Me and my partner moved in together a year ago after a year of dating. He has three kids from a previous marriage and I have a little boy. We all live together now, and I have enjoyed it but it has been difficult. My little boy was only 21 months so we moved cities to live with my partner (his dad has never been in the picture, moved countries when he found out I was pregnant despite being in a relationship with me for years). I treat all the kids the same, make sure they all have what they need.
I work full time, partner works part time. I do most of the house management - cooking, shopping and cleaning. Partner likes to go to the gym a lot and spend time at football. I make most of the money and it feels like I have to contribute more to keep us afloat.
Anyway, I have been diagnosed with a health condition recently which has led me to feeling really down and depressed, and struggling at work. I have confided in my partner that i feel really down and anxious. He has responded saying that “women always do this, get into relationships and neglect their hobbies and friendships. That’s why you’re depressed”. When I said “what do you mean?” He said he didn’t mean me, just women generally (wtf?) but that my work and home was my whole life and I wait for him to get home (I really don’t).
I see my friends regularly (when I can with work and looking after kids). I have tried to build up friendship groups in my partners city.
I’m really upset about what he said. Should I be? I feel unsupported and feel like he thinks I’m a loser.