because my Mum bathed my DS when I specifically asked her not to?

[Myfairone]

Have been back at work 2 weeks and have been leaving my DS with my Mum. I am so grateful to her for having him and feel relieved that he is with someone that I know loves him and will take good care of him.

When I picked him up tonight he was in his pyjamas with wet hair. I asked why and she said she had bathed him. I have asked her not to because bathing him is part of my routine with him....do I sound selfish?

I like to be the one to bath him so that he is then ready for his bottle and a nice cuddle before bed.

Tonight he was so ready for his bottle (because he had been bathed already) that I got no time with him at all. He was whiney,miserable and tired and I only got 10 minutes with him before I had to put him in his cot.

I feel really annoyed and angry and miserable. Am I being unreasonable? I dont want to hurt her feelings because not only is she doing me a huge favour, Im really grateful to her....but I dont want her to bathe him.....

Any suggestions?

No, nothing like that. Ignore it.

Holly, Im so sorry to hear that you had the same experience as me (although have to say, you have made me feel totally normal by telling me about it!)

I thought about it afterwards and realised that she was just doing what was right for my DS. I was being selfish but then who can blame me! Going back to work is tough and when you look forward to the little time you get with them its kind of heartbreaking to have that taken away.

I had a day off today and was feeling unloved because he didn't seem to be having fun with me....it was totally irrational but couldnt help thinking i was boring him because he was cranky!

I really hope that week 4 at work will be better for both of us!

Big hugs