You don't need a day to thank your mum and/or dad

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I always thank both of my parents every day. It does not require a day to do this.

It's nicer to randomly buy flowers, chocolates etc. Same goes for Father's Day with drink, socks, sweets/chocolate.

I have noticed restaurants for MD are doing similar things to Valentine's Day - limited menu and more expensive than normal.

Some people go really OTT with MD. If I buy anything, even a card, I get told off.

Of course you don’t. It’s nice though. If you don’t want to celebrate it, then don’t. Let others who do want to celebrate in their own way. Obviously businesses will try to take advantage of these days and commercialise it. You’re under no obligation to partake. I love mothers and Father’s Day. I don’t expect everyone to.

Agree completely and as far as Im concerned my family can let the day pass and I wouldn’t give two shits BUT even though I thank and treat my mam periodically throughout the year I think she’d be really upset if I didn’t mark the day so I do. Same with DH and his mother

If you have one or both parents no longer around, some people feel upset and it gets to them. A friend lost her mum unexpectantly on MD (a stroke) and seeing all the banners and stuff in shops upsets her.

Not a need, but why not? As long as it is not hypocrisy and you are being ungrateful 364 days a year.

We have Gay Pride Events and Black History Month why on earth wouldn’t we have Mothers Day?

I have an abusive mother and sometimes on mother's day I feel a bit sad that I didn't get a Mum. It is what it is though, I wouldn't want everyone to cancel it because it feels bad for me. Everyone is going to lose their mum at some point, more reason to take every opportunity to celebrate the good ones while you can.

There's no need to celebrate birthdays, or anniversaries, or the birth/death of a man who may or may not have existed 2000 years ago.

But we do.

If you dont want to, that's your prerogative. If you do want to, that's fine as well.

You do you. Don't bother with it if you CBA. Let other people celebrate if they want.

What pisses me off is when people berate things like Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Valentines Day etc, and say 'but I show my love and care all year round, I don't NEEEEEEED a speshul day to do it!' as if people who buy for these specific days aren't arsed with the person the other 360+ days of the year. If anything, people who make a fuss on certain special days, make MORE effort all year round (than the ones who CBA with these days) not less.

We couldn’t have children and have no surviving parents, so Mothers’/Fathers’ Day is a non event now. We do celebrate Valentine’s though.

There’s no need to do NEARLY EVERYTHING. But why do you want to use that as a reason to piss on everyone else’s chips? Why don’t you start a thread saying I thank my mum and dad every single day? Instead, you’ve told everyone who wants to have a Mother’s Day that you really think they’re quite pathetic because YOU thank your parents every day.

fwiw nearly all of us can’t actually get a sleep in often or have our family prioritise us, in our case we are both full time and the dc love sport so that’s half our life. It’s lovely to think actually we will go out that day, and have a nice sleep in too. Is it really necessary to criticise this? Does that make you happier?

I totally agree with you, it’s shops using it to make money. The people who I see that do the most fuss of these days are people who live far away from their parents and only see them a couple times a year; I’m sure those parents would prefer to see their children more often and be a proper part of their lives rather than being sent an expensive boquet of flowers that the children then show off on facebook

It upsets me too. I lost my mum in February but I can't expect the world to change because of it. Things to do with my mum will always upset me Mother's day, her birthday and Christmas but I will have to just keep going. Loads of people celebrate it so I just avoid going out much at the moment.

I'm so sorry. 😢

You could say the same about birthdays or any celebration really. I don't see the harm in having a "special day" for something or someone. It's a pretty shit world so one day to acknowledge a significant person in your life shouldn't be any great hardship and it can bring that person a little happiness. I always bought my mum a card and some flowers for mother's day but it doesn't mean I ignored her or told her to get stuffed the rest of the year! It's daft to suggest that people who celebrate mother's day behave like this.

Also, and something that people don't even consider - mother's day is a godsend for florists, card manufacturers and people employed in hospitality. It brings much needed jobs and overtime for thousands of workers and is particularly great for independent businesses like restaurants and gift shops. It's all very well to sneer about commercialisation but it does help the economy.

When we have a society that adequately recognises the unpaid contributions of mothers to families, then I'll agree we don't need a day to note it.

Anyway, celebrations are nice. I enjoy having my family get together.

You can send a card and appreciate your parents every day! You can find restaurants that don’t offer overpriced meals.

Yeah you could take your mum to macdonalds every day

You're under no obligation to partake whatsoever. But do what you want to quietly and mind your business about those who do want to celebrate. It doesn't give you any sort of superiority by deciding not to.

We also do not need a special day to eat chocolate eggs or open presents under a tree but we do. Mothering Sunday is a church event. It is part of the Christian calendar linked to Lent.

Not everyone takes part in Christmas or Easter etc. You are not obliged to join in with Christian festivals.

If you don’t like it, that’s fine.

You don’t need to stop anyone else if they enjoy it.

I agree OP. Much more genuine when you do random things on random days rather than on commercialised, forced days.

No one has to participate in Mother’s Day or Father’s Day if they don’t want to.

Different families have different levels of expectation about how to celebrate. You can have a lovely day celebrating without spending lots of money or going anywhere near a restaurant.

If you have lost a parent then these days are additionally upsetting of course, but sad things are part of the cycle of life and have to be borne by us all.

Yes much more genuine to celebrate people all through the year, rather just their birthday, including jesus!

Okay. And?

As sad as it is that your friend (and many others) has lost her mum, the world doesn’t stop turning. Other people can enjoy celebrating.

Can I ban that advert on Youtube with the Katie Hopkins-like character saying "so what have your kids got planned for Mother's Day? I'm going to have a scrummy breakfast..."