Is this rude or am I over sensitive

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on a mini break with my (fairly new) partner and he isn’t feeling great and is in some discomfort.

I’m trying to give him space and to only chat when he feels like it.

After he complained for the 10000th time about the pain (which is fine, he’s totally entitled), I said “I’m sorry babe. I really feel for you You must be so uncomfortable”.

He snapped back “can you just stop saying that. You’ve said it way too many times”.

It was a real slap on the face. He’s spent two days complaining about pain and I have basically run out of different things to say in response. Not to mention I DO feel for him, and was just speaking my thoughts.

Maybe I have said that a few times and I’m sure it’s unhelpful but what else am I supposed to do? Smile and nod every time? (I have done lots of smiling and nodding too, incidentally, at some points).

His sharp response was really biting.

Was it the 'babe'? DH would snap if I called him that too. It's icky.

Is he not adult enough to know if he needs A&E?
She's not his mum.

He’s showing you who he is when he’s in pain / life isn’t perfect and I can’t stand someone who goes on and on when they’re ill, it’s awful.
Such martyrs and drama queens!

personally, this would give me the ick and I’d be gone 🤷🏽‍♀️

@pictoosh yep good point however OP’s bf’s situation depends on what the illness is that’s causing the pain. If it’s something serious he would be too ill to have the capacity to make that decision. Therefore she has to step up. However she hasn’t shared that detail has she. Maybe he’s not enjoying the trip and is using it as an excuse to not interact with her.

On the other hand if he’s not seriously ill and it transpires he’s a hypochondriac, I’m afraid I would be out of there asap 😉😂

My first post asked what his condition actually is...that detail being useful for context.

I think you’ve done amazingly to still be sympathetic after so much complaining.

Admittedly I have no patience for ‘poorly’ people - people who are ill I have all the sympathy in the world for but people who just complain about it constantly and (I know you didn’t say he’s done this but in my head I’m imagining this) people who put on a poorly voice, I just need to distance myself from.

Leave him to his poorliness and go and do something you enjoy. Then when he’s better, tell him how much of a dick he was.

Why isn’t he doing anything about this pain?

If its toothache I would let it go.

Pain makes you act unlike yourself, especially if you are on holiday and were looking forward to it. Unless he made you feel threatened or anything I would just let it go personally given the circumstances.

Why does the takeaway have to be small?

If he’s in agony, he’s presumably unlikely to be that hungry? Though this brings us back to why he’s apparently not sought any treatment for whatever this pain is during the trip.

What a ridiculous thing to say. Sometimes Adults do not recognise that they need to go to A&E. Nobody on here knows what is wrong with him. He could have a medical condition for all anybody knows.