Would you be offended if someone said you lived in a rough area?

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In recent weeks the area I live in has been targeted for burglaries and car thefts. I’ve never known it like this before and I just mentioned it to a colleague and she said “well you do live in a rough area”.

Colleague who at 30 has never once lived away from home. She then admitted that she doesn’t know anything about the area 😳

(it’s not rough, there are more expensive areas which are more desirable or areas further from the city centre that are quieter etc)

No it’s been said to me and I’ve not been offended

I wouldn't be offended if I thought it was true. Doesn't sound like she had a lot to base her opinion on.

it would depend on whether it was rough or not.

Yes, its a rude thing to say

Well no becsuse it is rough.

Seems an odd thing to say if she doesn't know anything about the area.

😂

No but my area is rapidly gentrifying and it sucks because I've already moved once because of gentrification.

It sounds like she doesn't know what she's talking about so 🙄. Car thefts and burglaries are nothing.

It’s rude.

It’s the kind of thing that a close friend or family member could say in some contexts, in a jokey way, but not otherwise.

No. I can’t see how I’d feel offended at something completely out of my control and nothing to do with me or anything I’ve done. What other people are doing in the area I live in isn’t on me. If she’d insinuated that you were the one doing the burglaries and carjackings, that would be offensive.

Significant amounts of theft are usually when a less rough area is near to a rough area. When I lived in a rough area, it was true so it wouldn't have offended me. If someone said it now I'd be amused because it's incorrect.

Sounds like you feel judged by her. Your comment about her still living at home suggests the judgement is travelling in both directions. Maybe best to stick to talking about the weather going forwards.

I couldn't give a shite. I live where I live because I like it, not to impress anybody.

It absolutely is. I used to have a friend who would turn up at my house, look around and say EVERY TIME "Oh, I do hope my car is safe. This isn't a very nice area is it?" She was rude as fuck and is no longer a friend for lots of reason

It's how you live that matters, not where you live.

Your colleague is rude.

I should have explained myself better. It’s not a rough area.

It’s just middle ground. It would be considered a desirable area. But I’m not saying it’s the most desirable area. It would not be considered a rough area. I think it’s an odd thing to say if you don’t know the area.

So did you put her straight?

I live in a rough area, top 10% socially deprived areas in the uk.

I don't care though, my neighbours are nice, there's more crime in the area that is not in 15% top, house was very affordable so have more dispensable income than friends who live in "nicer areas".

My neighbours are lovely, kids play out and there's lots of greenspace.

Because of community feel really safe, someone's always about and people look out for eachother.

It is "rough" because snobs deem it rough really.

Rough is people who have less than you getting by it seems in these circumstances.

Why do you care?

Some of do live in "rough" areas.

Does that bother you, that I live in an area that is deemed rough. Would you treat me differently?

If not, why docyou care so much about this non entity.

A colleague has said similar and I laughed because it's sort of true. We're on the less desirable side of our town.

It depends how it was said. I get it can sound judgemental from someone who hasn't had to afford a house and make choices about where to live. It's definitely an eye-opener for people buying property.

It’s not rude as it is something that can be quantified by statistics.

its also possible it is not accurate.

our extremely low crime area went through a spell of being targeted with burglaries and car thefts because my neighbors are idiots. They felt so safe they were leaving their homes unlocked and their keys in their cars. The police had to launch a local campaign to tell people to stop being stupid.

This.

The things I enjoy about living where I do are things that go hand-in-hand with it being a bit rough around the edges and most of the people being the same.

The gentrification is great for property prices if you are a homeowner, but apart from that, I'd rather it just stopped because it's not an entirely welcome or healthy thing for the community.

Would I be bothered if someone said where I live was "rough"?. No, not in the slightest, because it is a bit rough, and it's pretentious nonsense to pretend otherwise or take the hump because someone says the obvious.

🤦‍♀️ Jesus.

I used to live not far from a prison (like 10 minute drive). I would forget it even existed tbh. But an ex friend would constantly mention it.

The first time she came into my house she said “it’s very Instagram isn’t it”. It was definitely meant as an insult. I live on my own so I decorated my house 100% how I wanted it, I couldn’t care less about how it appeals to others.

Nah. Everyone knows that certain areas have a bit of a reputation.

Sometimes you won’t actually know your area is considered rough if you’re not online and very much keeping yourself to yourself either.

Also there is rough and then there’s ROUGH.

That’s hilarious. My mil used to do the same in an area we lived in once. Ironically our rough genuinely rough neighbours had more expensive cars than her 🤣🤣

It is statistically classified as a “low crime area”. It’s just very unfortunate that it’s been so heavily targeted recently.

It’s said to me all the time, not bothered