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Why have HR asked me this and can I say no?

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Hrrrrhr · 03/03/2025 07:35

I started some medication recently. A side effect is drowsiness and on those occasions not driving. It’s supposed to settle over 8 weeks. I’ve therefore asked my employer whether I can work from home during this time. My job can completely be done from home and often is. I’ve been there a long time. They’re asking me if they can contact my gp and ask my gp a number of questions instead of going through occupational health as occupational health can take much longer (ie beyond the time I’m asking for to have the adjustment anyway). I’m not comfortable having direct questions sent to my gp as I’ve never heard of this before. I would prefer occupational health. Can anyone explain my rights? Thank you

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InWalksBarberalla · 03/03/2025 20:04

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Occupational health will talk to the GP anyway - so you have 2 steps instead of 1 and the same additional load on the GP.

commonsense61 · 03/03/2025 20:22

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SpringCabbage · 03/03/2025 20:28

There is zero way I would approve for work to speak to my GP.

The options are get a fit note from the GP which is tantamount to the same thing, or they wait for OH.

Are you supposed to pre-approve a script of what is and isn’t off limits for the GP to say - ridiculous!

What is the medication? Not suggesting it’s this but some anti-histamines cause drowsiness so there is a whole spectrum of ‘don’t drive’. Does that mean not fit for work in other ways?

rosemarble · 03/03/2025 21:02

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Did you read the OP? It's kind of the whole crux of the issue.

SpringCabbage · 03/03/2025 21:11

InWalksBarberalla · 03/03/2025 20:04

Occupational health will talk to the GP anyway - so you have 2 steps instead of 1 and the same additional load on the GP.

Aren’t OH usually independent of the business, as oppose to having a non-objective HR person or line manager accessing private patient information that might go beyond the issue at hand and with no supervision to ensure best practice.

Velmy · 03/03/2025 21:22

AnSolas · 03/03/2025 16:46

The OP said has started and is having side effects.

And never underestimate stupid or blindly trust that a HR bod would not ask for more access than needed.

It doesn't matter what they ask for - OP has the option of seeing the report before it goes to her employer and having anything unnecessary removed.

britinnyc · 03/03/2025 21:34

I am not in the UK but at my company these type of requests have to be handled by the third party OH provider, they are trained to interpret documentation and approve/deny the workplace accommodation. HR don’t typically have this type of training and knowledge plus there are always concerns about too many people having access to private medical information

Waterballoons · 03/03/2025 22:30

Hrrrrhr · 03/03/2025 07:35

I started some medication recently. A side effect is drowsiness and on those occasions not driving. It’s supposed to settle over 8 weeks. I’ve therefore asked my employer whether I can work from home during this time. My job can completely be done from home and often is. I’ve been there a long time. They’re asking me if they can contact my gp and ask my gp a number of questions instead of going through occupational health as occupational health can take much longer (ie beyond the time I’m asking for to have the adjustment anyway). I’m not comfortable having direct questions sent to my gp as I’ve never heard of this before. I would prefer occupational health. Can anyone explain my rights? Thank you

You could ask them to give you a list of questions so you can see what info you’re requesting then, if you’re happy, pass it onto the GP and ask them to write a letter responding

AnSolas · 03/03/2025 22:46

Velmy · 03/03/2025 21:22

It doesn't matter what they ask for - OP has the option of seeing the report before it goes to her employer and having anything unnecessary removed.

Should see the report but that depends on factors outside the OPs control

So on the stupid happens the OP is better off getting the questions sending them to the GP and getting the reply back.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 03/03/2025 23:04

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 03/03/2025 09:58

OP before giving them permission to contact your GP I would be asking why they are doing so. If they’re asking your GP for anything beyond confirmation of the medication and its effects, and actually wanting to know what you’re being treated for, they’re breaking the law.

Under the Equality Act 2010 anyone with a disability or health condition isn’t obligated to disclose it to an employer, and the employer isn’t entitled to ask - even if it’s clearly in evidence. If they’re asking for proof of the medication surely all you have to do is either show them the prescription or the tablet box along with the patient information leaflet.

if you do have a condition that may qualify as a disability under the Act (permanent or likely to last at least 12 months, and having a significant effect on your day to day life) then you could choose to disclose it and ask for reasonable adjustment if appropriate - which could include working from home due to the effects of medication.

She's only on the medication for 8 weeks

Velmy · 03/03/2025 23:19

AnSolas · 03/03/2025 22:46

Should see the report but that depends on factors outside the OPs control

So on the stupid happens the OP is better off getting the questions sending them to the GP and getting the reply back.

