Teenage boys rooms/hygiene

[YourChirpyCoralAnt]

AGHHH.

I have two DS 17 and 19.

They are both at college full time. They both help and do their chores in the main places of the house.

It's their rooms and hygiene. Ones room is an absolute shit heap but he's obsessive about washing his clothes and being clean having nice hair and skin etc.

The other one has a tidy room but will happily go days without a shower and will end up stinking to high heaven if we didn't force him into the shower.

Anyone have any advice on what to do? My youngest can trash his room within a day. I have no idea how.

Not being rude, but having seen replies on other posts:

. They watch me and dad clean regularly. Dad is hands on.
. We have shown them how to use cleaning products. They are able to clean the other parts of the house.
. We have probably about 100 times sat in their rooms whilst we show them how to step by step clean them with the correct products and systems
. I don't want to hear from people who have young children leaving judgey comments who have 0 experience with teenagers
. I don't want to hear from people blowing their own whistle about how they moved out at 19 and they don't get why it's so hard
. I appreciate I'm 'lucky' they help around the house but ones room and ones hygeine is affecting the common areas by smells
. Dont need any stupid comments telling me to kick them out or divorce my children or anything ridiculous of the same ilk

I need some genuine advice from other teenagers parents or is this just what it is 🤣 don't really know any inappropriate discipline for them at this age as they are both driving/learning to drive and are basically adults.

Oh come off it. These are teenagers learning how to sort themselves out and their parents love them.

It's so hard. The only thing that actually worked was being blunt. All of this setting them a good example and showing them how to clean did very little with our son. I had to tell him that his room was stinky and his (4 month old) dirty sheets were making him stink also. No point in showering then sleeping in that bed. I had to do this periodically otherwise he'd slip back into bad habits.

The other solution (as mentioned) is them having a new love interest. They clean up quickly for potential dates.

1. unless it's mouldy food leave it be. If he's leaving food to go off lower the food purchases for him.

2. try baths over showers, suggest armpit shaving?

He always has a house full of mates round! 😁

I have 2 teenage daughters, to the outside world they are always beautifully presented, both very clean, shower at least once a day, have hair and skin care regimes. Their rooms are shit tips though, my eldest is definitely the worst. I have tried everything, I now just leave them to it, it’s their space and I have no need to go in there. The only thing I insist oN Is that they bring dishes down. They are both great girls, study hard, have little jobs and are kind, helpful, respectful so if a messy room is all I have to put up with (easily avoided by not going in there) then I will take that as their only flaw

Cleaner once a week makes sure the room is clean and sheets changed.

Best that I do not open the wardrobe and turn a blind eye to the clothes and other mess in the room.

Teen DD so largely on top of personal hygiene and looking smart.

I dread to think of how her Uni room will look 😳

The one with the tidy room who stinks, you just have to tell him when he stinks and that it's grim and he won't get a partner of either sex smelling that way!
The one who smells good with the stinky room, pay the other one to clean his brothers room?!