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To think friend is over-reacting?

30 replies

kayzisexpecting · 14/05/2008 12:30

A friend of mine is planning to complain to the council/housing association(sp) about her neighbour having friend stay over.

The story is that her neighbour has just had a little boy, I think he is about 9 days old now(and gorgeous). She asked a friend to stay the night when she went into labour to look after her DD as she and her DH were going to hospital. They have no family nearby.

Anyway my friend says all people that sleep in the house should be known by the council even if it is for one night so she is complaining.

I told her I thought she was being a bit silly and she is in a mood with me now.

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chamaeleon · 14/05/2008 12:32

she is being absolutely ridiculous and a complete arse. i feel really sorry for her poor neighbour, she could cause a lot of upset doing that. last thing she needs if she has just had a baby. i would have said more than you did

hertsnessex · 14/05/2008 12:32

she is being a total cow. i dont think the council will really do much about it though - surely.

mrsruffallo · 14/05/2008 12:32

This is bizarre. Is there more to it?
If not, your friend needs to get a life

swiftyknickers · 14/05/2008 12:33

what a horrid woman

Tommy · 14/05/2008 12:33

so, are council tenants not allowed to people to stay over uless they let the council know?

That's where all my council tax is going obviously

misdee · 14/05/2008 12:34

she is being totally mad and the council will laugh.

WanderingTrolley · 14/05/2008 12:34

There is more to this story.

Either your friend has ishoos or there's something else going on.

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kayzisexpecting · 14/05/2008 12:34

Well I don't think the council will do anything. She isn't bringing any money in.

I don't know if there is more to it Mrsruffallo, my friend hasn't said anything other than that. But she got into trouble for having her DP staying nearly every night so I think thats her problem.

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2shoes · 14/05/2008 12:35

your freind is being silly. you can have people to stay for heavens sake.

2point4kids · 14/05/2008 12:35

how ridiculous! is your friend normally that petty?

chamaeleon · 14/05/2008 12:36

thats totally different about her dp, she is being really spiteful. i doubt they will do anything, its just bound to be really upsetting for the neighbour full of newborn hormones

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kayzisexpecting · 14/05/2008 12:37

She can be very petty. She was pretty upset I couldn't go on her pub crawl for her 21st.

It was the day before my due date and she said I could have planned it better so I wasn't pregnant for her birthday.

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minouminou · 14/05/2008 12:38

what a horrible thing to do
hope you can dissuade her

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kayzisexpecting · 14/05/2008 12:42

I am going to keep trying. I don't know if the council will contact her neighbour about it or not but I know when DS was a few weeks old it would have been the last thing I needed.

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WanderingTrolley · 14/05/2008 12:43

And you are friends with this person because....?

yurt1 · 14/05/2008 12:44

she's confusing co-habiting with having someone to stay for a few nights.

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kayzisexpecting · 14/05/2008 12:45

She was the first person to talk to me when I moved here. She was my only friend for a few months.

She annoys the hell out of me though but I can't bring myself to stop being friends with her.

Maybe I should stop being so nice.

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fym · 14/05/2008 12:47

...just run that one by me again

she wants you to go on a pub crawl the day before your due date???? What planet is she on?

fym · 14/05/2008 12:49

a pub crawl ???? here!

I could barely walk and certainly couldn't (wouldn't even think to) plan a birth around friends and families birthdays.

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kayzisexpecting · 14/05/2008 12:52

Yes. Pub crawls bore me at the best of times but not when I am close to giving birth.

She thinks I should have checked the dates so I wouldn't have missed it.

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ladymariner · 14/05/2008 12:57

She is mad!! Try to break away from her, and whilst you're doing so tell her she's being extremely unreasonable in "reporting" her neighbour! That should get rid of her

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kayzisexpecting · 14/05/2008 12:58

I think I might have to. DH hates her so its a bit differcult sometimes.

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nervousal · 14/05/2008 12:58

well of course she's right - how inconsiderate of you to have sex 9 months before a pub crawl night out - you really should have planned things a bit better. Let this be a lesson to you for next time.

(Have you told the Council you'll be having a baby staying with you soon??? )

BouncingTurtle · 14/05/2008 12:59

'She can be very petty. She was pretty upset I couldn't go on her pub crawl for her 21st.

It was the day before my due date and she said I could have planned it better so I wasn't pregnant for her birthday.'

Did she seriously say that? What planet is she on??????

If you wanting another baby, don't forget to check her diary before you do the deed in case the due date is inconvenient for her.

Yes she is being incredibly petty. Is there any mum and baby groups you could go along to to meet some other mums for friendship? Alot of groups welcome expctant mothers. Or you could just strike up a friendship with the neighbour, she sounds like a sensible sort!

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kayzisexpecting · 14/05/2008 13:00

Yes we have told them but we're still waiting for a bloody house.

DH is partially disabled and we live in a first floor flat so in need of a house.

My friend did say if they got kicked out for having this friend stay over we might get their house. Which I think I would hate. She pops over unannounced enough when she is half a mile away.

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