonder if people are deliberately twats or just monumentally stupid don't you.