The authorisation request form contains a box for the OP to tick indicating that they want to receive a copy first.

rosemarble · 03/03/2025 23:27

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 03/03/2025 23:04

She's only on the medication for 8 weeks

No, OP says side effects should settle by 8 weeks.

AnSolas · 03/03/2025 23:38

Velmy · 03/03/2025 23:19

The authorisation request form contains a box for the OP to tick indicating that they want to receive a copy first.

Your forms may have that.
The OP's is something HR may be putting together outside their normal process.

Velmy · 03/03/2025 23:44

AnSolas · 03/03/2025 23:38

Your forms may have that.
The OP's is something HR may be putting together outside their normal process.

Jesus...the consent forms FROM THE GP have this on them.

AnSolas · 04/03/2025 07:14

Thats great but the OPs job is contacting the GP after getting the OPs permission and after they have created their list of questions.

CarrieOnComplaining:
OP, I would say you are happy with this IF they tell you what questions will be asked. And give permission for your GP to answer those questions.
They aren’t going to ask for a copy of your entire medical history to keep on file.

And me:
And never underestimate stupid or blindly trust that a HR bod would not ask for more access than needed

Remember my point to CarrieOnComplaining was about how not all HR bods are professional in their role and some will think that they get to access the OPs full medical history.

redphonecase · 04/03/2025 07:15

Do they realise they'll have to pay for a GP report?

ApiratesaysYarrr · 04/03/2025 07:37

Unless driving is an essential part of the job , rather than how you get to work, your employer may ask you to take public transport to work, if that's available.

If I were writing a fit note, I wouldn't say "may be able to work as long as WFH" I would more accurately say "may be able to work, but should not drive if feeling drowsy". Not everyone feels drowsy and in some cases the drowsiness often improves after some time on the medicine.

Laura95167 · 04/03/2025 18:05

Would a fit note indicating you can't drive not just cover it?

Worriedatwork1 · 04/03/2025 18:58

This seems very excessive to me and I have worked in HR for 20 years, especially if you have not had any absence previously. I would send you to OH who will be able to offer an opinion on your fitness to work whilst taking this medication and the likely side effects, I would also possibly ask for a fit note detailing amended duties if perhaps the manager was pushing back on agreeing this. Never contacted a GP in my life (oh apart from to report a fraudulent fit note once!)

Preachscreen · 04/03/2025 19:04

Unreasonable. Should all go through occupational health. No reason for direct requests and they would have to jump through hoops to gain information and with your consent due to breach of confidentiality.

Sleepytiredyawn · 04/03/2025 19:20

If your medication can cause drowsiness, I would feel they’re thinking you may be sleeping on the job if you’re at home and if they agree to this and these side effects last longer, it could end up a permanent situation which they don’t want.

TooBored1 · 04/03/2025 19:22

Ddakji · 03/03/2025 07:36

I’m no expert but I would be very surprised if your GP told them anything - haven’t they heard of patient confidentiality?

Presumably the point of asking the OP if they can do this is to get her consent to the GP providing the information

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 04/03/2025 19:25

AnSolas · 03/03/2025 22:46

Should see the report but that depends on factors outside the OPs control

So on the stupid happens the OP is better off getting the questions sending them to the GP and getting the reply back.

No it doesn’t - these forms have a tick box as standard to indicate that the employee wants to see the report before it goes to the employer. Nothing is outside OP’s control - if she ticks that box she gets the report first.

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 04/03/2025 19:29

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 03/03/2025 23:04

She's only on the medication for 8 weeks

No, the effects she’s worried about last eight weeks, not the medication itself. The medication may or may not indicate a long term condition for which she may qualify for reasonable adjustment under the Equality Act.

AnSolas · 04/03/2025 19:37

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 04/03/2025 19:25

No it doesn’t - these forms have a tick box as standard to indicate that the employee wants to see the report before it goes to the employer. Nothing is outside OP’s control - if she ticks that box she gets the report first.

Assumption made on mode of access:

AnSolas · Today 07:14

Thats great but the OPs job is contacting the GP after getting the OPs permission and after they have created their list of questions.

CarrieOnComplaining:
OP, I would say you are happy with this IF they tell you what questions will be asked. And give permission for your GP to answer those questions.
They aren’t going to ask for a copy of your entire medical history to keep on file.
And me:
And never underestimate stupid or blindly trust that a HR bod would not ask for more access than needed

Remember my point to CarrieOnComplaining was about how not all HR bods are professional in their role and some will think that they get to access the OPs full medical history.

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