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To think reading is overrated. Persuade me to become a reader pls

177 replies

Croissantsfordinner · 10/03/2025 16:25

Something I would never admit IRL. I just never saw the point of reading if not for a bit of entertainment, which is nice, but why is it so much better than watching a film o listening to an audio story?

OP posts:
iamnotalemon · 10/03/2025 17:47

Reading is one of the things that relaxes me because I'm so engrossed in it. Whereas when I'm watching tv, I'm usually scrolling too

ItGhoul · 10/03/2025 17:50

Persuade me to become a reader pls

Why? Reading is a hobby. It is no more worthy than any other hobby. Why would I want to persuade you to take up a hobby you've made it clear you don't enjoy? I don't enjoy chess. I'm well aware that chess can be richly rewarding and that's it's associated with high intellect an so on. But I have played it and I find it dull and I would simply prefer to do almost anything else instead. And so what? That's fine. I wouldn't ask someone to persuade me to become a chess player because leisure time is meant to be enjoyable.

I love reading - I read around 70 books a year, I have a book reviews blog, I did a degree in English literature. I get so, so much pleasure from it. But... so what? The fact that I enjoy reading for entertainment doesn't make me any better than someone who enjoys watching television or playing computer games or listening to podcasts or scrolling Instagram or anything else. There's a lot of snobbery around certain leisure activities and that kind of snobbery needs to fuck right off.

IButtleSir · 10/03/2025 17:53

Ph3 · 10/03/2025 17:25

@IButtleSir
i prefer reading over watching tv and I don’t think I’m morally superior to someone who prefers to watch tv. How could I ever make that determination solely based on this? Or how could anyone?
But I disagree with the assessment that only improves your spelling. It really depends what you read.

How could I ever make that determination solely based on this? Or how could anyone?

I agree, and yet people do.

Edit: See @ItGhoul's comment above mine, she has put it exceptionally well. Loving reading doesn't make you a snob, but thinking it is more worthy than other hobbies does.

Ph3 · 10/03/2025 17:56

@IButtleSir i don’t deal in generalisations so I will only speak for myself and for people in my inner circle that I know very well.
edited to say: and that have observed.

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 10/03/2025 17:57

I've been a bookworm all my life.

I have Enid Blyton to thank! As well as Sweet Valley High,Babysitters Club and Saddle Club.

These days my reading has moved onto more adult material...

I love escaping into a book- it nurtures my imagination and improves my cognitive skills. Watching a film is very stimulating and doesn't encourage imagination.

I'm not a snob for simply being who I am.

DoYouReally · 10/03/2025 18:07

I prefer reading to audio as it's

  • more emersive- it requires focus rather than passive listening so it's relaxing, escapism, good for mental health
  • It's left more up to me how to interpret things - audio tells you the tone - whereas it's more interesting to consider if something was said passive agressively, sarcastically etc
  • It improves my vocabulary and I pick up a new world here and there
Talipesmum · 10/03/2025 18:10

QueenOfToast · 10/03/2025 16:44

I love reading AND audiobooks. For me they're much more engaging and absorbing than films or TV. I find my mind drifting when I'm watching a screen whereas a good book holds my attention to the exclusion of everything else.

If reading gives you a headache then perhaps you need to think about glasses or use a kindle e-reader where you can make the text bigger.

I think some people are snobs about whether audiobooks "count" as reading, and some are snobs about real books v e-books or hardbacks v paperbacks or classics v contemporary. I'm of the view that you should read (or listen to) books that you enjoy, in whatever format you like.

Reading truly enriches my life and I don't know what I'd do without it, but I know that some people feel that way about music and I hardly listen to any at all these days.

This, word for word.

RedHelenB · 10/03/2025 18:15

Croissantsfordinner · 10/03/2025 16:25

Something I would never admit IRL. I just never saw the point of reading if not for a bit of entertainment, which is nice, but why is it so much better than watching a film o listening to an audio story?

Books are more detailed, paint a more vivid picture. They're direct from the writer, in films/audio books there's a middleman doing some interpretation.

B1indEye · 10/03/2025 18:24

What makes you think it's better?

No one cares whether you read and as, I assume, an adult you get to choose what you do about things that dont affect anyone else

Sunat45degrees · 10/03/2025 18:29

I read a lot. Always have. But I've never understood the snobbiness about reading.

The one area where I think it IS better - but nly if this is valuable to you - is that the diversity in stories, environments, characters is better than on tv/movies. So if you want a wider range of stories, reading is more likely to get you there. TV and movies are so often very American/English centric unless you seek out foreign or art-house films etc and even then, it's a bit more limited.

