Would you have knocked this friendship group on the head?

[MarioJumbo]

Last year I got back in touch with one girl from my school. friendship group - last July in fact.

went out to the cinema in September with her. She was inviting me to firstly a wedding and then 2 separate birthday parties of different girls we went to school with.

my instincts told me that she was using me as a social ‘crutch’ in these situations and I wasn’t particularly thrilled about these invites.

AIBU?

Why did you bother getting back in touch with her? I can't really see that she's done anything wrong.

At the time I thought she might be good
company

I can totally understand you saying it doesn’t look like anything was wrong - I was going purely by my own instinct and feelings about the situation

Are we missing some info here

What's the problem

You reached out wanting friendship, she reciprocated and invites you to things and you're annoyed why?

When someone asks you to things, surely you just accept if you want to go and refuse if you don't? Why would you be displeased and want to end the friendship? And what's the difference between wanting someone to go to a thing with you as company and a 'social crutch'?

Friend asks friend to go to social event with her.

Uhh... What a bitch?

This.

Why did you reach out to her and then get annoyed when she reciprocates and invites you to stuff?

Bloody hell are you always this paranoid, OP?

Where's the other 95% OP 🤣

Your post is odd, maybe you are.
You wanted friendship, she reciprocated and asked you to do things that friends do and you dumped her? Not nice at all.

Weird, but sounds like she has plenty of friends already and still has a friend group from school. Do you have any other friends?

She was inviting me to firstly a wedding and then 2 separate birthday parties of different girls we went to school with

But she had been invited to these things which means she must have still been friends with these people. Why would she need you as a crutch?

Why did you bother getting in touch with her if you have such a low opinion of her?

Does she only want to meet on her terms? Is she rude/poor company?

Wanting you to come to events with her just suggests she enjoys your company.

You’re not making much sense tbh, she’s invited you to things with other people you also went to school with, thinking you’d also know other people there.

That sounds like a perfectly reasonable invitation to me, what am I missing?

Ah yes - that’s the thing - she take me to these events where she had stronger bonds with the other people than I did - and exchanged glances with them - I felt this was rude - it made me feel excluded

Blimey - you reach out to this woman to be friends, she does friend type things and all you do is moan about her on the internet. This is less about you needing to knock the friendship on the head, she’s the one that needs to.

OMG she exchsnged glances! Dump the cow.

I suppose I had a general feeling of being excluded

Sounds like rejection sensitivity op.

Don't let it ruin your life and all your relationships.

It sounds like she was trying to involve you in her groups, it's actually quite sweet. I would jump at the chance to meet/k ow someone like this as I struggle to break the ice myself!

have you had this problem before in the past?

This is a you problem.

As far as we can tell this is entirely in your head. She’s invited you to things with other mutual friends. Then she’s “exchanged glances” with them? What does that mean? People exchange glances with people all the time.

You honestly sound paranoid and if you behave like this in all your social interactions you are going to push everyone away.

Have you historically found it hard to make and keep friends?

You sound like you’re lacking confidence in yourself and are maybe paranoid that people wouldn’t like you for who you are and would want you as a crutch rather than for your company. I don’t think this is the case. Accept her invites and don’t doubt yourself. She sounds lovely & could be a good friend to you going forward.

Take care.

You felt excluded because she glanced at someone?

Yes