Is this rude or am I over sensitive

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on a mini break with my (fairly new) partner and he isn’t feeling great and is in some discomfort.

I’m trying to give him space and to only chat when he feels like it.

After he complained for the 10000th time about the pain (which is fine, he’s totally entitled), I said “I’m sorry babe. I really feel for you You must be so uncomfortable”.

He snapped back “can you just stop saying that. You’ve said it way too many times”.

It was a real slap on the face. He’s spent two days complaining about pain and I have basically run out of different things to say in response. Not to mention I DO feel for him, and was just speaking my thoughts.

Maybe I have said that a few times and I’m sure it’s unhelpful but what else am I supposed to do? Smile and nod every time? (I have done lots of smiling and nodding too, incidentally, at some points).

His sharp response was really biting.

Most people get snappy and rude when we're in pain. All you needed to do was to reply to him with what you said here.

How long have you got left of the trip? If he is in that much pain I'd leave him at the hotel and go and do your own thing and see how he is when you get back. It could be that he's just feeling really awful, but it doesn't sound like he's handling it well, is it likely to be a recurring thing? If he doesn't like repetition then maybe he should stop complaining repeatedly. I'd be pretty cross and await an apology when you get home and he's feeling better. It better come soon though because I'd remain pretty cross....

What’s wrong with him? What sort of pain?

Can you get him to GP? I went to one as a visitor before

Toothache Perhaps?

Unless it was something serious, I'd be done with him.
The snappiness is one thing, but ruining your time away with his whingeing would be another.

If he’s snappy with you now in the first stages of getting to know him why would you stay in a relationship with a man is already not putting you first. He needs to go back home with his mommy. I hope he gets better but is this what you’d live for. Please don’t forget these little thoughts going through your head. It’s not a working relationship no matter you explain it. You’d be doormat where others are already been. across

Leave him to it. Have a good time. Doesn't sound that hopeful for you guys.

It's rude but I'd maybe give him a break because he's not well, depending on exact tone. At the same time, if he's allowed to say he's sick a million times, of course you're going to respond the same way a million times so it'd be a bit of a back mark against him. I'd just give him some medication and leave him to feel sorry for himself if you can't actually help.

Absolutely this.

Is he doing something to reduce the pain?

What is the pain? That's important info

Why have you both gone away if he's feeling so rubbish? I'd be questioning the longevity of the relationship if he's already rude this early in

Is he doing anything to help himself?

I wouldn’t like it but if it’s the first time he’s snapped then it’s most likely cos he’s in pain.
however I’d still want an apology

He's in pain. Leave him in a dark cool space with a phone and go out for the rest of the day.
Ask if he needs water or Panadol. Make sure they are nearby.
Tell him you will be back about dinner time and that you can come home with a small take away. Is there anything he's craving?
Go out and relax. He, hopefully, will apologise later.

Tell him to stop telling you he's in pain if he doesn't want a response and that you already know he's in pain, so it's not new information.

Get another room

Urgh this would be a dealbreaker for me, sorry he sounds like a wuss and a moaner

Alarm bells are ringing for me.

Can you tell us more about his condition? Some context would help to advise you better.

How is he normally?

"I appreciate you are uncomfortable but don't take it out on me. If you don't want to talk about your pain dont bring it up"

Well now you know how he behaves like a dick when he’s unwell. There’s no need to snap at someone who is trying to help or sympathise even though some people think it’s ok.

As you don’t mention that he’s had medical attention, I assume it’s something minor like sunburn or constipation. If so he definitely needs to grow up and sort himself out.

Just tell him you only said that way too much because you’d run out of responses to him whining too much.

Being in pain makes you snappy. I’d suggest going home.

Sounds like a pain in the arse!

What happened next is important op. Did he apologise for snapping at you?

What does he want you to do?? Not saying to pander to him but is he usually bad at communicating what he wants?

He's taking his pain out on you and that is not ok. You're not being too sensitive to be upset by it.

How else did you stop yourself from saying: well, you stop bloody going on about your pain then! What do you want me to say?

To me, the snapshot you’ve written makes you sound, selfish, uncaring and inconsiderate regarding his situation. Actions speak louder than words. If anyone I was with was complaining of pain the whole time we were away, this would concern me enough to take them to A and E. What was wrong with him? What was causing the pain? Does he have a medical condition that you’re not aware of? Instead of bitching about him on here take him to a medical centre!