Are you happy to spend a day doing nothing?

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Just that, really. I have a fairly busy life, but I really relish a bit of ‘nothing’ time. Not leaving the house on a Sunday, reading my book and eating a takeaway is really quite heavenly.

I was discussing this with a friend and she was very much of the opinion that she’d feel horrible and guilty if she ‘wasted’ a whole day. The general feeling being that she needed to productive, get out and about, and do stuff. Every day.

I found this really interesting. There’s lots of different kinds of people, and that’s obviously fine. However, in this respect, are you a ‘could never waste a day’ person? Or a ‘happy to lounge’ person? (If you’re a person who would be happy to lounge only after doing stuff, then I’d consider you a ‘could never waste a whole day’ person).

YANBU: happy to lounge
YABU: could never ‘waste’ a whole day

Another one of those with no guilt about indolence.

I feel there is a lot of pressure to be active, productive and "doing stuff" all day every day. I don't subscribe to that at all, but still get the necessary things done.

There is a balance. A slow, easy day with nowhere to go (can stay in pjs/loose clothing and skip the morning shower oops) is just so so nice.

I have done nothing for the past 2 weeks but lie down watch telly and sleep because I’ve been knocked for my feet by a virus.
Other than that though I don’t enjoy just doing ‘nothing’ for hours on end.
I need to get outside for a bit, even just for an hour, otherwise I feel a bit groggy/grotty.
I do love relaxing with my book or watching some tv but it’s never the sole purpose of my day.
So I don’t think it’s a case of Yabu/Yanbu,
more personal preference.

My husband is your friend and I am you!

I fund it fascinating that he genuinely can’t just chill. He just can’t. He’s very routine driven so had a set routine for everything - washing, ironing, cooking, shopping, gardening and house stuff etc seems to get such joy from getting it all done. I let him get on with it tbh. And he’s quite happy. He finds it motivating and de-stresses him from work apparently.

I love do nothing days. I can
spends days dozing, reading a bit, having a snack and repeat and still sleep well at night. He can’t.
Plu la difference 😊

I love a do nothing day as long as everything is done. Doesn't happen very often but I have so nothing chunks of time during an afternoon or an evening which is always necessary.

Ive just had an hour long nap. Yes, I was at the gym all morning but nonetheless the joy of feeling relaxed and rested is exactly what weekends are for!

I generally work at least one weekend day so doing nothing one day means something not done for school week/ work week/ house etc. love the sound of it but it just wouldn’t work here

I absolutely love a nothing day but I do tend to feel guilty, which is ridiculous because I work hard and should spend my free time however I want but I think feeling guilty is just part of being a mum.

I definitely need a nothing day though and so I try and do it without the guilt.

My weekends are pretty much always spent doing nothing and it’s absolutely amazing!

Today I had a lie-in, had an “everything shower”, had a coffee in the sunshine, watched some TV, messed about on here and now I’m back out with the dog and a cat enjoying the warmth. Heaven!

I used to feel like this because I grew up with 'you have to get dressed and do something with a day.' but being busy for busy sake is pointless. I am busy during the week and on Saturdays with various clubs for the children that doing nothing but relaxing, watching TV is a god send. I don't feel guilty anymore but see it as filling my own cup.

Essential to my good humour to have time to decompress. Soak in the bath and lie around in a dressing gown drinking tea, with the cat.

it’s my IT equivalent of “turn it off and turn it on again”. Clear cache!

Anything that brings me joy is productive. It produces joy.

I like to "potter". I might do a chore or two, read a while, work on my craft hobbies, spend a bit of time in the garden. The day just flies by.

My sister is like your friend, always has to be out and about. I find it utterly exhausting and not very enjoyable a lot of the time. I can't stand being out just for the sake of it. That feels far more a waste of my time than a day spent at home doing what I enjoy.

Listen, some joyless bastard decided at some point that adult humans should toil for 5 or 6 days of the week and only relax on one day. I get two days off, and I'm absolutely spending as much of that doing fuck all. I deserve leisure time too!

Last week I was up early to take a kid somewhere and then fell asleep on the couch for a FIVE HOUR nap. Now that was annoying, I missed out on a lot of loafing in front of the tv.

Same here

A day enjoyed is never wasted. Doing nothing is bliss

I'd be delighted to have a day doing nothing. Never happens though because I always have a backlog of stuff to do. If I could have one day just resting, I'd be sooo happy.

But you can "get out for some fresh air" without doing something? Going for a leisurely walk or even a brisk walk is different to going for a walk and popping into Asda or whatever.

I used to feel really guilty if I wasn't doing something most of the time.
Now, if I want to spend hours reading a book, or binge watching a series or film, I will.
DH says if I am reading or watching, I am not doing nothing.

Well going for a walk is obviously doing something isn't it,?

😭😭 I'd never regret wasting a day, sorry

A day spent in front of the tv, playing around with self care stuff and eating 🤭🤭

I'm convinced that when I'm on my death-bed, I will not regret the time I spent pottering about, listening to music, eating cheese and crackers and most of all, reading. I'll see it as time well-spent, not wasted. But we are all different and what suits some of us is frustrating and miserable for others.

Yes? Did you not read the second sentence of my post? Having a walk as a leisure activity I would consider the same as reading a book as a leisure activity. Going for a walk and tagging in a trip to get some shopping I would not.

Would love to but always feel guilty!!!!!!!!

I love having a day with nothing to do and nothing planned. Sometimes I do end up going out or doing something in the end but having nothing planned is the dream!

I'm having a day of doing nothing today and it's been so needed after a shit, very busy start to the year. Had father in laws funeral yesterday so we are happily shutting the world out today and recharging.