Do you get granny's a mother's day present?

[Lavender14]

My sister gets my mum two mother's day gifts, one from her and one from my nieces. I don't get her one from my son as she's not his mother and buy her a gift from myself. She thinks it's unreasonable not to buy grannies a mother's day gift from their gc. What do others think?

Yabu - I buy an additional gift from my child to their granny

Yanbu - I only buy one gift from myself to my mum.

Depends if the grannies do a lot of mothering imo. If my mum, sister, aunt… was picking up my kids from school, doing lots of childcare and other mothering tasks then I would buy them a gift from my child.

Isn’t it technically Mothering Sunday rather than Mother’s Day or did I imagine that ?

i do, but its because i'm divorced and my mum has a very active role in my kids lives.

Of course I do.

I give gifts to my mother, and both my grandmothers.

DH gives to his mother and his grandmother.

My DC give gifts to me, their grandmothers and their great-grandmothers.

They are still a type of mother and giving a gift to my grandmother doesn’t mean I love my mum any less.

Same applies to grandfathers on Fathers’ Day.

We are a very close family though.

I did, she loved getting a card from the kids every year and she was an amazing mum/grandmother.

My godchild sends a card and I think that is overboard, her mum is one of my children’s godparents and I can’t bring myself to reciprocate

Get your mum a grandmother's gift on grandparents day. First Sunday of October in the UK. Not sure when it became a UK thing but it's been an American one since the 70s.

I think it depends on the relationship . My kids buy MIL one but not my mum. This is because MIL plays a huge part in their life

As PP said - their is a Grandparents day in October. If your children MUST give Granny a gift I think it should wait until then. (and IMO its not necessary at all really a posie of daffs should be plenty)
I think Mothering Sunday has hugely got out of hand. I saw a card in the shop this other day - to Mother from the Dog!!!.... I mean I know sometimes pets ar referred to as fur babies but that takes it too far in my opinion - I mean - it's not like the dog it going to read and sign a card is it!!!!

My godchildren send me gifs on WhatsApp now (many, many Bibbidi Bobbidi Boos) but used to be a card when they were little.

Yes - I'm a single parent and my parents have helped massively with childcare and support since my DC were small, so both grandparents get a present and card from my DC on mother's day/father's day.

Aside from anything else, in primary years my DC would have had no one to give Father's Day cards made at school to if not my dad (though DS did make a card for his pet fish once!)and then my mum would be the only one not getting one. My mum also takes my DC to get my mother's day presents and card so I think it's more than fair.

But that's our set up, other families have a different set up and what makes sense for us doesn't for them. There's no one size fits all.

Edited for spelling

No, that's odd.

Having said that, you can buy Mother's Day cards saying "from the dog" and suchlike nowadays.

Yet strangely it is really really hard to find a card that mentions Stepmothers.......

My mum does do a lot which I do really appreciate but she also does have form for feeling quite hard done by no matter how much effort goes into gifting which I think is a big part of me begrudging adding an additional gift to the mix when I'm already getting her a spa day and as a lone parent with a very young dc I don't actually get anything myself and money is tight. Not that it's a big deal that i don't get anything, even ds is older I'll help him with that but that's why it irks me when I'm put under pressure to make a big fuss from ds for someone else.

Dd sends a card from grandson and a card and a present from her likely because as a single parent I conspire with grandson to buy her a present and card from him.

When I was a single parent my DM would take my DC shopping to buy a gift for me.

Maybe suggest your DM do that for you instead of thinking how hard done by she is.

Or tell her the very generous spa day is from you and your DC.

I help pick gifts/cards for DSs grandma and great grandma, we do have regular contact with both though. If they expected it I’m sure I’d begrudge it, but they don’t and seem thrilled and surprised every time.

When we went to Sunday school ( 70 years ago in my case!) we were given a small bunch of violets to take home to Mum, in addition to the card we’d made. Simple, sweet days!

Gosh no, it's become so commercialised. We have only ever done small gifts, not massive gestures. We already have plans for mother's day so I have given my mum her card and bunch of flowers already. DH I believe has ordered his mum flowers (lives further away) but that is entirely up to him. I do recall her when the children were younger dropping hints about mother's day and having something as a grandmother but I ignored it, it's not about her in relation to my children (as much as she would like it to be).

I used to get my grandmother a mother’s day gift. My nephews buy my mom a mother’s day gift too.

They even wanted to get me one once till their mother gently explained the meaning of mother’s day to them!

DGS has made or drawn me something for mother's days. DD always adds his name to the card and gift. But I certainly wouldn't expect or demand it.

It sounds like you are very generous and appreciative of her efforts. Maybe when ds is older, he can pick something small for her like some daffodils ?

I know it’s hard not getting a gift. When mine were in primary school I’d wait outside Card Factory while they picked something for me with money that I gave them so they could give me a card and gift.

My kids both loved an 'occasion' day, right from being tiny. There's no way they'd ever have passed up on an occasion to make a card for someone! My granddaughter is of the same ilk (she sends me cards for no reason at all!) so I wouldn't be surprised if I got a mother's day card from her! I wouldn't expect one though.

When my grans were alive I sent them cards/took flowers if we were seeing them on the day.

One for my aunty too!

It’s a nice gesture but it’s not mandatory.

No. If I had a different kind of relationship with my mother I probably would.

It’s Mother’s Day, not grandmother’s day. Every year my DH asks me if his card to his mum should have our kids names on. Every year I have to explain to him why not.

My daughters help pick a card and gift for my Mum on Mother’s Day, I did the same for my grandmothers when they were alive so I feel I am carrying on the tradition.

By contrast, my mum receives gifts only from the children, never from me! She's one of those "you don't need to get me anything types!" So this way I can get around it by claiming that I didn't 😁