Would you be offended if someone said you lived in a rough area?

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In recent weeks the area I live in has been targeted for burglaries and car thefts. I’ve never known it like this before and I just mentioned it to a colleague and she said “well you do live in a rough area”.

Colleague who at 30 has never once lived away from home. She then admitted that she doesn’t know anything about the area 😳

(it’s not rough, there are more expensive areas which are more desirable or areas further from the city centre that are quieter etc)

No, I would agree! It wasn't when I moved here,but it is now.

No. I do, in fact, live in what may be termed a 'rough' area. I love it 🙂

No. Because I’d know if it was rough. If it wasn’t, I wouldn’t care what other people said about it.

Agreed.
People that get offended by this sort of thing I often wonder just how they make it through an average day.

Then it sounds as if she's a not-particularly socially-attuned person parroting something she's heard other people saying, possibly about an entirely different area. It would be like being offended because a household pet had an opinion about your tax returns.

I had no issues with the neighbours when I lived next door to a crack house. Now I live next door to a pair of surgeons, and they are considerably more tiresome.

Yes and having lived here much of my life I know very well what areas are rough and have gangs, or even reputations that have tarnished it for good.

No, but I would be somewhat perplexed.

I live in London (within zone 1) and it gets a pasting on here at least 3 times a week!! Apparently it's filthy and rife with crime, drugs and rude people who would step over you if you were on fire.

People generally consider any area cheaper / more social housing / more terraced or flats or whatever than where they live to be ‘rough’

People are snobby and smug and don’t take account of the fact that decent ordinary people live in areas that are scruffier than theirs.

I live in a scruffy area often sneered at on MN but actually it is NOT rough. It has a low crime rate.

Someone who has not even left home would do well to STFU expressing negative opinions about places other people live.

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Well it’s not something I would ever say to someone.

Broadly speaking no, some areas do have a reputation.

I do find the area I live gets described as being “rough” by a particular type of person, though. The Reform voting type for whom diversity is synonymous with “rough”. I suppose on the plus side, puts that sort off moving to the area.

Where we used to live, the local Facebook page is fairly evenly divided between those who think the whole town and its environs are dreadful and those who post pictures of the beach and surrounding areas and wax lyrical about living in a beautiful place.

It’s neither abysmal or beautiful. There are some nice bits, but the town centre is awful. I think it’s rude to be so negative about where you live. Particularly from someone who is still living at home and doesn’t understand the challenges of renting/buying.

I live in a rough area so no

People said awful things about my old block of flats - too many derogatory comments to mention

But realistically I knew they were

rough
grim
stinking

housed a few of serious ex offenders and people for different reasons were really NOT in a good/secure situation financially

So with me it literally was a case of ‘none taken’

I live on the edge of a rough area now.
About half a mile up the road is a much more expensive area. Burglary and car theft happens much more to the nicer area, not surprisingly! Better cars, more expensive valuables?

And having grown up in a rough area... If you stole from someone on your own estate they had a good chance of finding out it was you...

Oh and no it doesn't bother me one bit if someone says I live in a rough area.

I wouldn't be offended as I know it's true. It's a bit rich to insist it's a good area while complaining about repeated thefts.

The town I live in has some very rough areas. If someone posts on a FB group about moving here, then they are told to avoid certain areas.
Of course, some people then pipe up that they live there and it is lovely. They are usually part of the problem - the "we look after our own" types that don't like newcomers moving there.

So by this you mean you prefer to live in a rougher area?

Depends if they know what they’re talking about rather than making uninformed or outdated assumptions.

I have a "friend" who almost every time I see her reminds me that she lives in a nice leafy village and she COULD NOT COPE with living in a rough area like mine.
I just smile and nod because I couldn't imagine living in her boring village lol

I live between 2 prisons (Brixton and Wandsworth). It’s quite green and leafy and there are some very expensive houses. And sadly some stabbings and the occasional shooting. I don’t think your friend would like my area! 😜. But lots of people clearly do.

Slightly, someone went off on a rant just after we bought our home about how we needed to quickly move somewhere better. I thought it was rude and snobby. It's not even a rough area, just slightly more deprived than other parts of the same village.

It doesn't actually matter what she thinks though.

I would never be insulted by someone who's opinion I don't value. And it doesn't sound like you value their opinion, so I wouldn't worry about it.