Growing up, I remember I read fairy stories and adventure stories and detective stories and science fiction and fantasy and I read stories about children in differen times and different cultures in a way that I probably wouldn't have by watching tv and I learnt more as a result too. And that's still true today. To give you an example - I've been reading a series of cheap and cheerful space opera sci fi the last few weeks which has been just what I needed over a difficult, stressful time

At th eback of my head I'm conscious that I want to go back and re-read the bloody clan of the cave bear series as I've always loved the ideas of how life might have looked (I don't know why I reread those every 5 years or so. it's weird. But it's definitely about the imagined culture and food) and, for some reason, I've been thinking about some other childhood books too.

Meanwhile, on my kindle waiting for when I get a bit more inspired again, I also have the new Sarah Turner, a sort of Urban Fantasy novel from an author I haven't read before and "a gripping contemporary saga" and a historical thriller that I think were recommended on MN! Grin. I am eagerly anticipating Dream Count by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - but I won't buy it until the Kindle price drops below £10.

So basically, over a period of say 6 months, I'll probably get a much wider variety of styles and stories and narratives than I will watching tv. And I love tv, so this is in no way a TV-bashing comment.

NotTerfNorCis · 10/03/2025 18:33

I read books and also listen to audio books. I find that because I spend more time absorbing the content of a written book, and I can stop and go back, I get more from them.

Incognitoburrito88 · 10/03/2025 18:34

Poonu · 10/03/2025 16:57

Your brain will grow.
Reading on your phone - not so much.

There's plenty of data.
Books aren't expensive - second hand online or in charity shops.

I don’t understand this - I have the kindle app on my phone and read award winning literary fiction and the classics on it (along with lots of more low brow stuff) where is the evidence to suggest that reading on my phone will not improve my brain to the same extent that reading a paper book will?

OP I don’t read to improve my brain - I read because I love it. I get addicted and immersed in a way that TV simply can’t match - I love getting into bed at night with a good book. I also love audio books and consider them to be a perfectly good way to consume books.

PeachesPeachesPeachesPeachesPeaches · 10/03/2025 18:36

AssCeiling · 10/03/2025 16:26

Why is it so much better than watching a film or listening to an audio story?

It's not. Only snobs think this. Do whatever makes you happy.

Edited

Agree, and I’m an avid reader. Not an avid snob though.

Sunat45degrees · 10/03/2025 18:36

Incognitoburrito88 · 10/03/2025 18:34

I don’t understand this - I have the kindle app on my phone and read award winning literary fiction and the classics on it (along with lots of more low brow stuff) where is the evidence to suggest that reading on my phone will not improve my brain to the same extent that reading a paper book will?

OP I don’t read to improve my brain - I read because I love it. I get addicted and immersed in a way that TV simply can’t match - I love getting into bed at night with a good book. I also love audio books and consider them to be a perfectly good way to consume books.

Yeah, it's such bollocks. I've heard parents complaining when their children are reading on a proper kindle becuase "Screen time". I feel it sort of misses the point of what reading actually is! It's not the physical act, it's the words, the story and your imagination.

Kindle app on phone CAN be bad for your eyes though. That's the one thng. would say. But not for your brain!

Ladysodor · 10/03/2025 18:41

Someone here claims it’s form of snobbery, that’s nonsense! I read loads and equally enjoy films. Some books are better because there’s more detail in a book than in a film. Once a non-reader picks up the ‘right’ book they will realise how rewarding reading can be. To label keen readers as snobs is simply reverse snobbery.

RaininSummer · 10/03/2025 18:41

My favourite part of the day is getting in bed with my current book. I read roughly one a week. I like films but there are nowhere near enough really good films whilst there are thousands of excellent books to read.

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 10/03/2025 18:54

Not going to persuade you.
You are not in Year 4.

mambojambodothetango · 10/03/2025 18:55

Audio book and reading are comparable in my mind. Though you can go at your own pace when reading. Films are different - you just watch passively. The book/audio book describes people and places in ways films can't. You understand the background of characters and the context is clearer. You get to decide what the characters and places look like. I find that much more rewarding - like I'm actively involved in the story. Watching films, I inevitably end up googling where I've seen actors before or where they filmed scenes. It's a passive experience rather than an active one.

MeAndMyCatCharlotte · 10/03/2025 19:16

There’s a poster up in my local bookshop at the moment and it reads (something like) ‘I’ve been to a thousand different places because I read’.

A great film can completely immerse you but a great book transports you.

FrippEnos · 10/03/2025 19:19

Why try and do something if you don't like it?

