We are in a long marriage, kids left home long ago.
We had issues but nothing terrible in the past. But in past 15 years it's gone flat. He never talks to me, or share/asks opinions. He can sit for 8 hours straight in evening with Ipad with no words.
If i talk he is ok but seems strained to answer. He never, ever brings up a conversation or speaks his mind.
Over time I have come to the conclusion that he is addled, with a short attention span, and as a result of staring at youtube vids for most of his time awake. The content is fine (hobby, cute stuff) but there is just no life here now. I have had the conversation over the past few years but he is not interested.
I think we are dying, although there are no other people and we generally get along ok, so long as I don't ask for anything deep. I can talk about stuff that interests me and then a few mins later I see he isn't really listening, just nodding.
I am 51 and soon to be changing career. I wonder if I ought to cut ties?
Has anyone else had this issue with their DH or DP?
It's not new, and it isn't going to change.