AIBU to go to big concert on my own?

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We have plans for DD to come with me to a big concert. However, it’s during her exams and I’m not sure whether she should take time out revising. It would be a Saturday night staying in a hotel and returning on Sunday. We are planning on her to keep revising by working on past papers on the train and in a cafe while there (she works well in cafes—much better than at home).

Anyway, the point of this post is really to ask would it be strange if I go on my own? Everyone is telling me I shouldn’t and it’s sad, but I don’t want to miss out. I’ve waited 35 years to get to see this person live. Would you go on your own?

Take your DD. Mine is having a night off on a Saturday in the middle of her A levels to do something similar. It’ll be fine.

Back in the 90s I got a last minute ticket for Glastonbury from a friend of a friend after someone got ill, we somehow found eachother, pitched adjacent tents and then just checked in twice a day, because we didn't have the same music taste at all. It was brilliant!
Be wary of anyone who tells you that doing something independent is "sad"; they are usually really boring types who need constant validation from being, and being seen to be, in the company of others.

Thank you everybody. I’m not going to miss it. I might quite enjoy getting away on my own for a night in a nice hotel.

DD has planned to go with me to see this person for a few years now. When we booked it, I thought it would be OK. I’m just getting a bit antsy about taking her away. Her place at uni depends on these exams and I couldn’t forgive myself if she lost out due to this. On the other hand, she is good at working on trains etc.

You are mean not to give your DD the choice to have a break especially seeing she studies hard. If she doesn't know it by the time of the exams she won't know it.

Are you going to see Neil Young? I'll come with you 😁

I've been to gigs on my own and it's been fine. And I see plenty of solo gig goers too.

I’m not being mean—I’m just concerned. I’m going to wait to see how she’s doing the week before to make a decision (which will be done with her input). .

No, Kylie Minogue 😀

Actually I think you are being mean. Take your DD, are you expecting her to revise every minute of every day until her exams are over ?

Of course it’s not strange.

I go to plenty of gigs on my own, big, small, whatever. But - I also wouldn’t force anyone to constantly study! Unless she has an exam on the Monday after the weekend away, I don’t really see the issue.

I treat myself once a year to a concert on my own, I love it!

Not every minute, but, yes, every day in this situation. It will only be 4-5 days before the exam.

Who is the 'we' who had thought DD could go, but now thinks otherwise? Is one of the 'we' DD herself? Because if not, I think its sad to stop her going. If her exam success is dependent on not being able to take one evening and morning off from revision, then that's a very tight margin for success. Really she should be able to afford a break and would probably benefit from it. But it's not sad to go alone if it's DD who has changed her mind.

I'm going to two gigs alone this week.
I haven't bothered to ask friends and Dh won't be home from work in time.
Im not missing out!

I sensed a Rick Roll coming on.

Enjoy Kylie.

What does your DD want to do? As if she really wants to go then I see no problem in that. She shouldn’t be revising 24 hours a day anyway, and as you say, she can revise on the journey. I probably wouldn’t recommend a gig which meant a late night immediately before an important exam, but it sounds like that isn’t the case if you have a day you are travelling back.

If your DD was just going to accompany you and is concerned herself that it will interrupt her studies, then, yes, it will be absolutely fine to go by yourself.

A Kylie gig on your own will be absolutely fine! Everyone will be busy dancing and smiling and having a good time. I do loads of stuff on my own and it's absolutely fine. Your family and friends are the odd ones for being so uncomfortable in their own skin that they need other people with them in public!

DH, DD and myself are all questioning it. It’s not a morning and a night—it’s two full days away from 9am Saturday to 5pm on Sunday. But i really want her to come! It all depends on whether she thinks she can get some
study hours in while on the train/in cafes.

Dd can have one day off revision . Take her

But going on own is fine !

If your dh friends sisters that worried then one of them can go with you!

But take dd she can have some hours off

I also want her to come as it’s in my university city and I’d love to show her around. I’m so excited!

I would let your dd come too, realistically they don’t revise 24/7

Dh and I both go to festivals and gigs by ourselves and its not sad or lonely at all. He went to a bigger one this week by himself (and is suffering the bruises from the mosh pit), I'm going to one on a dodgy ex cargo ship club in May which is much smaller. I''m looking forward to not having to think about anyone else during the gig.

Fine to go solo.

Also could be good for your dd to go. It will give her a break during exams and possibly take the pressure of for a little bit.

4~5 days before the exam, she might be so stressed that she won’t even consider going away.
Or she might be so fed up, she’ll relish the break.

But that has no impact on you going.
I’m not sure why you’re supposed to miss out (esp with everything booked already) if your dd doesn’t go. It sounds crazy to me.

My teenage daughter went to two concerts last week and at both she was by other teenagers who were on their own. Teenagers don't see it as strange so neither should adults.

So either go on your own and don't worry about what other say, or take your daughter and she can fit in revision around the concert. Enjoy it whatever you do.