To side with my DH

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We looked after our.nephew while my brother and SiL were in town recently.
My nephew is what you might call a handful. He threw a lot of toys and food around the room, jumped on the sofas and generally ignored every instruction I gave him.
This was okayish until my DH came home from work. He shouted a very firm "oi" at my nephew as he wouldn't listen. Nephew got extremely upset and was still upset when brother came to collect.
SiL was very annoyed with DH and said we don't tell him no. DH said he'll be told a firm no in this house if he doesn't listen, and that's the end of it. Brother got involved, we had a mini spat and they stormed out.
Brother is no doubt expecting me to apologise but I'm with my DH on this.
Am I right on this?

Where are these parents getting their advice?! Good on you and DH for having backbones. I can’t stand parents like this. Don’t they think about what type of adult they’re creating? Don’t they at least want people to like their child and not dread seeing them?

Generally I keep my distance from the children of parents who cannot say “no”.

They are always little shits.

Just wish them the best of luck with their parenting strategy, they are going to need it.

Dear God. I feel sorry for your nephew's teachers.

Falling out sounds like a win, you won't have a brat trashing your house again.

My house my rules.. and this will apply when he gets asked for play dates … he will be the child that is only ever asked once because no one wants their house trashed. Your brother is setting his child up for a really steep learning curve when other people do say no… basically expecting other people to parent his child because he hates upsetting his child.

I mean this isn't a serious question is it?

Do you think that your brother & SIL will never speak to you again/turn family members against you?

They sound like absolute simpletons tbh. If I’d never said no to mine they’d have probably died multiple ways. And my house would probably have collapsed too.

That aside, my house, my rules. My nephew once smashed up stuff in my house and was a rude little twit. His parents would not back me up and I haven’t looked after him since. They’ve come over since but they weren’t allowed to leave him, they had to deal with every single time he misbehaved.

I agree 100%. Has this little brat really got to the age of 5 and his parents have never said no to him? Of course he should do as he's told when he's in your house and if he doesn't then his parents need to accept that you will discipline him as you see fit when he's in your care.