AIBU to go to big concert on my own?

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We have plans for DD to come with me to a big concert. However, it’s during her exams and I’m not sure whether she should take time out revising. It would be a Saturday night staying in a hotel and returning on Sunday. We are planning on her to keep revising by working on past papers on the train and in a cafe while there (she works well in cafes—much better than at home).

Anyway, the point of this post is really to ask would it be strange if I go on my own? Everyone is telling me I shouldn’t and it’s sad, but I don’t want to miss out. I’ve waited 35 years to get to see this person live. Would you go on your own?

No, it's not weird. I have been to loads of gigs and festival on my own. In fact in a lot of ways I prefer it.

Dear Lord, OP, you gave some terrible friends - of course it's not "sad". I go to lots of events on my own - I love it. Just go and have a fantastic time.

It f*king isn't sad and lonely! People who say this make me so angry. You are folliwing your interest, displaying independence, not following the herd. You are a strong, independent adult - you don't need anyone's permission

I think you should take DD because one weekend off won't make a difference if she's been studying well otherwise. But if she doesn't go then it's absolutely fine to go by yourself! I went to a festival by myself last summer and had a great time.

I’ve been to lots of concerts alone and enjoyed them.
but one night of not revising won’t be a major deal for an exam with good prep before hand

One of my favourite things is going to a gig on my own. I often prefer it to going with other people because I can just get completely lost in it.

See how your daughter feels closer to the time. If she feels she’d rather stay home and study, then definitely go on your own. Tell those who are saying it’s sad to shut up. What would be sad is to miss out on something like this because you’re bothered what others think. Enjoy the concert and I hope your daughter gets the grades she needs.

Go, go, go and enjoy! Sometimes it’s lovely to go to an event, have a hotel stay etc by yourself without having a dp or dc around, however lovely they are.

It’s not sad and lonely to go on your own and your family are being mean saying that. I would have no qualms going on my own and have previously done so because no one else wanted to see the artist in question.

I also often go to the theatre alone and really enjoy it. You don’t go to these things to talk to somebody else anyway, just immerse yourself in the experience.

A break from revision will do your DD good. Relaxing and doing something enjoyable the weekend before the exams may help her to destress.

I'd get her to plan her final revision schedule for when you return from the concert so she isn't just sort of recovering from a big weekend away before her exams, and can get straight back on it without having to think too much about it.

Absolutely fine to go alone but surely one night off for your daughter would do her good?? She will really feel like she’s missing out if she knows she was meant to be going with you!

Take your dd.

or if not, go on your own. I solo gig loads and have a great time, more often than not I get “adopted” by a bigger group, and I’ve actually made some of my best friends having met them at gigs.

Kylie always puts on a fab show. Enjoy

I’m going to see Kylie on my own in May! Hasn’t crossed my mind for a moment that this makes me sad and lonely … I am very happy and have plenty of family and friends, just none who want to see Kylie!

I've been to a few gigs alone. I would rather do that than miss out. Twice was by choice, no kne wanted to ho and I didn't want to miss out. Third time friend was unable to come along so I ernt alone. Think.if ur daughter wants to go she should. A few hours off will do her good. I say this as a teacher.

Just as people keep saying it’s a couple of hours—it’s not, it’s 48 hours away. But she’s coming anyway (I had a word with her earlier and she really wants to come and thinks she will be OK working while we’re away).

I’m double excited— 1) see Kylie and 2) I get to go back to my university city. We may have to do a “little” bit of shopping.

They are sad controlling dicks who don't know how to have fun and need someone else to hold their hand.

I used to go to loads of gigs on my own. It's not unusual to go to a gig on your own. More unusual for women but it's something you absolutely can do alone because no one even notices in a venue

Go. You will regret not going.

Oh, I'd hate that (being "adopted" by a bigger group) 😁
I love going places by myself, I don't want a Dougie and Janette on my case 😂

I've been to gigs alone, it's great! Just as good as seeing them with someone, if not better as you only need to think about yourself haha xx

I've been to 2 gigs on my own, and spent 2 others essentially alone (OH near the back of the crowd and me in the pit). I love it, I tend to get chatting to a group around me in the build up and between sets, never see anyone again after the main act comes on!

I am often one of maybe 2-3 women in the pit surrounded by giant blokes, and always feel safe enough

I go to loads of gigs by myself, perfect solo activity, no stress and you can just enjoy. 16 went to his first solo gig last year, loved it. Nothing weird about it.

having said that, if your DD would be sad not to go then I’d just take her, it’s one night!