Are you a nosy neighbour?

[mumofoneAlonebutokay]

I'm not the interfering kind a la Norris from Corrie

I've got a ring doorbell and I do have a look at what people are doing 🙈

I'll even remark to myself, 'she's going out again, omg' or see what they've brought back from the shops

I love to look out of the window for no reason as well

No point to this thread really 😭😭, just inspired by my neighbour getting another deliveroo takeaway and me passing judgement and secretly wishing I was getting a takeaway 🙈🤭

No. Couldn’t give a shiny what other people are doing.

I used to tease a friend for being a curtain twitcher.
I don't care what my neighbours are up to generally but I do admit to trying to listen in to my immediate neighbours - we have adjoining bathrooms in our terrace layout and the bloke is Italian and she's French and he always sounds very animated.
Are those ring cameras recording all the time? I thought it was motion sensitive.

I am. There is a lot going on in my building including 3-4 brothels

I get on well with the neighbours on both sides. We chat when we see each other and take in each others ' parcels. I haven't got time to look at people's comings and goings and I couldn't tell you when they get takeaways etc. I can't really imagine why people are interested in the mundane aspects of other people's lives.

I can't really imagine why people are interested in the mundane aspects of other people's lives

I presume it’s because they’ve little of interest going on in their own lives, tbh. If they had anything of note, they’d be less concerned about others. Some of the stuff people are saying that they notice and are interested in astounds me- why would anyone give a fuck what (and how many) takeaways their neighbour eats? Or how long their washing is out for? Or when they take in their bins? Such mundane stuff, how can anyone care about it?

I'm not a nosy neighbour but I am observant and notice a lot of what goes on around me. Even with a detached house with some land. I don't have a ring door bell.

My house does overlook one neighbour and I don't think they know how much I can see, so I inadvertently pick up a lot about them. I knew there was a domestic across the way and did look out the window then, only because there was something going on in front of the house and I was watching to make sure the young woman was okay. That sort of thing.

Ooo, no. I keep my head down. Too many dodgy people around here. I don't want to raise my head above the parapet.

We live on a road that’s popular with people waking their dogs. As we have a dropped kerb, I will keep an eye out if I see someone stopping with their dog. Otherwise no.

Hmm reading through the thread I've realised that my response focused rather on the fact that I'm SURROUNDED by nosy neighbours, not that I am one!

But still, it doesn't bother me in the least. I'd be affronted if any of the gossiping was cruel or malicious, but them all talking to each other about DHs latest garden project, or that we have so many different visitors and cars on the drive that we must be running an air B&B, is harmless.

I walk my dogs daily so I do "notice" things - John has changed his van, Penny was late this morning, that twat with the jack russell appears to live up North Road, Clive went to get bacon again etc - but all pretty benign.

I'm not that nosy but when my grandson says
'Nanny why are the police going into next door?'
I'm up at the window! 😂😂😂

That’s so sad, the pandemic is exactly when I befriended the postie! He’s a chatterbox like me though. I also walk my dog in the neighbourhood which is really social for meeting other neighbours and chatting which tends to lead to knowing more about people.

I did miss a screaming match between neighbours last year though. It was right outside my house too apparently and one neighbour involved couldn’t believe I hadn’t witnessed the entire spectacle. The argument was over the kids playing football!!! Total ridiculousness but was exciting to hear about 🤣

@sammylady37 Wow, she’s a prize winning nosy neighbour. I don’t think I could handle someone monitoring me like that. You’re a very nice person. I’m glad you send her on the occasional goose chase though

Never know what's going on around here. My record for not seeing the next door neighbours is about 3 months.

Not intentionally nosy but i do stand in my front windows a lot making plans i probably won't keep for what to do with the garden, then getting grumpy about the garden (front garden, lots of gravel, pisses me off as it gets everywhere!) can see how it could look like i'm being nosy.
I have a camera in my kitchen window but it's only 'armed' (Blink's words, not mine) when i go to the office/holiday/days out

I notice obvious things like my neighbours having their garden landscaped, but don't really pay any attention to their day-to-day movements.

I grew up in a household that provided endless entertainment for the neighbours. My dad was an alcoholic and my parents were always arguing very loudly.
We used to be locked out of the house regularly because my parents were out when we got home from school. Apparently we were too young to have a key so we sat on the step sometimes in the freezing cold, often for hours.
Did any of the neighbours who used to watch us and gossip about it ever offer us any help or report it to anyone..no.
I often think people who are extremely nosy just for the thrill of it have something missing. A lack of empathy.
Same for people who get excited when they see an ambulance outside someone’s house.

You're the kind of neighbour who would drive me crackers, OP, but you have this unabashed charm about being nosy and loving gossip. I would keep all of my activities underground and out of sight but every now and again, I'd stage some kind of drama for you.

I don’t really pay much attention and only check the camera footage if I get a notification (which only goes off if someone actually crosses the 'vision' perimeter past our gates). That said, I do like to stay somewhat aware of what’s going on around me, and I don’t think being a little curious makes someone 'nosy.' If I see a door left open and no contractor’s van around, I might slow down a bit just to see what’s up.

I have a friend who always seems to know what other people are doing. She's got a lot more involved in other people's business since she retired. Too much time on her hands.

😭😭😭 I fear I would fall hook line and sinker for the drama @LyingWitchInTheWardrobe and announce you one of my fave neighbours whilst gossiping

My day mostly consists of school runs and cooking chicken nuggets 🙈🤭, I live for being in someone else's business

Oh 🥺 sorry to hear that

There's a difference between taking an interest in someone's late nights out and actually being nasty though, the latter is awful

Omg i do the same with my garden. Years I've been here and the plans I've made have not come to fruition 😬

This is it, benign nosiness, mild judging like you do when you watch the soaps or love island

I used to be a fun person 😭

Ooh no, I’m not nosey in the slightest. I don’t claim it as a virtue, I just don’t have any interest in others habits in this way. I do look out of the window though, I love the trees and light changing, lamps coming on at dusk etc.

I’d say it’s very seldom that someone who’s nosy about the small, innocuous goings on in others’ lives isn’t even more interested when they notice something out of the ordinary. It’s still not a good thing.