AIBU to think the happiest marriages involve a man who truly believes that a happy wife makes for a happy life. I think it works like this - he’s nice to his wife, appreciates her, pulls his weight at home so that she isn’t overburdened, surprises her with little gifts that he saw and made him think of her and is focussed on her happiness. This then gives him a wife who likes him back, fancies the pants off him (because that stuff he does for her is very attractive), is up for regular sex, happily irons his shirts and makes his favourite meals even though she doesn’t have to and indulges him.
This isn’t about love, it’s a given that the couple love each other.