If so AIBU to feel completely helpless about our situation.
I have been with my farmer for 17 years, married 9, with two DC.
Firstly I want to say I love DH deeply I really do, but I am really starting to resent everything. Firstly, we do not live on the farm (we live a good 4 miles drive off) despite my DH being the main worker/driving force, he works extremely long hours 7 days a week and all income that goes into the farm is thanks to him. I of course help when available as well as work my own part time role and raising our DC. HOWEVER my issue is that our little family unit gain nothing from this. DH is allowed (dictated by his parents) a small monthly wage (i wont say how little) and so all bills are left to me, i can only work part time due to childcare and I am really really struggling. Husband is of course working under the promise that he will one day inherit the farm, this does not sit comfortably with me as his parents have already proved that they cannot keep to their word as when we were married they had promised him that we could live on the farm, that never came to be and we were left scrambling desperately for a property when 1st DC came along with my fathers help. I am feeling desperately lonely and unsupported between DH not physically being here to help me and help with things in our home and with the children, we are financially struggling whilst DH gives his everything to a farm he may never inherit and everyone but us is benefiting from it.