The best I can come up with is that if you have a favourite film or show based on a book, read the book, then you will see what they had to drop out.

OliveWah · 10/03/2025 19:44

Reading was always my favourite way to relax. I would read in the bath, on a sun lounger on holiday, on the train, and for at least an hour in bed every night. I always had a book in my handbag, and all my family and friends knew it was easy to buy gifts for me, a book token was the way to my heart! Sadly, after a period of illness, including a week in a coma with SEPSIS, my attention span has just vanished, and I find I can't enjoy reading in the way I used to. I have a stack of 20 or so books piled up, that all look wonderful and I was so looking forward to reading, but now they simply taunt me, gathering dust as I watch the TV!

Reading is wonderful for those who enjoy it. I miss it terribly - it's been my favourite past time for 35 years, but I find it such hard work now, all the joy has gone from it. I did try audiobooks, but I much preferred the "sound" of my own, inner voice than the narrators and found the pace was too slow in comparison as well.

If you don't enjoy reading, then don't force yourself, it should bring you joy (as cheesy as that sounds!) and if it doesn't, it becomes a chore.

Cnidarian · 10/03/2025 19:47

Reading calms my brain down in a way audio and film don't, and I love both of those too. But if I'm stressed and overwhelmed the enforced focus of reading which requires your full concentration stops my bran chattering__

WhereIsMyLight · 10/03/2025 19:52

I have been an avid reader in the past. I started I childhood and it carried through to my teens and most of my twenties. Early in my career, I had a long commute so would read 10-15 books a week. I read so many books that I read almost anything so I could keep having new books to read.

Books aren’t necessarily better than films and TV. In general, they can go deeper than TV or films can and allow you to build a world. Sometimes with a film, you can’t get crucial detail in and it makes a lot of things confusing. For example with Harry Potter, the first 3 Harry Potter films follow the books quite closely. However, by book 4 the book is so big and has so much detail that a lot of context is missed in the film. So for me, the book versions of 4, 5, 6 and 7 are a lot better than the film versions. Watching the HP films from Goblet of Fire onwards leaves massive chunks were you’re wondering what is going on and why they are doing it. You can get very good adaptions of the book and Shutter Island was one of those for me. Sometimes though I don’t want to delve into all the lore, so sometimes a film is better. I’m not really interested in fantasy so the world building in Lord of the Rings doesn’t hold my attention. I can’t finish the books but I can watch the films. Books aren’t always better and I think it largely depends on the adaption and the interest of the person.

I’ve fallen out of love with reading a bit at the minute. I read a lot for my job. I try books every so often but nothing really grabs my attention and I rarely finish a book now. If I’m honest, it’s been a few years since I’ve even made it past chapter 3. If I do read, I tend to gravitate towards, what many readers turn their noses up at, chick lit and fluff.

You can’t force reading as a hobby. If you find a book you love, you will not put it down. It’ll be all you can think about. You’ll see things like washing up, sleeping and working as pointless endeavours that are stopping you from finishing your book. You’ll feel a mix of emotions when you finish and you’ll feel them all at once. You’ll feel bereft because you can’t read it again for the first time and that it is no longer in your life. You’ll feed sad/happy depending on the outcome of the book. You may want to reread the book immediately to see clues and hints of the ending you’ve missed throughout. You can’t force it flooding your brain and if you try to, you won’t get that same rush of emotions, you’ll just feel relieved that you’ve got to the end of the book.

There is a snobbery around reading and anyone pretending otherwise is probably driving that snobbery. My husband games (I’ve dipped in and out of gaming as a hobby) and he reads. People (especially posters on here) like to call him a man child for gaming but a man that reads is intelligent. Getting lost in a good book is a worthy excuse not to have done the washing up but getting lost in a game is just pathetic. The reactions you get are very different. Reading can be just as time consuming as any other hobby, I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve stayed up until 2-3am because my book was so good. If I’d have stayed up to 3am binge watching a show or gaming it would be irresponsible.

There’s also a snobbery within reading that people who read horror or chick-lit aren’t reading anything worthy. People sometimes don’t want to admit what they are reading but why does it matter because we all have different interests.

Don’t force it. There are other ways to keep your brain active, there are other hobbies and interests. Life is too short (and there are too many shit books) to force yourself to read when you just aren’t interested.

DuckTales1234 · 10/03/2025 19:55

Reading contributes to brain activity, watching absolutely doesn't

Wendolino · 10/03/2025 19:59

It's no better than watching a film or listening to an audiobook if those are the things you prefer.
I love reading, always have. I like films but don't like audiobooks, it's just a matter of personal choice and I don't think it means I'm better or more clever if I prefer reading.