To think this is extremely odd thinking of my chum? Cheeky fucker alert.

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My DFriend 5 children have nearly all left home and they're looking to downside by selling and moving to a smaller property.

They want to give their home a good lick of paint and replace the bathrooms, convert an out building to a home office and a secondary outbuilding to a sauna and steam room (they already have a lovely pool) to maximize the value.

DH and I are currently working and sorting out some family admin in our home country for 6 months and have left our 2 DD happily at home (1 at a local university, 1 working casually on a gap year prior to traveling in the summer).

DF's father works in construction and will project manage the work and has recommended 2 excellent young men to do the 8-12 week work on their property. They lodge wherever the work is.

I'm over for a short weekend and met her for coffee yesterday, she's asked if these two lads can lodge at ours (we have 2 spare rooms) while the work is carried out.

I think my face told her how bonkers I thought her request was, but I kinda stuttered and said it wouldn't work for us, and why don't they stay in one of their spare bedrooms? Apparently her older left home DC don't want strangers in their childhood rooms, and she doesn't really want to have to have to engage with strangers in her own home.

AIBU to this a most ludicrous unthought-through request?

Ooh she did say that they'd pay their way.

Sounds like you've said no and agree it's an odd request especially as she doesn't want them in her own home! CF behaviour.

She wasn't unreasonable to ask, but you are not unreasonable to say no.

Yes it's a bizarre request but you've said no and presumably she accepted that? Maybe just put it down to stress or desperation on her part. Has she history of making strange requests like this? If not, try to forget it and move on. If it's a pattern, that's different.

I'd have had to ask "so you want ME to have upheaval from long term "guests", to add value to YOUR home? Do your children not realise that strangers will be living in their "childhood rooms" when you sell? Sure, I'll do it for 10% of the selling price, I'll get the paperwork drawn up and we can organise witnesses to the signing."

But my friends would never ask such a ludicrous favour from me as they know they would get a response exactly like this.

I would say no and move on, it doesn't have to be something out of a soap

She wanted to move 2 unknown men into your house with your daughters??

Absolute cf. And yes , it's unreasonable to even ask.

How utterly bizarre. "I don't want this in my home, would you like it in your home?" Currently 100% YANBU on the poll!

With your 2 daughters in the house ???
Great idea to move 2 strange men in with 2 young women ! !
Has she no respect for you , your daughter's and your home ?
That would be a very strong no from me plus I'd be questioning whether I'd want this cheeky fuckery in my life.

It wasn’t a well thought out request but not cheeky fuckery. She might think you could do with the money and that being two rather than one young woman alone, your DDs could cope with male lodgers more easily. Also they would be out all day. You’ve said no, just move on now.

Very CF. They sound pretty rich, I’d suggest they pay for proper lodgings for the builders.

Am I the only one thinking that the whole situation is bonkers? ‘They lodge wherever the work is’ - surely not in the actual property normally? I can think of nothing worse than having building work done and having to put the builders up in my home and talk to them all evening too? What happens if something goes wrong? So I don’t blame your friend trying to offload then to you - as it’s your FiL’s firm maybe she thought you knew the men? Or maybe she didn’t realise your DC were at home? Not worth falling out over though!

I agree that she was not unreasonable to ask. Of course you can say no.

This! Tell them to get local digs.
I wouldn’t have two strange men staying in my house either. Bizarre

Tell her to do what my daughters boyfriends boss does when he has to work away. He rents a property for them for the length of the job, Airbnb, booking.com etc

She asked. You said no.

That's fine.

They can stay in a local B&B as they would do usually. This about your friend saving money on her project. It'll be cheaper to pay you than pay commercial accommodation rates plus a per diem for the two workers.

Your CF DF is probably going to waste money doing up her house if she intends to sell and downsize. If it's an expensive property it will be more attractive with an outbuilding ripe for conversion than a sauna (unless the house is in Finland) and a dated but functional bathroom someone can change to their taste is more sustainable than putting in something more modern which may not be to a buyer's taste.

So she doesn't want the intrusion of two men staying her home but thinks it's fine to expect your DDs to live with them when you and DH aren't even at home ATM? Thoughtless and CF in my opinion.

I agree.

This is usually the advice given, you won't make the money back on the sale.

I love a CF thread, watching with interest, but you aren’t being unreasonable

My aunt lives alone and travels a lot for work, she air bnbs her home to contractors, she prefers it to tourist type bookers because they are there short term usually only Monday to Friday, not having parties etc, come home from work cook dinner watch TV, go to bed get up early. It's usually the company she deals with rather than the contractors who will be living there. It's not uncommon.

Yes. No need to make a drama out of a crisis, op.

Not cheeky no. She knows you're not living there. She asked if you wanted to rent out any rooms. I don't see what the problem is personally.

It doesn't mean they lodge in the property they are working on - but in digs nearby. I often have people in my Airbnb for a few weeks at a time as they are working in the area.

I voted YABU but only because you can just say no 🤷‍♀️